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Abantu bavame ukuxhuma ukukhulelwa okungahleliwe nalabo abangazange bahambe phansi kodwa bebhekene nokukhulelwa okungahlelelwe kuyinkinga futhi ebhekene nemibhangqwana eshadile.
Ukusabela kokuqala ngemuva kokuzwa izindaba zokukhulelwa okungahlelelwe emshadweni, kungenzeka kube yinhlanganisela yokwethuka nokukhathazeka okulandelwa umbuzo othi, "Kufanele senzeni?"
Impendulo yalowo mbuzo 'kanjani ukuphatha ukukhulelwa okungahleliwe?' enemininingwane encike esimweni sakho.
Ngeke kube nokushoda kwe- izeluleko zokukhulelwa ezingalindelekile noma iseluleko sokukhulelwa esingafuneki, kepha udinga ukukala izinketho zakho bese unamathela kulabo abakusiza kakhulu ekubhekaneni nokukhulelwa okungahlelelwe.
Ukuletha ingane emhlabeni akuyona into izithandani ezifuna ukubhekana nayo ngokuzuma kepha uma kwenzeka, akukho okunye ngaphandle kokufunda ukuthi ungabhekana kanjani nokukhulelwa okungafunwa ngendlela engcono kakhulu.
Umlingani wakho ukhona nawe
Into yokuqala okufanele uyikhumbule yokuthi ungabhekana kanjani nokukhulelwa okungalindelekile ukuthi awuwedwa. Unenhlanhla yokuba nomlingani omangalisayo ozoba khona lapho zonke izindlela zendlela.
Ukwazi nje ukuthi kukhona umuntu ohlanganyela kuyo yonke inqubekelaphambili yokwethuka nokukhathazeka kwenza ingqondo ikhululeke. Ukusekelwa kuyikho konke.
Ngalesi sigaba sokuqala se- ukubhekana nokukhulelwa okungalindelekile khumbula ukuthi kulungile ukuzizwa nganoma iyiphi indlela ozizwa ngayo.
Noma ngabe wethukile engqondweni yakho, wahlengezela izinyembezi, noma ucindezelekile noma uthukuthele, unelungelo laleyo mizwa kanjalo nowakwakho.
Ukuzifihla kuzolimaza isimo ekugcineni. Kwabaningi, lapho kuvezwa leyo mizwa yokuqala, iqiniso lokuthi izindaba azilindelekile kungenzeka libe nomthelela omkhulu kulokho okuphuma emilonyeni yabo.
Qiniseka ukuthi awukhiphi ukwahlulela kulokho okushiwo umlingani wakho kulesi sigaba ngoba njengoba sonke sazi; abanye basabela kangcono kokungalindelekile kunabanye.
Inhloso yakho enkulu ukuqala ngayo ukugcina lokho kubumbana ngoba uzodinga oshade naye kulo lonke uhambo lokukhulelwa okungahleliwe, futhi bazokudinga.
"Ungazizwa ngaleyo ndlela" impendulo enhle kakhulu. Ithi, "ngilapha" ngenkathi ngivumela ukukhishwa kwaleyo mizwa yokuqala.
Yiba nochungechunge lwezingxoxo ukuze wakhe uhlelo
Ukubhekana nokukhulelwa okungafunwa emshadweni kudinga okungaphezulu kokukodwa kokuhlala phansi kwengxoxo. Ngemuva kokuthi wena noshade naye senizehlisile futhi nazamukela izindaba, yiba nochungechunge lwezingxoxo ngezinyathelo ezilandelayo.
Elula, “Sthandwa, sizokwenzenjani?” uzothola ibhola ligingqika. Ngokuya ngesimo sakho, izinto ezahlukahlukene zingenza ukukhulelwa okungafuneki kube nzima kakhulu.
Wena noshade naye ningaba nezingane ekhaya futhi anikwazi ukuqonda umcabango wokondla enye ingane ingasaphathwa eyokunakekela nokunakekela okudingekayo.
Okunye ukukhathazeka okungenzeka kufaka phakathi ukungakwazi ukondla ingane ngokwezezimali noma ukungabi nendawo yokuhlala, ukubala ezimbalwa.
Ukukhathazeka okukhulu ngokuthi ungabhekana kanjani nokukhulelwa okungafuneki kufanele kubhekwane nakho kuqala. Ukwenza lokho ngempumelelo futhi ube nochungechunge lwezingxoxo ezikhiqizayo, dala indawo ephephile yalezi zingxoxo.
Ngaphambi kokuqhubekela phambili nengxoxo umuntu kufanele athi, “Ngiyazi ukuthi kuningi esibhekene nakho njengamanje.
Masivumelene ukuthi sikhulume ngokukhululeka nangokwethembeka ngokuthi izingqondo zethu zikuphi ngalesi sikhathi ukuze size nohlelo olusebenzela umndeni wethu. Sinezingqinamba ezingaphambili kodwa sizobhekana nazo ngokubambisana. ”
Ukusuka lapho, zombili izinhlangothi zingabelana ngalokho okusezingqondweni zazo, zithululelane isifuba bese ziyaqhubeka zinqume ukuthi zizokwenzenjani ngokulandelayo.
Kwabaningi lokhu kungenzeka kubandakanye ukonga imali, ukuphendukela emndenini ukuze uthole usizo nokubhekana nenkinga yesikhala ekhaya. Khumbula ukuthi ikhona njalo indlela.
Kuya ngokuthi ikhaya liphethwe kanjani, oyedwa noma bobabili abashadile bangathola omunye umsebenzi noma basebenze amahora angeziwe.
Uma oshade naye ehlala ekhaya angaqala ibhizinisi elincane lasekhaya ukuze athole imali eyengeziwe, aqashe abagcini bezingane (yilokho okwenzelwe umndeni), futhi afunde ukusebenzisa isikhala ekhaya ngempumelelo enkulu uma ukuhamba kungeyona inketho.
Njengoba uhlelo luqala ukukhula, khumbula ukuthi ngenxa yokuthi okuthile kunzima akusho ukuthi kubi. Izipho ezinhle kakhulu azifiki emaphaketheni aheha kangako.
Lapho ukhuluma kakhulu ngakho ukubhekana nokukhulelwa okungafuneki, uzozizwa kangcono. Ukwesaba kuvame ukuhlala isikhashana futhi injabulo isheshe ibe khona.
Ukukhuluma ngokukhulelwa kuvumela abashadile ukuthi bashintshe kusuka ekungakholweni baye ekwamukelweni. Yize abaningi bekwazi ukwenza ushintsho ngokushesha okukhulu, abanye abakwazi.
Uma izimpendulo ezingezinhle ezingokomzwelo zihlala isikhathi eside, qala ukuphazamisa impilo yansuku zonke, noma oyedwa / bobabili abalingane abavaliwe banganqikazi ukufuna usizo lochwepheshe. Lokhu kungaba ngesimo sokwelulekwa noma ukwelashwa.
Linganisa izidingo
Ngemuva kokukhuluma nokwenza ushintsho olubalulekile kusuka kokungakholelwa nokwethuka kuya ekwamukelweni, hlola izidingo ezisheshayo. Okokuqala kulolo hlu ukubona udokotela.
Ukuze kugcinwe umama nomntwana bephilile, ukuvakashelwa njalo kuyadingeka ukuqinisekisa ukuthi konke kuhamba kahle. Ngemuva kokuthola ukukhulelwa okungalindelekile, imibhangqwana eshadile kufanele izame ukuya kulama-aphoyintimenti ndawonye.
Akukona nje kuphela ukuthi ama-aphoyintimenti agcina indoda nomkayo benolwazi kodwa futhi enza isimo sibe ngokoqobo ngokwengeziwe. Yize ukuqokwa kodokotela kubalulekile, imibhangqwana ivame ukuzithola ijabulela lesi sikhathi ndawonye.
Umyeni nenkosikazi baqala ukuxoxa ngokuhamba lapho nangemuva, baxoxe egumbini lokulinda, mhlawumbe bahlanganyele ukuhleka okumbalwa futhi babe nethuba lokujabula ngengane esendleleni.
Lapho nje isici sezempilo sokukhulelwa Kunakekelwa esinye isidingo ngokushesha ukugcina ubuhlobo bunempilo. Lesi yisikhathi sokukhulisa ubudlelwano.
Cabanga ngomshado, nazise omunye nomunye, futhi ungahlali ukhulelwe ngengozi ebuchosheni. Suka lapho. Konke kuzolunga. Esikhundleni salokho, gxila ekushadweni.
Isibonelo, ngemuva kokuya lapho kubekiwe khona, hamba uye endaweni oyidlalayo oyithandayo ukuze ube nesidlo sasemini sothando nesokuzenzakalela, hlela izinsuku ngoba nje, futhi wandise uthando (gcina ucansi lokukhulelwa luphephile).
Ukushintsha ukucindezeleka nokukhathazeka kube kumnandi nothando kuzoshintsha imibono ibe ngcono. Njengoba ubona, ukukhulelwa okungahleliwe emshadweni akudingeki kube yinto embi.
Izimanga zokuphila yizo ozenzayo. Lapho usuba nezingxoxo mayelana nokukhulelwa, yenza uhlelo lokusebenza, bese uhlola izidingo. Imibono ingashintsha futhi ekugcineni, injabulo izotholakala.