Cishe kungu-Eva Wonyaka Omusha, futhi lokho kusho izigqoko zephathi, iziphuzo ezi-fizzy nokuqabula phakathi kwamabili.Kusho nokuthi izingcaphuno ezikhuthazayo ngo-Eva Wonyaka Omusha zigcwele. Kungani ungathathi lezi zingcaphuno ezikhuthazayo uzifake enhliziyweni futhi wenze ukuhlakanipha kwabo kube yingxenye yobudlelwano bakho ngonyaka ozayo?
“Kubhale enhliziyweni yakho ukuthi zonke izinsuku usuku oluhamba phambili onyakeni” -Ralph Waldo Emerson
Imibhangqwana efuna okuhle ezimpilweni zayo, ebudlelwaneni bayo, nakomunye nomunye, ijabule kakhulu kunaleyo egxila kokubi. Bonke ubudlelwano buza nezinselelo zabo. Ngokufuna okuhle, usiza ukunciphisa okubi futhi ulethe amandla amahle empilweni yakho ndawonye. Uma ubheka okuhle uzokuthola okuningi. Kungumjikelezo omuhle owakha imikhuba enempilo ebudlelwaneni bakho futhi kukusize wazisane. Wena nomlingani wakho nizocasulana ngezikhathi ezithile. Kungokwemvelo. Mhlawumbe ikhaya lakho alikho lokho obungathanda libe yikho, noma izimali zakho azikho esimweni esihle kakhulu. Noma yini eyenzekayo, ungabhekana nezinkinga zangempela ebudlelwaneni bakho ngenkathi ugcina isimo sengqondo esihle futhi ubheka okuhle kunokubi.
“Unyaka omusha umi phambi kwethu, njengesahluko encwadini, ulindele ukubhalwa. Singasiza ukubhala leyo ndaba ngokuzibekela imigomo. ” -Melody Beattie
Izinqumo zonyaka omusha akuzona ezabantu ngabanye kuphela - zinike isikhathi sokwenza izinqumo ndawonye njengendoda nomfazi, futhi. Ukwenza izinqumo zonyaka omusha ndawonye kuyindlela enhle yokubheka ukuthi yini enhle ebudlelwaneni bakho nokuthola izindlela ezinhle nezisebenzayo zokusebenzisa ushintsho futhi. Chitha isikhathi esithile ngo-Eva Wonyaka Omusha nenza izinqumo ndawonye. Mhlawumbe nifuna ukuchitha isikhathi esiningi ndawonye, ukuthatha uhambo, ukuqala umsebenzi wokuzilibazisa omusha, ukusebenzisa isabelomali esisha sasekhaya, noma ukufunda ukuxhumana kangcono. Noma yini oyinqumayo, zinike isikhathi unyaka wonke ukungena ukuze ubone ukuthi izinhloso zobudlelwano bakho ziqhubeka kanjani.
“Ngiyethemba ukuthi kulo nyaka ozayo, uyawenza amaphutha. Ngoba uma wenza amaphutha, kusho ukuthi wenza izinto ezintsha ”-Neil Gaiman
Linda, ngabe sithi kufanele wenze amaphutha ebudlelwaneni bakho? Hhayi kahle. Kodwa amaphutha awanakugwenywa. Wena nomlingani wakho nobabili ningabantu; nobabili niyoba nezinsuku ezinhle nezinsuku ezimbi, ningene esimweni esingesihle, noma nenze amaphutha ekwahluleleni. Indlela oziphatha ngayo lezo zikhathi izokwenza umehluko ebudlelwaneni bakho. Ingabe usabela kumuzwa womlingani wakho ngokubhuqa? Ingabe uyathukuthela futhi ubathethise noma ubacindezele uma benza iphutha? Uma bengacabangi, ingabe usabela sengathi bakwenze ngamabomu? Noma uthatha isikhashana ukuba nozwela futhi uqonde ukuthi benza konke okusemandleni abo? Phathanani ngomusa nokuthethelelana, futhi nizame ukungagcini amagqubu noma ukugcina amaphuzu. Ubudlelwano bakho buzoba ngcono kakhulu ngabo.
“Impumelelo nenjabulo yakho ilele kuwe. Zimisele ukuhlala ujabulile. ” -UHelen Keller
Ingxenye enkulu yenjabulo ebudlelwaneni ukusebenzisana - kepha kukhona umsebenzi ngamunye othintekayo, nawo. Kulula kakhulu ukwenza umlingani wakho abhekane nenjabulo yakho, futhi ubathukuthelele uma bengaphili ngokuvumelana nalokho okulindelwe. Kepha nali iqiniso: Nguwe wedwa onomthwalo wenjabulo yakho. Kusho ukuthini lokho ngokobudlelwano bakho? Kusho ukuthi nobabili nizinika isikhathi sokwenza izinto ezinondlayo engqondweni nasemzimbeni. Thatha isikhathi sezinto ozithandayo ozithandayo, futhi nisekelane ekwenzeni isikhathi salokho. Chitha isikhathi nabangane abahle noma amalungu omndeni akuthanda ngokweqiniso futhi akusekele. Nakekela kahle impilo yakho engokomzwelo. Uma uzinakekela kahle, unganikeza umlingani wakho okungcono kakhulu kunabanye.
"Isinqumo sethu sonyaka omusha masibe yilesi: Sizobe sisekela omunye nomunye" -UGoran Persson
Kulula kakhulu ukusindwa ngumsebenzi, ukuzibophezela emndenini nakwezenhlalo bese uqala ukuthatha kancane umlingani wakho. Ngemuva kwakho konke, bakhona nsuku zonke. Kodwa ukuthatha umlingani wakho kalula kubangela intukuthelo futhi kulimaza ubuhlobo bakho. Ukhethe ukwabelana ngempilo yakho - lokho kusho ukuthi umlingani wakho kufanele abekwe phambili empilweni yakho, hhayi ukucabanga ngemuva. Zibophezele ekubeni ngumsekeli wokuqina womunye nomunye futhi ube ngumculi we-cheerleader. Thatha isikhathi sokuxhumana ngempela nomlingani wakho futhi uthole ukuthi kwenzekani ngabo, ukuthi yini abakhathazayo ngayo, nokuthi ayini amaphupho abo. Isikhathi sekhwalithi yokukhuluma, ukuxhuma, nokuphumula ngaphandle kwengcindezi noma iziphazamiso kuzoqinisa ubudlelwano bakho.
Izingcaphuno Zonyaka Omusha ziwumthombo omuhle wokugqugquzela imibhangqwana. Zibophezele ekuthatheni la mazwi amnandi enhliziyweni yakho futhi ubuke ubudlelwane bakho buqala ngamandla buya ngamandla. Futhi uma udinga isikhumbuzi ngamafuphi, khumbula la mazwi ahlakaniphile avela kuBenjamin Franklin:
"Yilwa nemikhuba yakho emibi, ube nokuthula nomakhelwane bakho, futhi unyaka ngamunye omusha mawukutholele indoda (noma owesifazane, uxolo Ben) ongcono."