-Delile
Yonke imibhangqwana ilwa ngesikhathi esithile, ayinakugwenywa. Kungemuva kwempi okubaluleke kakhulu. Ezinye izingxabano zingaphuma ekulawuleni futhi zenze noma zibuqede ubudlelwano.Nanka amafilimu amane asuselwa ekutheni imibhangqwana ixabana kanjani nokuthi umphumela walezi zimpi ubuthinta kanjani ubudlelwano.
Ngokwe-American Psychology Association, kunezici eziningana ezakha ubudlelwano obuhle nobunempilo. Imibhangqwana eshadile ilwa nesikhathi esezingeni, ezezimali, imisebenzi yasendlini, futhi kwesinye isikhathi ukungathembeki kuyabandakanyeka. Kungaba buhlungu kakhulu futhi kwesinye isikhathi abantu bangahle bangazi ukuthi balindeleni lapho kuqala ingxabano. Izici zobudlelwano obungcono zifaka phakathi ukulwa okulungile, ukuxhumana ukuze sazane, ukuzibeka engcupheni, nokugcwalisana kaningi. Ngihlanganise uhlu lwama-movie akhombisa ukuthi yini okungafanele uyenze uma ufuna ubudlelwane obuphumelelayo. Bona ukuthi wena noshade naye niyakwazi yini ukuzwana nalawa ma-movie.
Isifungo
UPaige noLeo bathandana kakhulu. Kuze kube yilapho ingozi yemoto ebuhlungu ishiya uPaige ngaphandle kwememori yakhe. U-Leo uyamsiza azame ukukhumbula kepha kunzima. UPaige usesitudiyo sakhe lapho uLeo engena khona ezozama ukukhuluma naye futhi amtshele ukuthi ubewuthanda kangakanani umsebenzi wakhe wobuciko. Uthi ubejwayele ukuwudlalela phezulu umculo wakhe ukuze ubuciko bakhe bugeleze. Uyammemeza ukuthi akame! Cisha umculo ngiphathwa yikhanda! ” Lesi bekuyisimo esibi kakhulu.
Unezithandani ezithandana ngokujulile futhi nasebudlelwaneni, sifuna nje ukubalungisela izinkinga zabalingani bethu. Lesi sibonelo yisibonelo esihle sokulungisa izinkinga zomunye umuntu lapho omunye umuntu efuna ukuthola izinto yedwa. Kulungile ukuphakamisa izinto koshade naye ngendlela enothando kepha akulungile ukudinwa lapho izinto zingahambi njengoba ubuhlelile.
I-Blue Valentine
UDean noCindy bayathandana futhi bayashada kodwa kungekudala umshado wabo uqala ukuhlukana. UDean uxabana noSindi emsebenzini wakhe, okwenza uSindy axoshwe. UDean nokuntula kwakhe izifiso futhi uCindy efuna okwengeziwe empilweni kuyawucindezela umshado wabo. Baqala ukukhula ngokuhlukana. Lesi yisibonelo esihle semibhangqwana efuna izinto ezahlukene ngakho kuba nzima ukuxhumana. Ukwehluleka ukuxhumana kungalimaza ubudlelwano ngoba buyisisekelo sanoma yibuphi ubuhlobo phakathi kwabo futhi ubudlelwano buba yingozi. Uma kungekho ukuxhumana ebudlelwaneni, abukho ubuhlobo. Ubudlelwano bususelwa ezicini eziningi kubandakanya ukuxhumana.
Ukwehlukana
Ngezinye izikhathi singakhululeka nabalingani bethu kanye nemikhuba yethu, okwenza kube lula ukuthathelana phansi. UBrooke noGary umbhangqwana osesiphambanweni ebuhlotsheni babo, bayahlukana balwe ngendondo yabo abayabelana ndawonye. Ukuhlukana kwabo kungenxa yokuthi uBrooke akazizwa ethandwa uGary. Uzwa ukuthi konke okushiwo nguBrooke kungukusabela ngokweqile. Abantu ababili ebudlelwaneni badinga ukuzwa. Lesi yisibonelo esihle sokuxhumana okungalungile nokuzizwa unganakwa. Okufanele ukwenze esikhundleni sokuhlala phansi nikhulume ngempela ngalokho okudingayo komunye nomunye, ungacabangi ukuthi bayazi nje.
Okungenamlilo
UCaleb noCatherine bayisibonelo sokungalaleli ngokweqiniso noma ukwenza isikhathi somunye umuntu. UCatherine ubona sengathi uCaleb uzikhathalela yena kuphela futhi unomuzwa wokuthi uCatherine akaze amlalele noma ahlangabezane nezidingo zakhe. Balwa njalo futhi bayadilizana. Ekugcineni uyabona ukuthi angahle alahlekelwe ngumkakhe ngakho-ke ngosizo lukayise uthola izindlela zokuba lapho ukuze abe khona kumkakhe futhi ambonise ukuthi bangaba yiqembu njengamadoda nabafazi okufanele babe njalo.
Imicabango Yokugcina
Kunezici eziningi okufanele uzicabangele ubudlelwano obungcono. Okufanayo wonke lawa ma-movie ukuthi awanabo ubudlelwano obuhle okufanele bube nabo. Njengokuxhumana okuhle, isikhathi sekhwalithi, ukulwa okulungile nokuthatha izingozi ndawonye. Abukho ubudlelwano obulungile kepha ukusebenzela amaphuzu athile abalulekile kuzokusiza wena noshade naye ukuba niqine ebudlelwaneni.