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- 1. Yamukela umlingani wakho njengoba enjalo, kubo bonke ubuntu babo obubabazekayo
- 2. Khumbula ukuthi nasebenzisana kanjani ngonyaka wokuqala nithandana
- 3. Thatha isikhathi isonto ngalinye ukuze ube nengxoxo yangempela
- 4. Gcina izinto zimnandi
- 5. Gcina ucansi ku-radar yakho
- 6. Fight fair
- 7. Yithi uxolo
- 8. Izimpawu ezincane zothando zivuna imivuzo emikhulu
- 9. Abukho ubudlelwano obunothando no-100% ngaso sonke isikhathi
- 10. Thanda umlingani wakho, uzithande nawe
Ukuqinisekisa ukuthi ubudlelwano bakho buhlala bukhulu kusho ukuthi usebenza ngokugcina izinto zijabule, ziphilile futhi zivuselela. Imibhangqwana engawunaki umsebenzi odingekayo ukuze kugcinwe inhlansi nentshisekelo obekulula kangaka ngonyaka wokuqala kungabeka ubudlelwano babo engcupheni ngokuwela esimisweni. Ungakuvumeli lokho kwenzeke ebuhlotsheni bakho!
Ngakho-ke, yiziphi izinto eziyishumi eziphezulu ezibaluleke kakhulu ebudlelwaneni okudingeka uzinake ukuze ubudlelwano bakho buhlale busha, buheha futhi buqhakazile?
1. Yamukela umlingani wakho njengoba enjalo, kubo bonke ubuntu babo obubabazekayo
Kunesikhathi ebuhlotsheni bonke lapho wonke ama-quirks owathole emuhle futhi ethandeka phakathi nonyaka wakho wokuqala wokuqomisana ecasulayo. Indlela abasula ngayo umphimbo wabo noma okumele ibhotela labo lisabalale “kanjalo” esiqeshini sabo, noma ukuthi kumele bagqoke kanjani ohlangothini, bangalokothi baqonde ngqo kwisaladi labo.
Ukwamukelwa kwalezi zinto kubalulekile ebudlelwaneni besikhathi eside. Akekho ophelele, kodwa ngethemba ukuthi zonke izinto ezinhle ngomlingani wakho zidlula okungamangalisi kangako, ngaphandle kwalokho ubungeke ube nazo, akunjalo?
Ngakho-ke lapho umlingani wakho eqala ukukukhombisa ukuthi bangabantu abanjani, qhubeka ubathande ngaphandle kwemibandela.
2. Khumbula ukuthi nasebenzisana kanjani ngonyaka wokuqala nithandana
Thatha isifundo kulokho bese ufaka ezinye zalezo zimilo zokukhohlisa ekusebenzisaneni kwakho nomlingani wakho. Uma manje usuthambekele ekujulukeleni izithukuthuku nesikibha esidala, esinamabala senyuvesi ngomzuzu nje ofika ekhaya uvela emsebenzini, cabanga kabili ngalokho.
Impela, ikhululekile. Kepha bekungeke yini kube kuhle ukuthi umlingani wakho abuyele ekhaya kulowo owawunaye ezinyangeni zokuqala zobudlelwano?
Ingubo ethophayo, izimonyo ezinhle, i-spritz yamafutha athandekayo? Asisho ukuthi kufanele ube yiStepford Wife, kepha ukuzincisha okuncane kuzokukwenza uzizwe ungcono ngawe futhi kukhombise umlingani wakho ukuthi uyakukhathalela ukuthi ukubheka kanjani nawe.
Ugcine nini ukuya kusihlwa esikhethekile esinjengosuku? Bhuka indawo yokudlela enhle, gqoka ingubo encane emnyama, bese uhlangana nomlingani wakho lapho, njengalapho niqala ukuhlangana.
3. Thatha isikhathi isonto ngalinye ukuze ube nengxoxo yangempela
Impela, nobabili niyakhuluma ngosuku lwenu lapho nibonana njalo kusihlwa. Impendulo imvamisa ithi "Konke bekuhamba kahle." Lokho akusizi ukukuxhuma ezingeni elijulile, akunjalo?
Esinye sezihluthulelo zokugcina ubudlelwano bukhulu ingxoxo enhle, uhlobo lapho nishintshana khona ngemibono, noma niphinde nenze umhlaba, noma nilalele kuphela imibono eyahlukene yemibono, nivume enye indlela yokubona nokuqonda.
Ukuba nezingxoxo ezizuzisayo — ngezombusazwe, izehlakalo zamanje, noma nje incwadi oyifundayo — kuzoqinisa isibopho sakho futhi kukukhumbuze ukuthi umlingani wakho uthakazelisa futhi uhlakaniphe kangakanani.
4. Gcina izinto zimnandi
Asikhulumi ngama-antics asekamelweni lapha. (Sizofika kulabo kungekudala!). Sikhuluma ngazo zonke izinto ezincane ongazenza ukugcina izinto zithandeka (futhi uyeke ukwenza izinto ezingahlanzekile) ebudlelwaneni.
Thatha ithiphu kubafazi baseFrance, abangaze bavumele umlingani wabo ababone bexubha amazinyo abo. Izinto ezingathandeki ezenziwa imibhangqwana ngoba “isidlulile isikhathi sezivivinyo ', njengokuhambisa igesi obala, noma ukusika izinzipho zazo ngenkathi zibuka i-TV? Unsexy.
Kulungile ngokuphelele futhi empeleni kuhle ebudlelwaneni bakho ukuthi wenze izinto ezithile ngasese.
5. Gcina ucansi ku-radar yakho
Uma ucansi luyancipha noma lungasekho, zibuze ukuthi kungani? Kungaba nesizathu esisemthethweni ngokuphelele sokungabikho kokwenza uthando.
Kepha uma singekho isizathu esithile sokuthi kungani sekuyiminyaka kusukela nina nobabili nenza i-boogie evundlile, naka. Imibhangqwana ejabulayo ibika ukuthi yenza ucansi lube yinto ephambili. Ngisho noma omunye noma omunye engekho esimeni semizwa, basakwenza ukuthi bakwange futhi bathinte — futhi kuvame ukuholela ekwenziweni kothando.
Ukuxhumana okusondele okwenziwa nguthando kubalulekile empilweni yobuhlobo bakho ngakho ungahambi isikhathi eside ngaphandle kwakho. Uma kufanele uhlele ucansi ekhalendeni, makube njalo.
6. Fight fair
Imibhangqwana emikhulu iyalwa, kepha ilwa ngokulingana. Kusho ukuthini lokho? Kusho ukuthi banikeza isikhathi somoya kubo bobabili amaqembu, okuvumela umuntu ngamunye ukuthi aveze imibono nemibono yakhe. Abaphazamisi, futhi balalela ngokucophelela, bakhombisa lokhu ngokunqekuzisa ikhanda noma bethi ‘Ngiyakuzwa okushoyo’. Inhloso yabo ukuthola ukuvumelana noma isisombululo esivumelanayo, esamukelekayo kuzo zombili izinhlangothi.
Inhloso yabo akukhona ukujivaza omunye umuntu, noma ukuletha izikhalazo ezedlule, noma ukukhuluma ngokungabahloniphi. Futhi ungenzi iphutha lokucabanga ukuthi izimpi azikho ebudlelwaneni obukhulu.
Uma ungalokothi ulwe, kusobala ukuthi awukhulumisani ngokwanele.
7. Yithi uxolo
Uyazi ukuthi amandla wamagama amabili athi “ngiyaxolisa” angenye yezinto ezelapha kakhulu emhlabeni? Yiba nesandla ngokuphindaphindayo kokuthi “ngiyaxolisa”. Imvamisa yilokho okudingayo ukunqanda impikiswano evuthayo ukuthi ingakhuli. Linamandla futhi okusondeza ndawonye.
Ungayilandeli ngo “kodwa .....” ngiyaxolisa kwanele, konke kukodwa.
8. Izimpawu ezincane zothando zivuna imivuzo emikhulu
Noma ngabe benindawonye iminyaka engama-25, amathokheni amancane wokubonga kwakho kumlingani wakho abalulekile.
Ezinye izimbali, amaswidi owathandayo, isongo elihle ozibone emakethe yoMlimi ... yonke le minikelo itshela umlingani wakho ukuthi babesengqondweni yakho ngaleso sikhathi futhi uyabonga ngokuba khona kwakho empilweni yakho.
9. Abukho ubudlelwano obunothando no-100% ngaso sonke isikhathi
Kubalulekile ukuba namaqiniso ngama-ebbs nokugeleza ebudlelwaneni futhi ungagxumi ukuthumela isikhathi sokuqala (noma se-50th) okuso kwesinye sezikhathi eziphansi. Kulapha lapho kwenziwa umsebenzi wangempela wokuqinisa uthando lwakho.
10. Thanda umlingani wakho, uzithande nawe
Ubudlelwano obuhle nobunempilo benziwa ngabantu ababili abalungile nabanempilo. Ungazisuli ukwamukela ubudlelwano, noma buzohluleka.
Zijwayeze ukuzinakekela ukuze ubekhona ngokuphelele kumlingani wakho, engqondweni, emzimbeni nomoya.
Uzibuza, yiziphi izinto eziyishumi eziphezulu ezibaluleke kakhulu ebudlelwaneni? Kulungile! Uyitholile impendulo yakho.