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- Athini amaqiniso ngabo
- Ungabuphatha kanjani ubudlelwano nenkosikazi eyi-narcissist
- Ukuphawula okuzikhukhumezayo
- Qaphela ukusabela okweqile
- Ukungabi nozwela
- Thola ubuthakathaka babo
Ukuthanda umfazi we-narcissist kungaba nzima kakhulu. Kufanele ulawule intukuthelo yakho futhi noma ngabe unaka kangakanani umlingani wakho kungazizwa sengathi uphoqelekile ukubazungeza ukuze ugcine lokho kumamatheka ebusweni babo.
Athini amaqiniso ngabo
I-Narcissism, noma ngokunembile, i-Narcissistic Personality Disorder yisimo sengqondo esisabalalisa usuku namuhla. Ngokuya ngocwaningo, ngaphezu kwe-6% yabantu bane-NPD. Ngokuya ngocwaningo, isilinganiso sabesilisa nabesifazane abasebenzisa ama-narcissist cishe amaphesenti ayi-7 kwabesilisa namaphesenti angu-4.8 kwabesifazane.
AbakwaNarcissist babelana ngezici ezithile ezijwayelekile, kodwa-ke, kuyabonakala ukuthi abakwa-narcissists besifazane, uma bengajabule ebudlelwaneni, bakhetha ukuzitholela umlingani ongcono kanti umlingisi wesilisa kaningi uzohlala ebudlelwaneni futhi akhiphe intukuthelo yakhe kumlingani wakhe.
Ungabuphatha kanjani ubudlelwano nenkosikazi eyi-narcissist
Uma unenkosikazi ene-narcissism, kungazizwa sengathi kufanele uhlanganise uthando namasu. Abaningi bathi bazithola kufanele baqaphele zonke izinto ezibakhathazayo ukuze bakwazi ukulawula ukuphendula komlingani wabo.
Nazi izindlela zokuphatha umfazi othanda ukuhlanekezela, lapho ungafuni ukona ubudlelwano
Ukuphawula okuzikhukhumezayo
Ushade nowesifazane oyisidlwangudlwangu? Ukushada narcissist kuza nenqwaba yezinselelo. Abanye abafazi abathanda izidakamizwa bathambekele ekukhulumeni ngokweqile ngabo.
Uma unomlingani wakho ongumqaphi, bangase bazame ukuzibonakalisa bengcono kunawe phambi kwabanye.
Yize lokhu kungalimaza futhi ungathola ukuzivikela okuthile, awudingi ukwehlisa leso silinganiso esiphansi ukuze uveze ukuthi unkosikazi wakho oyiphutha le-narcissist. Esikhundleni salokho, ukwenza izinto zibe ngcono, isisombululo esihle kakhulu ukuhamba noma ukushintsha isihloko.
Ngoba, kholwa noma ungakukholwa, iningi labantu embuthanweni wakho cishe liyazi ulaka lomlingani wakho kanye nokuthambekela kobudlwangudlwangu.
Qaphela ukusabela okweqile
Uzibuza ukuthi uzosebenzisana kanjani nonkosikazi oyisidakamizwa? Indlela engcono kakhulu yokubhekana nomuntu othanda izidakamizwa, lapho ushade nomunye, ukufunda nokubuka ubuntu balowo oshade naye bese uzama ukwakha ukuxhumana okunempilo naye mayelana nokuthi ukhombisa nini ukuthambekela kokuthola izixazululo eziphilile.
Inkosikazi eyi-narcissist ingahle izwele kakhulu ekugxekweni futhi igxeke abanye ngendlela emangalisayo.
Bangabonakala benokuzethemba okuphezulu, kepha ukuzikhukhumeza kwabo kuyinkomba yokuthi ukuzethemba kwabo kubuthaka ngempela. Ngakho-ke, zama ukungamgxeki oshade naye futhi ukhulume imicabango yakho ngothando nangothando.
Kwesinye isikhathi ukumodela ukuxhumana okufanele kungasiza umlingani we-narcissistic athole izindlela ezintsha zokuxhumana nawe lapho bekhungathekile.
Kaningi kungaba nzima ukwazi ukuthi ungasingatha kanjani ibhalansi enzima yokungaboni ngaso linye nomuntu othanda izinto zobudlova. Ngokuhamba kwesikhathi, ungaqala ukubona amaphethini abo entukuthelo noma ukukhungatheka futhi ungaqala ukwakha umqondo wokuthi isikhathi esifanele sokuba nezingxoxo zempendulo eyakhayo sinini, nokuthi kungesona isikhathi esihle sokwenza lokho.
Uma umlingani wakho ethambekele ekuphendukeni ngokweqile noma kunini lapho kunengxabano, kungaba ngcono ukufuna ukwesekwa kuchwepheshe oqeqeshiwe wezempilo yengqondo noma umeluleki wemibhangqwana ongakusiza nobabili nifunde ukuxhumana kangcono ukunciphisa lokhu kuqhuma kwentukuthelo.
Ukungabi nozwela
Umlingani ongumlingisi we-narcissist angaba nomuzwa ongemuhle wozwela.
Unkosikazi oyisidlwangudlwangu angakwazi ukukhomba imizwa yakho yangempela. Ungazizwa sengathi ukhuluma ngokukhathazeka noma ukukhathazeka kwakho, kepha kungenzeka bangaboni ubuso bakho obucasukile noma amashiya aphakeme ngokwanele ukwenza uxhumano olukhathazayo.
Ngakho-ke, lapho uhlangabezana nesimo esinjalo, kufanele ungene phambili ukhulume ngaso, ukhulume imizwa yakho ngendlela ezolile futhi elawulwayo.
Thola ubuthakathaka babo
Indlela enhle yokuphatha izikhathi ezinzima nomlingani we-narcissist ukuthola ukuthi yini ebalulekile kubo; lapho uthola izinto ezibaluleke kakhulu kubo, maningi amathuba okuthi uthole izindlela zokuxhumana nabo, ngisho nangezikhathi lapho bebonakala bethukuthele noma becasukile ngokungenangqondo.
Isibonelo, ukwesaba okuvamile kwama-narcissists akukhona ukuba sesikhundleni samandla.
Lokhu akusho nokho, njengoba umuntu othanda ukucasula kaningi engalindelekile futhi angahle angathonywa umzamo wakho wokubenza bagxile entweni ocabanga ukuthi ibaluleke kakhulu kubo.
Ukusinda ngokushada nonkosikazi oyisidakwa kungafana ne-roller coaster yasendle edlula emizileni ongakaze uyivakashele futhi ikwenze uzizwe izinto ongakaze uzicabange ngaphambili.
Ukushada nowesifazane othanda izinto zobudlabha akuhambi kahle ngaso sonke isikhathi. Lapho uthatha isinqumo sokuzulazula ebudlelwaneni ne-narcissist, kubalulekile ukwenza uthando ihange lakho.
Abaningi bangakhetha ukwehlukanisa nonkosikazi noma indoda eyi-narcissist, kepha bambalwa kuphela abanamandla okubhekana nokwehla nokwenyuka okubandakanyekile kulezi zinhlobo zobudlelwano nokuchitha impilo emshadweni ejabulisayo.
Uma umthanda ngempela umlingani wakho, kuzobaluleka ukuguquguquka, unikeze amathuba, futhi lapho konke okunye kwehluleka, zama ukufuna uchwepheshe ongakusiza unqume ukuthi ubudlelwano bakho bunempilo yini nobabili.