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- Ungawuvimba kanjani umshado wakho ukuthi ungakucindezeli
- Yamukelani futhi niqondane
- Phila okwamanje
- Phefumula noma kunini lapho udinga khona
- Thola ihange lakho
Kulabo bantu abahlushwa ukukhathazeka, unyaka wokuqala womshado ungaba mnandi kakhulu.
Ngisho nakubantu abangajwayele ukuzizwa bekhathazekile, bangakuthola kuyimizuzwana ngaphambi kokuthi bathi “ngiyakwenza”. Abantu bathi unyaka wokuqala womshado yiwona odinisa kakhulu okungenzeka ukuthi wenza abanye abantu batatazele. Ukuphumelela onyakeni wokuqala womshado kufaka phakathi izinselele zawo, kepha akuyona into esabisa kakhulu ukukushaya!
Ungawuvimba kanjani umshado wakho ukuthi ungakucindezeli
Ukulawula ukukhathazeka akuyona into elula ngaso sonke isikhathi kodwa nazi izindlela ezimbalwa ezingakusiza ukuphatha okwakho ngonyaka wokuqala womshado nangaphezulu.
Yamukelani futhi niqondane
Kungani unyaka wokuqala womshado unzima kakhulu?
Iningi labantu lisaba ukwaliwa empilweni, abanye bacabanga ukuthi lapho beshada abalingani babo bazobona ukuthi benze iphutha futhi bazobashiya.
Nakhu odinga ukukwazi.
Umlingani wakho wakushada ngoba ungumuntu abafuna ukuchitha naye impilo yakhe yonke.
Bamukela izimfanelo zakho ezinhle nezimbi, amandla akho, amaphutha akho, okuthandayo, nokungathandeki. Bayakuthanda, bayakwazisa, bayakuthanda nobuntu bakho bonke. Ukuqonda lokhu kuzokusiza ukubhekana nokukhathazeka kwangemva komshado ngempumelelo.
Uma usazizwa ungavikelekile ngakho, hamba wabelane ngokungabaza nezinkathazo zakho nabo njengamanje. Bavumele baqonde ukuthi uzizwa kanjani ngale nto entsha sha. Ngiyakuqinisekisa ukuthi bazokutshela futhi bakuqinisekise ukuthi bamthanda kangakanani umuntu ophambi kwabo (futhi lowo muntu nguwe).
Asikho isidingo sokungabaza, asikho isidingo sokukhathazeka, konke kuzolunga.
Phila okwamanje
Kungani emhlabeni ukhathazeka ngekusasa nomlingani wakho?
Kungani ucabanga ngalokho okuzokwenzeka kusasa, ngenyanga ezayo, unyaka kusuka manje, ngisho neminyaka emihlanu ukusuka manje? Udinga ukufunda ukuthi ungaphila kanjani okwamanje, okwamanje, okwamanje. Udinga ukujabulela isikhathi onaso nomlingani wakho manje, hhayi ukusimosha ngokukhathazeka ukuthi uzoba nalesi sikhathi kamuva.
Yisiphi isinyathelo esibaluleke kakhulu ekulawuleni ukukhathazeka komshado?
Dedela imicabango engemihle onayo, uyeke ukwesaba ukulahlekelwa yiyo.
Ngeke ulahlekelwe yibo.
Esinye sezeluleko zonyaka wokuqala womshado ongenazo izingcindezi ukukhipha konke ephepheni.
Bhala imicabango engemihle ephepheni, umbhalo omubi, nakho konke futhi uzomane ulisike lelo phepha libe yizicucu ezincane ukuze ungeke ukwazi ukufunda noma yimaphi amagama owabhalile.
Yeka ukukhathazeka ngekusasa, yeka ukuzizwa kabi ngokwedlule, vele uphile esikhathini samanje, futhi ubonge ukuthi unolunye usuku emhlabeni.
Phefumula noma kunini lapho udinga khona
Uma usembuthanweni noma emcimbini womndeni futhi uqala ukungazizwa kahle futhi isifuba sakho sizizwa sisinda, khumbula ukuphefumulela ngaphakathi futhi ukhiphe amandla amabi.
Noma nini lapho uzibamba ucabanga kabi ngekusasa, yeka wena, phefumula futhi uqhubeke nosuku lwakho.
Yenza izivivinyo zokuphefumula noma nini lapho uqala ukuzizwa unovalo kakhulu, noma noma kunini lapho uzama khona into entsha, noma uzwe ukuthi okuthile kungakhathaza kakhulu. Noma ukuphefumula kuyinto esiyenzayo ngokungazikhetheli, kuhle ngaso sonke isikhathi ukukhumbula ngakho kwesinye isikhathi, lapho sikudinga ngempela.
Ngakho-ke phefumula. Uphefumulele ngaphandle. Manje ungaqhubeka nosuku lwakho.
Khumbula ukuthi ungamethemba umlingani wakho
Umlingani wakho ukhona ngawe noma nini lapho ubadinga. Ungakhuluma nabo nganoma yini, ubatshele ukuthi uzizwa kanjani, wabelane ngemicabango yakho, ungabaze izinkathazo zakho. Batshele konke.
Bazokusiza, bakududuze, babe lapho ngawe. Bazokuzwisisa. Bazoqhubeka bekuthanda!
Uma ukhathazekile ngokuthi bangayeka ukukuthanda, wenza iphutha. Ngeke bayeke ukukuthanda uma wabelana nabo ngokwenzeka ngaphakathi kwengqondo yakho.
Ucabanga ukuthi ukufihla lokhu kuzokwenza izinto zibe ngcono?
Ngeke babe ngcono uze ubatshele empeleni ukuthi kwenzekani. Akudingeki wesabe. Bazokuqonda futhi basazokuthanda. Yeka ukubeka leyo micabango emibi ekhanda lakho, ikulimaza wena wedwa.
Thola ihange lakho
Ihange yileyonto noma lowo muntu ingqondo yakho ibuyela kuye, ukukusiza ugcine izinyawo zakho phansi. Noma kunini lapho uzibamba ucabanga izinto ezingezinhle ezingakukhulisi, futhi ezingakulungele, ngokushesha cabanga ngehange lakho.
Lokho ihange kungaba ngumama wakho, uyihlo, umlingani wakho, umngani wakho omkhulu, noma inja yakho.
Kungaba yinoma ngubani omethembayo ngokuphelele futhi owaziyo ukuthi ukucabanga ngabo kuzokwenza uzizwe ungcono ngokushesha. Unyaka wokuqala wezinkinga zomshado ungadonsa, yingakho ihange elinokwethenjelwa liyimfuneko.
Ihange lakho likhona ukukwenza uzizwe ugxile, ukukwenza uzizwe ulungile.
Akukho okubi okuzokwenzeka uma ucabanga ngehange lakho. Ihange lakho lizogcina izinyawo zakho ziphansi, ingqondo yakho igxile futhi ukwesaba kwakho ngeke kutholakale ndawo.
Ukukhathazeka phakathi nonyaka wokuqala womshado akulula ukubhekana nakho, kodwa uma ukholelwa kuwe, izinto zizoba lula.