-Delile
- Ukwenza ukukhetha ukuthanda
- Inhloso yokuthanda
- Isisusa sothando
- Ukuphulukiswa ngothando
- Uthando olungenamibandela
Kunezindawo ezi-5 zokuthanda ngamabomu esizozibheka lapho uthanda umlingani wakho, noma oshade naye:
- Ukukhetha ukuthanda
- Ukuthanda ngenjongo
- Isisusa sothando
- Ukuthanda ngenkathi uphulukiswa ekulahlekelweni yilokho okwakukhona
- Ukuthanda ngokungenamibandela
Ukuthanda umlingani wakho ngamabomu kuzofaka umfutho wamabomu wokumelana nokulingwa, nothando kukho konke.
Ukwenza ukukhetha ukuthanda
Empilweni, thina njengabantu ngabanye sinokukhetha, futhi sithathe izinqumo. Saziswa kumlingani wethu futhi ubudlelwane bethu bukhula ngesikhathi (buvele buvele). Uthando luyakhula kule nqubo yokuxhuma. Kungenxa yalokhu kuxhumana lapho inyunyana ingenzeka khona. Ukhetha uthando. Ungahlala wenze umsebenzi emshadweni wakho, noma uhambe lapho izikhathi zinzima. Kungaba ngamakhemikhali, noma amandla ahanjisiwe akuhlanganisile; ukhetha ukuhlala uthande. Kukhetha kwakho. Kuyinto ngamabomu.
Inhloso yokuthanda
Kunesizathu sokuthi abantu benze isibopho, babe nemishado. Kukhona okulindelwe, izindinganiso, nokuziphatha abantu abaphila ngakho. Kukhona ukufana nokwehluka okuhloselwe ukugcwalisa lolu hlelo lokuhlanganyela lwezinkolelo. Kukhona umgomo wokuthola umlingani, ukulunga emshadweni, ukusebenza ngezikhathi ezinzima, nokuphila ukuthanda olunye usuku. Injongo yakho othandweni ikhombisa izinhloso zakho.
Isisusa sothando
Yini leyo mandla okuqhubela kumlingani wakho? Khumbula ukuthi udonsela kanjani komunye nomunye. Njengawe:
- Yimuphi umsebenzi owenziwe emshadweni?
- Kungani uzimisele ukwenza umsebenzi kuwo wonke umshado?
- Yini okusebenzele esikhathini esedlule kuwe?
- Yini ozosebenzela kuyo ukwakha ubumbano emshadweni?
Unenkumbulo yalesi sikhumbuzi esihle sezikhathi ezedlule lapho waphefumulelwa ukuba uthande. Uyazikhumbula izinto engizenzayo nezifungo ozenzile.
Ukuphulukiswa ngothando
Imvamisa ebudlelwaneni, silimaza umlingani wethu singahlosile, noma sizilimaza thina. Ukuthanda ukwelashwa kusho ukwazi ukuthi kunesilonda onaso, ukunakekela isilonda, ukusiphatha ngokunakekela kuze kube yilapho siphola. Amanxeba ngamanye awapholi ngokushesha. Ukubekezela kuyingxenye yenqubo yokwelashwa. Kanjalo nethemba. Thanda ngokuphelele uze ululame ngokweqiniso.
Uthando olungenamibandela
Azikho izehlakalo lapho uthanda umlingani wakho. Ayikho indawo ye-quid pro quo (lokhu kwalokhu). Yize kunjalo, kungukubambisana futhi womabili amaqembu alwela ukwenza ingxenye yawo, lona akuwona umdlalo wokuwina ngawodwana. Le nyunyana isho ukuthanda ngamabomu yize izinto zibukeka kanjani. Ukunikezela ngomsebenzi wokuthanda umlingani wakho - unamaphutha futhi ngaphandle kokwahlulela.
Khumbula, uqala ukuthanda, uqhubeke nothando, futhi uqede ukuthanda umlingani wakho ngamabomu ngokuhamba kwesikhathi.