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Ngisho nentsha iyazi ukuthi ucansi luyabandakanyeka ebuhlotsheni obuseduze.
Ngisho naphakathi kwemibhangqwana eyizintombi, abalingani ekugcineni bacabanga ngocansi, futhi uma luqhubeka isikhathi eside ngokwanele, luzogcina lufikile lapho.
Lapho nje ubudlelwano sebufinyelele kulelo qophelo, umlingani ngamunye ulindela okuningi komunye nomunye. Ngeshwa, iqiniso linemibono ehlukile. Abantu banamashayela ocansi ahlukene. Kuyashintsha, kuye ngobuningi bezinto.
Ngokuhamba kwesikhathi, kuholela ekukhungathekeni nasekudumaleni. Ukuntuleka kwesifiso sobulili kungazwakala kuyinto encane, ikakhulukazi kulabo abanobudlelwano obukhulu besikhathi eside.
Kepha leyo mifantu emincane ingabhidliza izisekelo zanoma yibuphi ubuhlobo.
Buka futhi:
Ukuntuleka kwesifiso sobulili kubuthinta kanjani ubudlelwano
Ukuba nobulili obuningi noma obuncane kakhulu kuzwakala njengehlaya phakathi kwezithandani ezibucayi.
Isifiso sobulili sinikezwe phakathi kwezithandani ezithandanayo, kepha asihlali kanjalo.
Ingcindezi, isithukuthezi, impilo ejwayelekile, ukuguqula izinto eziza kuqala, izingane, iminyaka, izinkinga zemali, nokunye okuningi "kokukhula" kuphazamisa isimo sengqondo futhi kunganaki umzimba.
Iningi labantu liyakhohlwa ukuthi isimo somzimba nengqondo somuntu sinomthelela ngqo ekulahlekelweni kwesifiso sobulili.
Ukulahleka okunjalo kokuvusa ucansi kuholela ekucasukeni lapho umlingani wabo enqaba izifiso zabo ezijwayelekile. Kugcina kukhungathekise izinhlangothi zombili. Lokho kukhungatheka, njengakho konke okunye ukukhungatheka, kwakha ngokuhamba kwesikhathi. Abantu ngabanye basabela ngendlela ehlukile kulo.
Nazi ezinye izinkinga zobudlelwano ezingabangelwa ukuntuleka kocansi.
Ukukopela - Abanye ophathina bangalingeka ukuthi bathole omunye umuntu owanelisa izidingo zabo.
Bangaze bacabange nokuthi ukuvimbela izingxabano nezinkinga ebudlelwaneni, bancamela ukuba nobudlelwano obungajulile nabanye abantu, ngisho nabaqwayizi, ukukhipha ukukhathazeka kwabo.
Kungazwakala kungenangqondo ukukopela ukusindisa ubudlelwano bakho, kepha uma unqatshelwe ngemuva kwezikhathi eziningi, kuzoba nengqondo.
Ukwehla kokwethembana nokuxhumana - Abanye abashadikazi bagcina bexabana ngempilo yabo yezocansi (noma ukungabi bikho kwayo). Bangacabanga ukuthi abalingani babo abanandaba nocansi, bese beyeka ukubuza noma ukuxoxa ngakho.
Lokhu kuzobusa kwezinye izihloko, futhi lezi zithandani zigcine zingasakhulumi lutho nhlobo.
Kungaholela ekungathembekini, futhi ekugcineni, ekuthengeni. Ubudlelwano buyehla buqhubeke lapho.
Ukulahleka kothando nokusondelana - Ubulili buyindlela yothando. Ukwenqaba intuthuko ngoba asikho isifiso socansi kuzoholela ekubeni bobabili abalingani benqabe ukuthandana nokusondelana ngokuphelele.
Lokho-ke kuzoholela ekutheni izinhlangothi zombili zingagculiseki ngesimo esingokomzwelo ebudlelwaneni bazo. Njengezidingo zomzimba, ekugcineni babezobheka kwabanye abantu ukuze banelise.
Ukunqoba ukuntuleka kwesifiso sobulili
Kulula ngemibhangqwana ukuthi ibone lapho ubudlelwano bayo obungenabulili (noma abwenele) budala izinkinga zobudlelwano.
Kukhona nezikhathi lapho abashadayo bethembana ngokwanele ukuthi bangaxoxa ngakho ngokungathi sína. Ukukhuluma ngakho kuyisinyathelo sokuqala kuphela, futhi ungeqa ingxenye yengxoxo ngokuphelele. Isenzo sikhuluma kakhulu kunamazwi, futhi sisebenza kahle kuleli cala. Nalu uhlu lokuthi ungasinyusa kanjani isifiso kowesifazane.
Ezothando - Abesifazane bahlangabezana nenqwaba yezifiso zocansi lapho bezizwa bethandwa. Ukuvuswa kwabesifazane kuhlobene eduze nesimo sabo somzwelo. Ukubenza bonke bathande-dovey kubenza bamukele ngokwengeziwe ucansi.
Nethezeka - Ukuntuleka kwesifiso sobulili kungabangelwa ukucindezeleka nokukhathala. Ukuchitha usuku lokuphumula ndawonye kungasiza ukusula isimo sabo sengqondo futhi kubenze bazimisele ngokwengeziwe ukuya ocansini.
Yiba nempilo - Ukuheha kwethu imizimba emihle akusikho okokuthenga. Kuyinto yendawo yonke futhi ibikade ikhona ngaphambi kokumaketha. Imizimba eshisayo iyathandeka kithi ngoba iyisibonakaliso sempilo enhle kanye nokuguqula izakhi zofuzo ezinamandla zokukhiqiza.
Ukudla kahle nokuzivocavoca njalo kuzokhulisa i-libido yakho nokuheha abobulili obuhlukile.
Hlanza - Abantu abaningi abasebudlelwaneni besikhathi eside abakunaki ukuzitotosa. Izibopho ezingeziwe ezinjengokukhulisa izingane nemisebenzi yasendlini, kuthatha sonke isikhathi namandla asetshenziswa ngabodwa ukuya e-spa futhi benze ezinye izinto ukuzenza babukeke kahle.
Ngokuhamba kwesikhathi ukuziyekela kuhamba nomthelela ekuheheni ngokomzimba.Akukhona ukuthi abantu abasebudlelwaneni obunjalo abanasifiso sobulili, kungukuthi bangakuthola nganoma yisiphi isikhathi futhi bafake amandla amancane kukho.
Hlanza futhi unakekele umzimba wakho.
Ngisho nezinguquko ezingasho lutho ezinjengemilenze engagundiwe, ukusikwa kwezinwele okungcolile, izipikili ezingcolile, nezinkinga zamazinyo kungakudambisa ukuheha ngokocansi futhi kube nomthelela ekuntulekeni kwesifiso sobulili kwabesifazane.
Isisindo somzimba nesikhumba esomile kungenza nokuthi owesifazane abukeke engathandeki kwabesilisa.
Yenza umzamo - Indlela enhle yokuthi ungamvusa kanjani owesifazane ukumane ubakhombise ukuthi uyakhathala. Yingakho izindaba eziningi ezinganekwane zikhuluma ngenkosana esindisa inkosazana esimweni esithile esiyingozi.
Abesifazane bafuna ukubona owesilisa wabo efaka umzamo wokukhombisa ukuthi uthandwa futhi waziswa kangakanani.
Ngisho nezinto ezincane ezifana nokuvula umnyango njengendoda endala esesimfashinini zizonethisa abesifazane abaningi. Ukuvuswa kwabesifazane ngokocansi kungenziwa kusebenze kalula lapho owesilisa enza njengendoda yangempela. Kungakho kunenqwaba yalezo memes zamadoda angempela ezungeze i-inthanethi.
Sebenzisa amagama - Njengoba kushiwo ngaphambili, ukuxhumana kungahamba ibanga elide, kepha isihloko esibucayi esinjalo singaba nzima ngisho nakwabashadikazi ababucayi.
Njengoba ngishilo, isenzo sikhuluma kakhulu kunamazwi, kepha ukutshela intombazane yakho, uyayithanda futhi uncoma ukubukeka kwayo (noma izicathulo zayo nje) kuzokwenza izimangaliso zokuzethemba kwayo kanye ne-libido.
Ukuntuleka kwesifiso sobulili nakho kungabangelwa ukuzethemba nokuzethemba. Uma ungasebenzisa amagama alula ukukhulisa ukuzethemba kwakhe, kungakhuphula nokushayela kwakhe ucansi.
Ukuntuleka kwesifiso sobulili somlingani, ikakhulukazi kowesifazane, kungaholela ezinkingeni ebudlelwaneni. Isixazululo asixakile.
Ukujola nokutotosa umuntu othandana naye akufanele kube nzima. Ukuzinakekela akufanele kube yinselele, noma.
Mane uthole isikhathi sokuzinakekela wena nomlingani wakho. Konke okunye, njengokuntuleka kwesifiso sobulili, kuzowela endaweni.