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- Qonda ukuthi i-ADD ibuthinta kanjani ubudlelwano
- Isimo 1:
- Isimo 2:
- Jikela ekwamukelweni, kungumgwaqo ovulekile
- Ukuphusha ulimi oluqondile
- Ukuphikelela kwesineke
- Kungasho ukuthini meds
- Ukusekelwa ngaphandle
- Uma ucabanga ukwelashwa
I-ADHD, eyaziwa nangokuthi i-attention deficit disorder (ADD), inemiphumela emibi emishadweni. Izinga lesehlukaniso licishe liphindwe kabili kubantu abane-ADHD njengoba kunjalo ngeminye imibhangqwana, ethinta cishe amaphesenti amane abantu abadala, kusho umeluleki wezemishado uMelissa Orlov, umbhali wencwadi ethi The ADHD Effect on Marriage. Ukubhekana ne-ADHD ebudlelwaneni kungahle kubize futhi kube yinselele kepha kudinge yonke imali nemizamo. Eqinisweni, noma ikuphi ukwelashwa okusebenzayo ukusiza izimpawu ze-ADD okungasindisa umshado nakho kuzoba utshalomali, njengoba izehlukaniso zibiza kakhulu futhi zicindezela. Kubonakala kimi, ukuthi indlela eya ebudlelwaneni obunempilo nomlingani, noma ngisho nengane, ene-ADHD, ukuqonda, ukwamukela nokuphatha i-ADD ndawonye.
Qonda ukuthi i-ADD ibuthinta kanjani ubudlelwano
Nazi ezinye izibonelo zendlela Ukushoda Ngokunakwa okunomthelela esibophweni somshado:
Isimo 1:
Umyeni wami akahambisani njalo. Ulandela kuphela amaphrojekthi noma imisebenzi ayithola ithakazelisa. Uma kungamthandi, kuphele uhhafu kuze kube siyaphikisana ngakho, bese elandelisa ngokungabaza. Imvamisa, siyakugwema ukungqubuzana futhi ngizogcina sengikwenza ngokwami ngenkathi ngimcasukela. Kubukeka sengathi ufuna ukwenza ingxenye “emnandi” yephrojekthi, bese esula phansi uma izinto seziba nzima.
Umphumela: Ngithola umyeni wami enobugovu ngesikhathi sakhe futhi engacabangi ngokuzibophezela kwethu okwabiwe. Angimethembi futhi ngimhlola kabili cishe kuyo yonke into. Akakuthandi lokho ukuthi ngiyamzali futhi ngiyayeka lapho ngimbuza / ngimkhumbuza ukuthi umsebenzi udinga ukwenziwa.
Kwenzekani engqondweni ye-ADHD: Ukulawula umfutho, ukungasebenzi kahle, ubumpumputhe besikhathi, ubudlelwane bomzali / nengane
Kungani kwenzeka: Ngenkathi ingqondo ye-ADD ifana nokubuka ama-TV ayi-10 ngasikhathi sinye, kuzophumelela umsindo omkhulu kakhulu, othakazelisa kakhulu futhi ofanele. I-Flashy, iyakhanga, iyanethezeka, iyajabulisa, iyacwebezela, iyinoveli, iyingozi futhi iyahlekisa konke kuyashukumisa ngokwanele ukugcina ukunakwa kwabalingani bethu abathandekayo. Lokhu kungaba yingakho impikiswano iphendukela kwezokuxhumana ezivelele ezikhuthaza isenzo sozakwethu we-ADHD. Icebo lokuba isiteshi esiheha kakhulu ngoba ukuba nomsindo kakhulu kubanga ikhanda!
Ngakho-ke, umlingani one-ADHD usikhetha kanjani isiteshi? Futhi kungani benokulawula kwesinye isikhathi kuphela? Yebo, "Nge-ADHD, ukukhathazeka kunqoba ngaphezu kokubaluleka", ngokusho kukaDkt.Mark Katz we-Learning Development Services. Kuyinto ejwayelekile ukuthi baqale ngenhloso enhle, kepha balahlekelwe yindlela yabo ngesikhathi eside. Njengoba ukunaka okuphansi kuyisitha sethu sangempela kulobu budlelwano, ake sikhulume ngezimpawu ezibangela ukuziphatha komuntu.
Isinyathelo sethu sokuqala ukubuka iSayensi. Lapho othile enenkinga yokuNakekelwa kokuNakwa, i-prefrontal lobe ithola ukugeleza kwegazi okuncane nokusetshenziswa. Le ngxenye yekhanda lakho ithinta amasethi wamakhono eyaziwa kakhulu njenge-Executive Functioning centre. (I-EF "ingunobhala" womqondo. Iyindawo yokuxhumana futhi umsebenzi wayo ukulawula ukwenziwa kwemisebenzi edingekayo ukulawula isikhathi, ukuqwashisa, imizwa, kanye nokuhlela, ukubeka phambili nokwenza okuthile)
Ukucela umlingani wakho ukuthi aphathe i-ADD yakhe kuyiqiniso njengokucela umuntu onesifo sikashukela ukuba alaphe ushukela wakhe wegazi. Izimpawu azilona iphutha labo, ukulawula kuza ngendlela yobunikazi, ukubekezela nokuthethelelwa.
Isimo 2:
Angeke ngikumele ukuba ekhishini naye ngasikhathi sinye. Ulawula ngokuphelele futhi ushiya isimanga endleleni yami. Lapho ngifika kuye ngalokhu, uyagqabhuka futhi athi ngimenze wakhohlwa akwenzayo. Sizihlukanisile izinsuku zokupheka ukuze singashayisi amakhanda, izandla, nezimo zengqondo. Kwesinye isikhathi uma ngipheka, ungena angibuze imibuzo noma angitshele ukuthi kufanele ngabe ngenzani. Uthatha ngokuthi angazi ukuthi ngenzani. Kuba kubi kakhulu kangangokuba ngacishe ngamjikijela ngesipuni sokhuni kanye ngenkathi ngimxosha!
Umphumela: Ngiyakugwema ukupheka, ukwenza izinqumo zokudla nokuhlela, futhi ngizizwa ngikhathazekile lapho kuphakama isihloko sokuthi ngizodlani. Ukuhlaziya kwakhe kwesinye isikhathi kunokhahlo futhi kuqondile. Lapho ngikhuluma naye ngakho, akanalwazi ngesimo sakhe sokunganaki. Kunjengokungathi ubengekho yize besisekamelweni elilodwa ngenkathi kwenzeka lokhu. Ngizizwa sengathi ngiphuza amaphilisi angasile.
Kwenzekani engqondweni ye-ADHD: Ukucabanga okumnyama nokumhlophe, ukudala isimo sokudala kepha sobushiqela, ukunakwa okufishane, ukumelelwa kabi kweqiniso, ukucindezelwa kwempumputhe (ngenze leli themba lokugcina ... kubukeka sengathi liyalingana)
Kungani kwenzeka: Abalingani abaningi babona abalingani babo be-ADD njengabazithandayo ezimweni lapho lowo oshade naye engaboni lutho olwedlula izidingo zabo. Ehlangothini le-flip, umlingani we-ADD uzizwa egxile. Kuyinselele kuma-ADDers ukubona izindlela eziningi lapho besebenzisa iningi lamabhange abo wamandla ukugcina ukunakwa. Eqinisweni, njengehhashi lomjaho, badinga izimpumputhe ukuze bazigcine besemsebenzini. Umculo onomsindo, ukuzilandisa, ukucubungula ngomlomo, kanye nokungasebenzi kahle ngamathuluzi ambalwa wokuzigcina usendleleni. Lezi mpumputhe zilwa nezindlela ezingasetshenziswa lapho kugxilwe kumaphrojekthi. Ukudweba indawo elungele ukulandela kungenzeka kube yinselele yokuphila kwakho konke. Kungenzeka bangazi nokuthi bayakwenza.
Manje, kunzima ukwahlulela ngemuva kwekhibhodi ukuthi ngabe umuntu othile uyafihla yini ngephutha noma nje wenza iphutha kusuka kulokhu eliyikho. Engingakutshela khona lapha ukuthi ingcindezi nengcindezi kungabhebhethekisa ezinye izimpawu ze-ADDers njengokushoda kwememori yesikhashana. Ngaphezu kwalokho, ukulahlekelwa ukulawula okuthile ngokomzwelo ngenkathi umfutho usebenza ngaphambi kokucabanga. Lapho izinto zishisa kuleli khishi, imemori ngokuqinisekile iyoba mnyama. Ngokomzwelo, umlingani ubhekene nokwesaba ukuba sengozini, ukungalungi nokungazilawuli. Kungazwakala sengathi umlingani we-ADD uqamba amanga. Futhi noma ngabe baqamba amanga noma kungenzeka babe nokuchazwa okungalungile kweqiniso ... noma ngabe yikuphi ... inhloso yabo ukuzivikela. Ngiphakamisa ukuthi bobabili abalingani bathole indlela ephephile yokuxoxa ngokukhululekile ngeqiniso.
Futhi, sibona imisebenzi yokuphatha enjengememori emifushane neyesikhathi eside, ukwenza izinqumo nokuhlela kuyinselele. Kulokhu, amandla ayaphanjukiswa futhi umlingani obucayi, onakekelayo manje usegxile kakhulu emsebenzini wabo. Akumangalisi ukuthi lo mlingani ongeyona i-ADD uyaqaphela. Ngisho, ungangena phambi kwehhashi lomjaho?
Jikela ekwamukelweni, kungumgwaqo ovulekile
Ukwamukelwa mhlawumbe kuyindlela enzima kunazo zonke ekhona. Ngaphandle kokwenza ukukhetha okuqondayo, ikusasa lakho lishintshiwe lapho ubona ukuthi izimpawu Zokushoda Ngokunakwa yizici ezithinta ubuhlobo bakho. Kungenzeka kube nokulindelwe kumlingani wakho noma wena njengomzali, uzakwethu nasemsebenzini. Ukwamukelwa kubhekene nalokho okulindelwe ukuze wena nomlingani wakho nizwe ukulawulwa okufunayo ngekusasa lakho. Ngaphandle kwayo, uzilungiselela ukuphoxeka okungadingekile.
U-Einstein uthe uma ulindele ukuthi inhlanzi ilinganise impumelelo yayo ekutheni ikhuphuka kangakanani esitebhisini, izodlula empilweni icabanga ukuthi ayenele. Ukufunda lokhu, uthola umbono omusha. Elinye ithuba lokubeka okulindelwe. Phindanani kabusha komunye nomunye, dala amaphethini ahlukene nokulindelwe okuhlukile kokuxhumana. Ngemuva kwalokho, uzokwazi ukufunda izimpawu futhi ubone okwedlule ukuthi kuyini.
Lapho usuqonde ukuxilongwa kwe-ADHD futhi ubhekana nezimpawu, uthola ukuthi umuntu omthandayo ungaphezu kokuxilongwa kwakhe. Kwesinye isikhathi, bangalandela futhi kwesinye isikhathi bazodinga ukwesekwa, ukukhuthazwa kanye nozakwabo. Ngakho-ke siphathana kanjani ngenhlonipho, sibonise izinhloso ezinhle, futhi siphathe i-ADD ngaphandle kokubeka icala noma ukulimaza i-egos?
Nawa amanye amathuluzi wokugxilisa amandla akho:
Ukuphusha ulimi oluqondile
Noma ngabe kuhlaziywa noma "uzinika inkulumo", zombili zingaba nethonya elihle ezimeni eziyinselele. Ukusebenzisa ulimi oluqondile kuzosebenzela injongo futhi kuzogcina amandla egeleza ngendlela efanele futhi kuzokuvimbela ukuthi uzizwe unamathele, uyisiphukuphuku noma uyisilima. Ulimi lubucayi kakhulu futhi sivame ukukhohlwa ukuthi sikusho kangakanani lokho esingakuqondile. Sikhohlwa ikakhulukazi ukuthi sizwela kangakanani kulokho esikuzwayo. Zincome umlingani wakho kanye nawe ngokwakho kaningi. Ikakhulukazi uma ucabanga ukuthi umsebenzi ubunzima. Bakhumbuze ukuthi benze kahle kangakanani okuthile futhi lokhu kuziphatha okuhle kuzophinda! Ukwakha amahloni kuzoba nemiphumela egcina icasukile futhi inenhlonipho ephansi. Nasi isibonelo sesiqinisekiso esikhuthazayo ngemuva kwesithiyo: “Ngiyabonga ngokukuguqula namuhla. Ngiyazi ukuthi wadumala ngesikhathi sokudla kwasekuseni kodwa wagcina ukwazile ukungitshela ngomoya ophansi ukuthi yini eyayikucasula. ”
Ukuphikelela kwesineke
Lapho ulaka seluvukile, kuthatha ngaphezu komzuzwana ukuthi noma ngubani abone ukuthi badlulele kakhulu. Ngakho-ke uma othile edubula isibhamu esibuhlungu, hlonipha futhi uqondise umlingani wakho ngesikhumbuzo sokuthi imizwa yakho ilinyazwe kanjani nokuthi ungathanda ukuphathana ngenhlonipho eyengeziwe. Uma usenze ibhidi lokuhloniphana, banikeze ithuba lokungabaza ngenkathi bezama ukuzola. Isibonelo: “Ouch. Sawubona Hun. Ngiyazi ukuthi bekufanele ngilandele kangcono. Kunganjani siqale ngeziphakamiso ezithile ezinhle kunokuba sixoxe ngephutha lami okweshumi. ”
Kungasho ukuthini meds
AmaMedi - Akuwona awawo wonke umuntu futhi nakanjani akuyona "inkinobho elula" noma umlingo. Kuyithuluzi. Futhi njengethuluzi lomzimba, lingakusiza ukwakha izinhloso zakho kepha futhi libukhali, libukhali futhi libuhlungu.
Okuhle - Imisebenzi i-ADDer ebingakwazi ukuyifeza manje inethuba. Imithi ikala inkundla yokudlala futhi inikeze amandla okugxila. Lapho basebenzisa ithuluzi ukulungisa, ukuqinisa nokuqinisa isando, izinto eziningi ziyashintsha empilweni yabo. Bayakwazi ukuhlala isikhathi eside, banake ukuphatha isikhathi kangcono, ukugcinwa kwememori yabo kuyathuthuka futhi bayakwazi ukuqukatha imizwa. Ngubani ongakufuni lokho?!
Okubi - Umlingani one-ADD angazizwa engakhululekile ngokwengqondo nangokomzimba. Umuthi ungadala ukuqwasha, ukukhathazeka futhi unciphise ulaka lwabo. Cabanga ukweqisa ngokweqile kukhofi. Ukhathele, ucasukile, unezandla ezi-jittery, futhi usebenze kanzima ukhohlwa ukudla ... Manje, lapho ubona ukungakhululeki, umlingani wakho ongeyena we-ADD angathanda ukuba nothando. Ukuhlushwa kungaba nzima ngemuva kokuqina kosuku emithini. Ama-meltdowns ajwayelekile futhi angancishiswa ngokudla okufanele, ukuzivocavoca kanye nesikhathi semithi.
Ukusekelwa ngaphandle
- Ukwelulekwa ngokwengqondo kuyindlela enhle yokuthola ukucindezeleka ngokomzwelo. Buza umeluleki ngomuzwa we-ADD / ADHD kanye nenani leziguli abanazo. Bangakusiza ukubhekana nokwakho.
- Imihlangano ye-ChadD (Izingane Nabadala abane-ADD) ibanjwa kuwo wonke amadolobha amakhulu futhi inikeze izingxoxo zokusekelwa kweqembu, izinsizakusebenza nezifundo.
- Ungavakashela i-ADD.org bese uthola isizwe sakho, kanye nezinsizakusebenza ezinhle.
- Ukuqeqesha kungakufundisa futhi kukusize unqobe noma yiziphi izithiyo / izinhloso njengombhangqwana noma ngokuzimela. Bangumlingani wakho wokuphendula, banikela ngezinsizakusebenza nosizo konke ngenkathi bekusiza ukuthi uzulazule ukuze ufinyelele imigomo yakho.
- Isazi sokusebenza kwengqondo siqonda ukuthi ingqondo isebenza kanjani futhi singasiza ekuxilongweni nasekwelulekeni.
Uma ucabanga ukwelashwa
Udokotela wezifo zengqondo angasiza uma ufuna umzila wemithi. Udokotela wezifo zengqondo angaxilonga futhi anikeze umuthi. Futhi, funa umuntu oqonda i-ADD kanye nemiphumela yomuthi. Udokotela Womndeni angahle angabi nolwazi olubanzi lwabanye abasebenza, kepha bayakuqonda futhi kulula ukuthola i-aphoyintimenti. Bangakwazi ukuxilonga futhi banikeze amaMed.
Abahlengikazi Abahlengikazi bayefana noDokotela Womndeni. futhi ube nezinto ezikhethekile ezifana ne-homeopathy nokudla okuzokusiza ezinhlosweni zakho.
Uma wazi noma usola ukuthi wena noma umlingani wakho une-ADD, kuhlale kuyisikhathi esihle sokufunda kabanzi. Ukuthola ukuxilongwa kuyisinyathelo sokuqala esibalulekile. Ukuxilongwa kukusiza ukuthi uhlele futhi uhlole izinguquko ozifunayo ngaphambi kokukhula. Ungasula noma ikuphi ukudumazeka okungahle kube khona futhi ufunde ukuthi ungakulawula kanjani lokhu okulindelwe ndawonye. Ekugcineni, noma ngabe niyizingqalabutho ezingqinambeni ze-ADD noma niqala ukuvela ekufundeni, khumbulani ukuthi ukuxhumana kuyindlela kuphela yokufunda ingqondo yomunye umuntu. Asivule!