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- Umbono ka-Erik Erikson wokuthuthuka kwengqondo
- Izinto ezenzeka ngalesi sigaba
- Ukuzinikela kubalulekile ekusondeleni kuqhathaniswa nokuzihlukanisa
Umuntu ubhekana nezinguquko eziningi ezaziwa njengezingxabano zentuthuko empilweni yakhe yonke.
Uma lezi zingxabano zingaxazululwa, umzabalazo nobunzima buyaqhubeka. Abantu badlula ezinhlotsheni ezahlukahlukene zobunzima bengqondo esigabeni ngasinye sempilo yabo, okushiya umthelela omuhle noma omubi empilweni yabo, kuya ngohlobo lobunzima abadlula kubo.
Abantu abaguga abaphakathi kweminyaka eyi-19 kuye kwengama-40 ubudala badlula kulokho okubizwa ngokuthi ukusondelana kuqhathaniswa nesigaba sokuzihlukanisa. Kulesi sigaba sempilo yabo, abantu bayaphuma ebudlelwaneni bemindeni yabo baqale ukuzingela ubudlelwano kwenye indawo. Kulesi sikhathi, abantu baqala ukuhlola abanye abantu futhi baqala ukwabelana ngempilo yabo futhi basondelane nabo.
Abanye babelana ngempumelelo yabo nabathandekayo babo kanti abanye babelana nosizi lwabo. Abanye, ngakolunye uhlangothi, bayakugwema ukuya kulesi sigaba nhlobo futhi bahlale beqhelelene nanoma iluphi uhlobo lokusondelana.
Lokhu kungaholela ekuhlukaneni nabantu kanye nesizungu lapho umuntu angahle aphambuke khona bese eqala ukubhema ngokweqile njengogwayi abayi-15 ngosuku.
Umbono ka-Erik Erikson wokuthuthuka kwengqondo
Ukusondelana vs. ukuzihlukanisa kuza kunombolo yesi-6 kumcabango ka-Erik Erikson. Imvamisa ngalesi sikhathi, abantu abathile bayofuna abalingani babo bempilo bese bezama ukusondelana nabanye abantu ngaphandle kwemindeni yabo. Baphuma esidlekeni somndeni bafune ubudlelwano kwenye indawo. Abanye baphumelela kahle kulesi sigaba kanti kwabanye, kuyinhlekelele ephelele.
Kodwa-ke, umbono ka-Erik Erikson maqondana nokusondelana nokuzihlukanisa kusho ukuthi kwesinye isikhathi sempilo yomuntu, uhlangabezana nengxabano edinga ukuxazululwa. Abantu abangakwazi ukubhekana nalolu dweshu bazoqhubeka nokulwa impilo yabo yonke.
Isikhathi sokuhlukaniswa nokuhlukaniswa nakho kunquma lonke ushintsho umuntu ahamba kulo impilo yakhe yonke. Lezi zinguquko zidala umthelela omkhulu ekukhuleni komuntu. Lapho umuntu efinyelela esigabeni sokuba mdala kakhulu, isigaba sesithupha sokukhula bese siqala.
Yilapho umuntu esezokwenza izibopho ezizohlala zinjalo futhi ubudlelwano bungempilo yonke. Abantu abaphumelele kulesi sigaba benza ubudlelwano obuhle kakhulu futhi bayasebenza emphakathini nabantu ababazungezile.
Izinto ezenzeka ngalesi sigaba
Kuze kube manje, sikuqondile ukubaluleka kombono ka-Erik Erikson. Kepha singahlukanisa kanjani ukusondelana nencazelo yokuzihlukanisa? Kungabekwa kalula ngale ndlela ukuthi u-Erik Erikson uzame ukuchaza ukukhula kwengqondo umuntu adlula kukho efuna ukwakha ubudlelwano obusha.
Manje ake sikhulume ngokwenzeka ngalesi sigaba sempilo yomuntu.Ngokusho kuka-Erik Erikson, wayekholelwa ngokuqinile ukuthi kulesi sigaba sempilo, umuntu kufanele agxile ekwenzeni ubudlelwano obuhle nabantu. Lobu budlelwano obuseduze, lapho abantu bengena esigabeni sokuba badala, badlala indima ebaluleke kakhulu ngesikhathi sesigaba sokusondelana nokuzihlukanisa.
Ubudlelwano obakhiwe ngalesi sikhathi bukhulu kakhulu kwezothando futhi konke kuhlobene nezothando, kepha u-Erik Erikson waveza ukuthi ubungani obuseduze nabangane abahle nabo babaluleke kakhulu. U-Erik Erikson uhlukanise ubudlelwano obuyimpumelelo nobudlelwano obuhlulekile.
Uthe labo bantu abakwaziyo ukuxazulula kalula izingxabano ezizungeze isigaba sokusondelana nokuzihlukanisa bangakha ubudlelwano obuhlala isikhathi eside. Abantu abanjalo banobudlelwano obuhle nemindeni yabo nabangane.
Impumelelo iholela ebudlelwaneni obuqine kakhulu obuhlala isikhathi eside ngenkathi ukwehluleka kuthatha umuntu kubhekwe ekubeni nesizungu nokuba yedwa.
Abantu abahlulekayo kulesi sigaba abakwazi ukusungula ubudlelwano bezothando. Lokhu kungaba nzima kakhulu, ikakhulukazi uma wonke umuntu ezungeze ewele ebudlelwaneni bezothando futhi nguwe wedwa osele.
Umuntu unelungelo lokuzizwa enesizungu futhi ehlukanisiwe kulesi sigaba. Abanye abantu babhekana nezingqinamba ezinkulu futhi badlula ekukhohlisweni ngokomzwelo nakulesi sigaba. Lokhu kungaba nzima kakhulu kubo ukubhekana nakho.
Ukuzinikela kubalulekile ekusondeleni kuqhathaniswa nokuzihlukanisa
Ngokusho kombono ka-Erik Erikson, yonke inkolelo yezengqondo inezinyathelo. Kubalulekile futhi ukukhumbula ukuthi isinyathelo ngasinye sixhunyaniswe nesinyathelo esedlule, futhi isigaba ngasinye sinikela esigabeni esilandelayo. Isibonelo, phakathi kwesigaba sokudideka, uma umuntu eqamba futhi enomqondo wokulungile nokungalungile, uzokwazi kalula ukwakha ubudlelwano obuseduze.
Ngakolunye uhlangothi, labo abanomqondo omubi wokuzithanda bathambekele ekuhlulekeni ebudlelwaneni obuningi futhi bazohlushwa ngabodwa, isizungu, kanye nokudangala. Abasoze baphumelela ekwakheni ubudlelwane obuhlala isikhathi eside. Lokhu kufingqa yonke inkolelo-mbono ka-Erik Erikson ehlukaniswe njengokusondelana nokuzihlukanisa.
I-crux iwukuthi, umbono wakhe ubambe iqhaza elibonakalayo ekuchazeni lezi zigaba ezimbili futhi uqondise abantu ekutheni bangakugwema kanjani ukuzihlukanisa. Esikhundleni salokho, bangafunda ukwenza ubudlelwano obuseduze, noma ngabe kungabangani babo, umndeni noma umuntu abamthandayo.