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- Unganquma kanjani ukuthi ngabe niyizithandani ezihlakaniphile ngokomzwelo?
- Izizathu ezenza ochwepheshe bakholelwe igebe lobuhlakani obungokomzwelo
- 1. Nizozwisisana ngendlela engcono
- 2. Ungaba nanoma yiluphi uhlobo lwengxoxo nomlingani wakho
- 3. Ama-Egos eceleni, ninobungozi komunye nomunye
- 4. Ungachaza zonke izinhlobo zemizwa nomlingani wakho
- 5. Ukuxolisa kuzoba lula kakhulu
Uma sikhuluma ngobudlelwano obunempilo nobuphumelelayo, sihlala njalo naka ukwethembeka, ukuxhumana, kanye nezinga lokuthembela phakathi kwabalingani. Noma lezi zinto ziyisisekelo sanoma yikuphi ukuhlobana, kunesici esisodwa esivame ukunganakwa. Lokho kubanga igebe lobuhlakani emshadweni.
Manje umbuzo imibhangqwana eminingi ehluleka ukuwuqonda ukuthi, kangakanani ingabe ukuhlakanipha kunendaba ebudlelwaneni? Kuliqiniso ukuthi imvamisa lesi sici siyalahleka ekuxubeni.
Igebe lobuhlakani emishadweni libaluleke ngokwedlulele ngoba lisiza izithandani ekuvezeni kalula imizwa yazo futhi ngasikhathi sinye zisizane ekuphatheni imizwa yazo engalawuleki.
Unganquma kanjani ukuthi ngabe niyizithandani ezihlakaniphile ngokomzwelo?
Ngabe ubuhlakani bubalulekile ebudlelwaneni?
Ochwepheshe bakholelwa ukuthi konke kuncike ekutheni abalingani baxhumana kanjani. Kuya futhi ngokuthi siyazi kangakanani imizwa yozakwethu nokuthi sizisingatha kanjani izikhathi ezinzima kakhulu.
Abanye abantu baningi kakhulu bathambekele ekuhlakanipheni okungokomzwelo, kepha kuhlale kunethuba lokuthi ungafunda ngegebe lobuhlakani emshadweni.
Izizathu ezenza ochwepheshe bakholelwe igebe lobuhlakani obungokomzwelo
Kuyiqiniso ukuthi asilinaki iqiniso lokuthi kokubili uthando nobuhlakani kunendaba ngokulinganayo ebudlelwaneni obuphumelelayo.
Leyo mibhangqwana eyehluleka ukuqonda leli qiniso, ibhekana nezinkinga nobudlelwano bayo kungenzeka ihluleke noma ingagculisi.
Kodwa-ke, ochwepheshe bakholelwa ngokuqinile kulokho igebe lobuhlakani emshadweni lidlala indima ebaluleke kakhulu emishadweni.
Ake sithole ukuthi kubaluleke kangakanani ukuhlakanipha okulinganayo ebudlelwaneni
1. Nizozwisisana ngendlela engcono
Uzwela ngokusobala lungesinye sezibonakaliso ezivame kakhulu zobuhlakani obungokomzwelo. Kunomthelela omkhulu ebudlelwaneni bakho futhi kuthuthukisa nobudlelwano bakho.
Into ephathelene nozwela yikhono lokuqonda nokukhomba izinselelo nezimagqabhagqabha ezinzima ongahle ubhekane nazo nomlingani wakho. Kusho nokuthi uyakwazi ukuqonda leyo mizwa, futhi uyilawule kahle futhi.
2. Ungaba nanoma yiluphi uhlobo lwengxoxo nomlingani wakho
Into ehamba phambili ngobuhlakani obulinganayo ebudlelwaneni ukuthi, awudingi ukwesaba ukwahlulelwa noma ukugxekwa. Lokhu kungenxa yokuthi ukugxeka okwakhayo emshadweni kubaluleke kakhulu futhi ikunikeza nethuba lokuthi uthuthuke futhi ukhule futhi.
Uma abalingani bevulekele ukugxekwa okwakhayo, kusho ukuthi bayathuthuka futhi baya ngokuba ngcono. Esikhundleni sokuhlasela nokusola omunye umuntu, bayanikezana impendulo eyakhayo nokugxeka.
Lokhu kubenza bakwazi basebenze ngokwabo futhi basizane bakhule ngenkathi begcina imizwa nokuzwela komunye nomunye.
3. Ama-Egos eceleni, ninobungozi komunye nomunye
Yize kungewona umqondo omuhle ukuba sengozini kunoma ngubani, ukuze uxhumane kahle nomlingani wakho, kufanele ubeke eceleni ama-egos akho eceleni.
Konke lokhu kuyingxenye yokuhlakanipha ngokomzwelo. Akuyona into embi uma usengozini futhi uncike kumlingani wakho, futhi unemizwa eyeqisayo ngophathina wakho.
4. Ungachaza zonke izinhlobo zemizwa nomlingani wakho
Enye yezinto ezinhle kakhulu ngokuhlakanipha okulinganayo ebudlelwaneni ukuthi ungavele uvule imizwa yakho. Kuyiqiniso ukuthi kwesinye isikhathi kuthatha iminyaka ukuxoxa ngemizwa yakho yeqiniso ngokukhululekile nomlingani wakho. Kodwa-ke, ngenxa yezinga elilinganayo lobuhlakani, ngeke usadinga ukuchitha iminyaka eminingi kangaka ukuveza imizwa yakho ngokwethembeka.
Ukukhuluma noma ukuxhumana kusho ukuthi ubudlelwano buyaqina.
Lokhu kungenxa yokuthi uma ungeke ukhulume, labo labo imizwa engachazwanga izofakwa ebhodleleni. Le mizwa engashiwongo ngeke ikusize nokuthi wakhe ubuhlobo obuhle nomlingani wakho.
5. Ukuxolisa kuzoba lula kakhulu
Kungaba nzima kakhulu ukuyeka ukuziqhenya kwakho futhi uxolise nganoma iliphi iphutha okungenzeka ulenzile. Kepha uma wenza kanjalo, kungenye yezimpawu zokukhalipha nokuvuthwa. Umlingani ohlakaniphile ngokomzwelo ukwenza ngoba bayazi ukubaluleka kobudlelwano futhi babazise ngaphezu kokuziqhenya kwabo.
Igebe lobuhlakani emshadweni libaluleke kakhulu ngoba linamandla okususa noma yiluphi uhlobo lwezithiyo phakathi kwakho nomlingani wakho. Kuyasiza futhi ukuba nizwane kahle.
Ngemuva kokufunda imininingwane eshiwo ngenhla maqondana negebe lobuhlakani emshadweni, kungenzeka ukuthi wakuthola ukubaluleka kwalo.
Imibhangqwana iyehluleka ukuqonda indima enkulu edlalwa ukuhlakanipha okungokomzwelo ukugcina ubudlelwane buqinile futhi buphelele.
Ozakwethu abahlakaniphe ngokulinganayo bangaqhubeka nobudlelwano babo iminyaka ngaphandle kokubhekana nezinkinga ezinde ezingadala ukuthi bahlukane. Ukuphela kwento okufanele ukhumbule ukuyenza babe nokuxhumana okufanele kanye ne- ikhono lokuveza imizwa yakho nomlingani wakho.
Ucwaningo luveze ukuthi leyo mibhangqwana enamanani aphansi wokuhlakanipha ngokomzwelo inobudlelwano obubi obungahlali isikhathi eside. Lokhu kufaka phakathi ikhwalithi kanye ne- ukusekelwa kobuhlobo babo.