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- 1. Ukuxhumana okunempilo nokwakhayo
- 2. Ukwamukela ukungaboni ngaso linye kwakho
- 3. Ukuthinta okuphulukisayo
- 4. Ukukhula njengabantu ngabanye ndawonye
Imibhangqwana eminingi eshadile ngokuzumayo izithola isendaweni lapho ubuhlobo babo budinga ukuthuthuka - kabi. Kungaba yinoma yimaphi amathuba ayisigidi okuthi kungani umshado wabo ungasebenzi.
Futhi kungenzeka ukuthi babanda njengeqhwa noma baphila impilo yansuku zonke eyenza isihogo sizwakale njengendawo enhle ongachitha kuyo iholide lakho. Kodwa, uma uhlose ukuqhubeka nokuhlala emshadweni, kungani ungenzi umzamo ukwenza kube mnandi?
Nazi izisekelo ezine zabo bonke ubuhlobo obuhle nokuthi ungazisebenzela kanjani ukulungisa umshado wakho.
1. Ukuxhumana okunempilo nokwakhayo
Isici esibaluleke kakhulu kunoma yibuphi ubuhlobo ukuxhumana. Ukuxhumana okwakhayo kuyadingeka ebhizinisini, ebunganeni, futhi, ikakhulukazi emshadweni.
Kodwa-ke, emshadweni, ngaphezu kwanoma yikuphi ukuxhumana kwabantu, ukuxhumana kuvame ukunganele, noma kube nobuthi obuyingozi.
Kunokuhlukahluka okuningi kokuxhumana okungenampilo, kusuka ekuhoxeni kuya ekuhlaselweni ngamazwi.
Kungakhathalekile ukuthi ikhwalithi yezokuxhumana isezingeni elingakanani emshadweni wakho, cishe ingathuthukiswa. Ngisho nemibhangqwana ejabule kakhulu ihlale inokuthile engakusebenzela kule ndawo. Uma ufisa ukuthuthukisa ubudlelwano bakho, qala ngokuhlaziya izindlela zokuxhumana emshadweni wakho. Ungathatha isivivinyo sokuqinisekisa ukuthola isitayela sakho sokuxhumana, isibonelo.
Ngemuva kwalokho, zinikele isikhathi sokufunda ngokuxhumana okunempilo. Isibonelo, gwema ukusetshenziswa kokuhlasela ulimi oluthi “Wena” bese ufaka esikhundleni salokho imisho ethi “Mina”. Qaphela umehluko phakathi kwalokhu: “Uyangicasula kakhulu” nokuthi “Ngiyacasuka impela uma usho into enjalo”.
Kuneminye imithetho eminingi efanayo yokuxhumana okunempilo ongayisebenzisa futhi okufanele uyisebenzise ebudlelwaneni bakho ukuyithuthukisa.
2. Ukwamukela ukungaboni ngaso linye kwakho
Uma umshado wakho ungasafani nakuqala, kungenzeka ukuthi kungenxa yokuthi wanamathela endleleni ohluke ngayo. Noma ukuthi ucasulwa kanjani ukwehluka kwakho, ngokunembile. Ngesikhathi uqala ukuthandana, kungenzeka ukuthi izinto bezihluke kakhulu. Ubukhangwe yikho konke mayelana nalowo ozoba ngumlingani wakho ngaleso sikhathi.
Manje, sekudlule iminyaka, awusacabangi ukuthi owakwakho ukuba yisibindi sekumazibuthe njengakuqala. Beniyithanda imvelo yakhe ekhululekile, kepha manje kumane kuyiphuzu elihlala njalo lokungezwani phakathi kwenu nobabili, ikakhulukazi ngezingane ezihilelekile.
Ukuze uthuthukise ubudlelwano bakho, udinga ukufunda ukwamukela oshade naye njengoyedwa futhi uhloniphe ukungafani kwenu. Kade umthanda ngakho konke abayikho, khumbula lezo zikhathi. Ukukusiza ekuxazululeni izingqinamba ezingavela kumvelo yakho ephikisanayo, buyela emuva eselulekweni sokuqala esikule ndatshana.
3. Ukuthinta okuphulukisayo
Enye indawo lapho imibhangqwana eminingi eshadile ingasebenzisa khona izithuthukisi ukusondelana ngokomzimba. Ngokucindezeleka kwesikhathi nesikhathi nosuku, iningi lethu lilahlekelwa ukuthintwa (i-pun okuhlosiwe) ngentshisekelo nokuheha ngokomzimba okwakukuhle kakhulu lapho behlangana.
Imvamisa yezocansi emshadweni iyodwa, kepha ukushintshana ngokomzimba kothando kufanele njalo kube yingxenye yomshado.
Noma impilo yakho yezocansi yanelisa, kuhle uhlale ubuyela kuzisekelo.Kepha, uma uhlangabezana nesipelingi esomile, kufanele ugxile kuzinyathelo ezilandelayo ngisho nangaphezulu. Qala ngokuqinisa izisekelo zomshado wakho, ubungani bakho nothando omunye komunye. Akunasidingo sokuthola ilungelo lokuya ocansini.
Ngemuva kwalokho, ngendlela efanayo nangesikhathi usaqala ukuphola, qala ukubambana ngezandla futhi mhlawumbe ukuphulula kamnandi ngezikhathi ezithile, ungabi nalutho lwezocansi. Ngokuhamba kwesikhathi qhubekela phambili ekwenzeni izinto zocansi noma ezingezona ezomshado. Kungemva kokuzwa ukuthi injabulo eseyilahlekile ibuyele emshadweni wakho lapho kufanele uthuthele ocansini oluvuselelekile.
4. Ukukhula njengabantu ngabanye ndawonye
Into eyodwa evame ukunganakwa emshadweni, ikakhulukazi lapho nobabili nisathakelana, isidingo sokuzithuthukisa kumlingani ngamunye ngamunye. Abantu, ngezinhloso zabo ezinhle, baqala ukuzibheka njengengxenye yabo bonke, yombhangqwana.
Lokhu kuyathandeka ekuqaleni komshado, kepha ngokuhamba kwesikhathi kuba yimbangela ehamba phambili yokungeneliseki ebudlelwaneni.
Ukuba nezinhlelo okwabelwana ngazo kuyadingeka emshadweni, kunjalo. Kepha, lokho akusho ukuthi kufanele uzishiye ngokuphelele izifiso zakho namaphupho akho. Ngokuphambene nalokho, umshado omuhle ubonakala ngokuvumela bobabili abashadile ukuba baqhubeke nezifiso zabo nezifiso zabo.
Ngakho-ke, uma ungathanda ukuthuthukisa ubudlelwano bakho, khuluma ngokusobala noshade naye ngezifiso zakho nangezifiso zakho nokuthi ungazenza kanjani zigcwaliseke. Futhi khumbulani ukuxhasana zonke izinyathelo ezisendleleni.