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- 1. Uthando luletha injabulo
- 2. Ucansi luqinisa amasosha akho omzimba
- 3. Ukuvikeleka kwezezimali okwandisiwe
- 4. Uthando luzala inhlonipho
- 5. Ulala kangcono nalowo omthandayo
- 6. Ucansi lwehlisa ingcindezi
- 7. Uthando lukwenza uphile isikhathi eside
- 8. Ucansi luyakuxhumanisa
Kuzo zonke izimfanelo eziba nomthelela emshadweni onempilo, ojabulisayo, uthando luhamba phambili futhi lubaluleke kakhulu cishe kubo bonke abantu. Lokhu kukhuluma kabanzi ngamandla othando nokuthi yini engayenza ukusiza ukugcina ubudlelwane. Yilokho okuguqula ukubambisana okuhle kube yinto enhle, yilokho okwenza abathandi babe abangane abakhulu.
Ukubaluleka kothando emshadweni kucishe kungapheli. Ngemuva kwakho konke, umshado awulona ilungiselelo elilula njalo futhi ngaphandle kothando, awusoze wakwazi ukuba nokushayela, ukunaka, ukuzidela, nokubekezela okudingekayo ukwenza ubudlelwano bakho bube yimpumelelo ehlala njalo.
1. Uthando luletha injabulo
Uthando luthuthukisa injabulo. Yisho ukuthi uzokwenzani ngokuba nenkululeko nokuzimela, akukho lutho olufana nenduduzo nokuvikeleka kokwazi ukuthi uyanakekelwa.
Uma usothandweni umzimba wakho ukhipha i-dopamine, ikhemikhali elikhishwa “esikhungweni somvuzo” sobuchopho. Akumangazi-ke ukuthi i-dopamine ikwenza uzizwe waziswa, ujabulile, uklonyelisiwe, futhi wakhuthaza imizwa emihle.
Uthando luphinde lukhuthaze i-spike ku-hormone cortisol. Yize lokhu kuvame ukuhlotshaniswa nokuba "yi-Stress Hormone", esimweni sokuthandana, i-cortisol ayikwenzi uzizwe ukhathazekile kepha inesibopho salezo zimvemvane esiswini sakho, injabulo nentshisekelo enkulu oyitholayo uma uku izinhlungu zothando olusha.
Ezinye izifundo zize ziphakamise ukuthi njengoba ukhula uphuma othandweni lwe-puppy futhi uya othandweni oluvuthiwe, amazinga akho e-dopamine angahlala ephakeme.
2. Ucansi luqinisa amasosha akho omzimba
Ukwenza ucansi njalo nomlingani wakho onothando kungazuzisa amasosha akho omzimba. Imibhangqwana eshadile inamanani aphansi okudangala, ukusetshenziswa kabi kwezidakamizwa, nomfutho wegazi ophansi kunabalingani babo abangashadile. Isifo senhliziyo sibuye sivame kakhulu kulabo abahlala bodwa kunalabo abashadile.
3. Ukuvikeleka kwezezimali okwandisiwe
Ababili bangcono kunoyedwa, ikakhulukazi endabeni ye-akhawunti yakho yasebhange! Abalingani abashadile banamathuba amaningi okuthola ukuphepha kwezezimali futhi baqongelele ingcebo eningi ngokuhamba kwesikhathi kunaleyo engashadile noma ehlukanisile.
Ukuba nemiholo emibili kunikeza imibhangqwana ukuzinza kwezezimali, okunganciphisa ukucindezeleka, kwehlise isikweletu, futhi kuvumele ukuguquguquka emshadweni uma umlingani oyedwa engasebenza amatoho noma efisa ukuhlala ekhaya anakekele izingane noma eminye imithwalo yemfanelo.
4. Uthando luzala inhlonipho
Inhlonipho iyitshe legumbi lanoma yibuphi ubuhlobo obunempilo. Ngaphandle kwenhlonipho, uthando nokwethembana akukwazi ukukhula. Lapho uzizwa uhlonishwa, uyazi ukuthi amazwi akho, imicabango, nemizwa yakho iyaziswa. Uyakwazi ukwethemba ngokukhululeka lapho inhlonipho ikhonjiswa.
Ukubaluleka kwenhlonipho nothando emshadweni nakho kuhlobene nokuxhaswa ngokomzwelo. Uma unomlingani, oyazisayo imibono yakho futhi akuphathe kahle, uyakwazi ukuba sengozini futhi uthulule isifuba kuyo. Ukwesekwa okungokomzwelo kunomphumela omuhle empilweni yezengqondo nasebudlelwaneni jikelele nasekuzijabuliseni.
5. Ulala kangcono nalowo omthandayo
Esinye isici sokubaluleka kothando emshadweni? Ama-blanket-hogs nama-snore-hound eceleni, uzolala kangcono lapho ukhipha ngothando lwempilo yakho. Ucwaningo lukhombisa ukuthi imibhangqwana elala eduze komunye nomunye yayinamazinga aphansi e-cortisol, elala kahle ngokwengeziwe, futhi yalala ngokushesha kunalezo ezilala zodwa.
6. Ucansi lwehlisa ingcindezi
Ukubaluleka kothando emshadweni nakho kungazuzisa impilo yakho yengqondo. Ucwaningo lukhombisa ukuthi isizungu singaba nomthelela omubi empilweni yakho futhi singenza nezikhungo zezinhlungu ebuchosheni bakho. Lokhu kubangela ukuthi amazinga okukhathazeka akhuphuke.
Uthando nobulili kuyamangaza ekunqandeni ukucindezeleka nokukhathazeka. Lokhu kwenziwa ngokwengxenye ngokukhishwa kwe-bonding hormone oxytocin. Lesi 'sidakamizwa sothando' sinesibopho sokunamathisela okuzwayo ngemuva kokuthinta umuntu omthandayo, noma ngabe kuyinto esondelene njengokuya ocansini noma emnandi njengokubambana ngezandla.
I-Oxytocin ibuye yehlise amazinga okuxineka futhi ibhalansise ama-neurochemicals akho, okwenza ukuba ukukhathazeka kanye nengcindezi kuncibilike.
7. Uthando lukwenza uphile isikhathi eside
Imibhangqwana iguga kamnandi ukudlula abangashadile, noma kusho esinye isifundo se-University of Missouri. Ucwaningo olwenziwe nguMnyango Wezokuthuthukiswa Kwabantu kanye Nezifundo Zomndeni, luthole ukuthi, noma ngabe baneminyaka emingaki, labo abasemishadweni enenjabulo babheka impilo yabo njengephakeme kunozakwabo abangashadile.
Enye inzuzo yokuba nomshado ojabulisayo? Akugcini nje lapho ngokwezibalo ukuthi kungenzeka uphile isikhathi eside kunabantu abangashadile abangajabule, kepha ukungashadi, njengoba kuvezwe kulolu cwaningo, kwaba yisibikezelo esikhulu sokufa ngaphambi kwesikhathi.
Izikhathi zokuphila zabashadayo ezinde kucatshangwa ukuthi zithonywe ukwesekwa okungokomzwelo, okwenhlalo, kanye nezezimali okutholwe ngokuba yingxenye 'yabashadikazi'. Isibonelo, abantu abashadile nabo banamathuba amaningi okuthola usizo lwezokwelapha.
Olunye ucwaningo lwaseHarvard lwembula ukuthi abesilisa abashadile baphila isikhathi eside kunabesilisa abahlukanisile noma abangakaze bashade. Lokhu kucatshangwa ukuthi kungenxa yokuthi amadoda ashadile anciphisa indlela aphila ngayo (njengokuphuza, ukulwa, nokuthatha izingozi ezingadingekile) uma sebenobudlelwano obuzinikele.
8. Ucansi luyakuxhumanisa
Ukuxhumana ngocansi okunempilo kuyingxenye yothando emshadweni hhayi kuphela ngoba kuzwakala kukuhle ukusondela kumlingani wakho ngale ndlela, kepha ngoba kukuhlanganisa ngamakhemikhali.
Kwesinye isikhathi ibizwa ngokuthi 'isidakamizwa sothando', i-Oxytocin iyi-hormone enesibopho sokubopha okukhishwa lapho uthinta umlingani wakho okhulisa ngokwemvelo uthando, ukuzethemba, imizwa yokwethembana nethemba.
Ukubaluleka kothando emshadweni akupheli. Iletha izinzuzo zezempilo, isibopho esisondelene, impilo yezocansi ethuthukisiwe, futhi inciphisa lokho kucindezeleka kwansuku zonke nezinkathazo zokuphila. Ngaphandle kothando, wena nomlingani wakho anikwazanga ukujabulela ubudlelwano obujabulisayo nobunempilo.