Imvamisa, imibhangqwana eminingi ibhekana nezinxushunxushu emshadweni wayo ngenxa yobudlelwano obungebuhle nabasekhweni labo. Ngo-2013, izibalo ziveze ukuthi bangu-11% abantu abashadile abahlukene abasola izehlukaniso zabo ngenxa yobudlelwano obungebuhle nabasekhweni labo. Yize le nombolo ingekho phezulu ngokumangazayo, isathusa ngoba umshado akufanele neze uphele ngenxa yobudlelwano obubi ngenxa yabantu bangaphandle (bomshado).
Empilweni, akukuhle neze ukuba nobudlelwano obonakele futhi njengoba sikhula lokhu kuba yisiqiniseko. Njengabantu, iningi lethu lilwela ukuphila izimpilo ezakhayo, ezinomvuzo nezakhayo. Sifuna ukukhunjulwa ngezinto ezimangazayo esizenzile ezimpilweni zethu, hhayi okubi okungenzeka ukuthi sikwenzile endleleni. Enye indlela yokuqinisekisa ukuthi inkumbulo yethu iqhubeka nokuqiniseka ngokulungisa nokwakha phezu kwanoma yibuphi ubudlelwano obuphukile obukhona.
Uma ubhekene nobunzima ekulungiseni ubudlelwano bakho nabasekhweni, kepha ufuna ngobuqotho ukuxazulula izindaba, sinikeza iziphakamiso ezilandelayo ngezansi ukwenza lokhu kube lula kakhulu:
Okokuqala qonda ukuthi ubudlelwane bakho nabasekhweni lakho buwuthinta kanjani umshado wakho
- Oshade naye angaphatheka kabi noma acabange ukuthi awubazisi ngokwanele abazali bakhe
- Isikhathi somndeni, njengamaholide, singacekelwa phansi ngenxa yobudlelwano obubi
- Izingane zingathinteka futhi zizizwe zinemizwa engemihle
- Imizwa ilimele futhi izindlela zokuxhumana zingaqondwa kahle
Izindlela zokuthuthukisa ubudlelwano bakho nabasekhweni lakho
Ukuze unciphise inani lengcindezi elibekwa emshadweni wakho ngenxa yobudlelwano obungebuhle nabasekhweni lakho, landela iseluleko esingezansi bese ubona ukuthi ungabuqinisa kanjani ubudlelwano bakho nabasekhweni lakho:
- Vumela ukuxolela bese uqhubeka - ukubamba imizwa yentukuthelo noma intukuthelo kuzokulimaza wena kuphela, hhayi umuntu obangela ubuhlungu. Vumela ukuthi ukhululeke ebuhlungwini bese udlulela ezintweni ezibaluleke kakhulu futhi ezibaluleke kakhulu empilweni yakho.
- Esikhundleni sokucasuka, mhlawumbe zama ukuqonda ukuma kwabo bese ubachazela kahle. Vele lapho uthukuthele, amakhono wokuxhumana angathikamezeka. Zilungiselele ngaphambi kokwenza noma yiluphi uhlobo lwengxoxo ngokuzikhumbuza ukuthi uhlale uzolile futhi uchithe isikhashana ucabanga futhi ucubungula ngaphambi kokuphendula.
- Nquma ukubeka emuva okwenziwe esikhathini esedlule - Vumelanani ngokuthi okwenziwe noma okwashiwo esikhathini esedlule kuzohlala lapho; Akufanele kuxoxwe noma kusetshenziswe futhi engxoxweni elandelayo. Lokhu kuzosiza ukuphola ngobuhlungu okungenzeka ukuthi budalwe ukuvumela ukuthi uzizwe ukhululekile odabeni kanye namandla alo okukuthinta futhi.
- Qala ukuqhubekela phambili ngokwakha ebudlelwaneni bakho - Uma isikhathi silungile, qala ukwakha kancane kancane ebudlelwaneni bakho nabasekhweni lakho. Mhlawumbe ngokubamemela embuthanweni womndeni noma embuthanweni omncane osendlini yakho.
Yize empilweni sizohlangana nobudlelwano obubi, akusho ukuthi bonke ubudlelwano abulungiseki. Imvamisa, uma imigqa ecacile yokuxhumana ingavulwa futhi kuzwakale umuzwa wozwelo, ubudlelwano bethu obuningi bunamandla okumelana nesikhathi.