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- Ukuzizwa ungavikelekile ebudlelwaneni
- Yini ebangela ukungazethembi ebudlelwaneni?
- Yiziphi ezinye zezimbangela ezivame kakhulu zokungazethembi?
- Ungakunqoba kanjani ukungazethembi ebudlelwaneni
- Ungabhekana kanjani nezinkinga zokwethembana nokungavikeleki
- Ezinye izindlela zokunqoba ukungazethembi
Sonke sinezikhathi zokungabaza nokungazethembi ebudlelwaneni bethu.
Kungaba ukukhanya okudlula ngokushesha komuzwa; uthi uzizwa udangele futhi ucabanga ukuthi bonke abesifazane abasebenza nabo umyeni wakho bagqoke ngokungenasici ngemizimba eshisayo, enamathoni.
Uhlangabezana nesikhathi esifushane sokungavikeleki, kodwa kuyadlula.
Ukuzethemba kungokuhlangenwe nakho okuhlobene; umuzwa wawo wonke umuntu wokuzethemba ungavivinywa ngezikhathi zengcindezi, ukukhathala, izimo ezisongelayo noma ukulahleka.
Ukuzizwa ungavikelekile ebudlelwaneni
Kepha kukhona abanye bethu abanomuzwa ojulile, ogxile kakhulu wokungazethembi.
Ukuzethemba kwabo kuhlala kuphansi njalo. Umuzwa wabo wokuzethemba awuqhutshwa ngaphakathi.
Kuya ngobudlelwano bangaphandle.
Lokhu kungazethembi kudlulisela kukho konke okunamathiselwe, kubangele ukungazethembi emshadweni nakobunye ubudlelwano.
Ukungavikeleki kobudlelwano kubeka ubunzima obukhulu, kwesinye isikhathi obungenakuguqulwa emibhangqwaneni.
Ake sihlole ukuthi lo mzwelo uvelaphi, nokuthi ungamisa kanjani ukuzizwa ungavikelekile ebudlelwaneni.
Yini ebangela ukungazethembi ebudlelwaneni?
Isizathu esivame kakhulu sokungazethembi ebudlelwaneni ukungazethembi.
Umuntu ongabaza inani labo akazethembi othandweni nakwezinye izici zempilo yakhe.
Lolu hlobo lomuntu uqobo luzibona lodwa maqondana nabanye abantu.
Bathola ubunikazi babo, isiqinisekiso sabo kwabanye abantu, futhi uma lesi siqinisekiso singanikezwa, lo muntu uba nokuzethemba okukhulu.
Buka futhi:
Yiziphi ezinye zezimbangela ezivame kakhulu zokungazethembi?
Izimbangela ezivamile zokungazethembi zihlanganisa:
Izakhi zofuzo
Abanye abantu banezinhlelo zobuchopho ezivuswa kalula, okubenza bazizwe bengavikelekile ezimweni lapho abanye abantu bengeke bazizwe besongelwa.
Kungenxa yokuthi ubuchopho babo buhlala buqaphile njalo, bulungele ukusabela lapho kusongelwa khona.
Isipiliyoni sobuntwana
Uma ingane ikhulela emndenini lapho izizwa ingaphephile khona, ihlanjalazwa, ihlanjalazwa noma ihlukunyezwa, inamathuba amaningi okuba nezinkinga zokunamathiselwa njengabantu abadala, okuholele ekuthembekeni nasezindabeni zokuphepha kobudlelwano.
Ingane ekhuliswe endaweni engakhulisi, lapho bengenakuthembela ekuhlangabezaneni nezidingo zabo, imvamisa iba umuntu omdala ongazethembi.
Okuhlangenwe nakho okwedlule
Abantu abahlukunyeziwe, abalahliwe, abakhohlisiwe noma abakhashelwa esikhathini esedlule bazohlangana ngokuqondakalayo nobudlelwano obusha ngomuzwa wokungazethembi, ikakhulukazi uma bengasebenzanga futhi badlulise okwenzekile okubi.
Abantu abalahlekelwe, ikakhulukazi, ukuhlukana okuhlukumezayo, kungenzeka bahlakulele ukungazethembi kobuhlobo ngenxa yokwesaba ukuthi bangalahlekelwa ngumlingani wabo wamanje.
Lokhu kusebenza ngokungahambisani nobudlelwano, ngoba ukuqubuzana, indlela yokugwema ukungqubuzana, ukungazikhulumi ngokwakho abwenzi ubuhlobo obulinganiselayo nobenelisayo.
Lokhu-ke kuba yisiphrofetho esizigcwalisayo: umuntu ongazethembi othandweni empeleni ugcina eshayela kude, lowo muntu abafuna ukuzizwa evikelekile ngaye.
Ungakunqoba kanjani ukungazethembi ebudlelwaneni
Uma ubona iphethini yokungazethembi kobudlelwano, ungalahli ithemba.
Kunamasu amaningi ongawabeka ukuze uphume kuleli phethini bese uqala ukubhekana nezinkinga zokuthembana nokungavikeleki.
Ungabhekana kanjani nezinkinga zokwethembana nokungavikeleki
Konke kuqala ngokwazi ukuthi uyakufanelekela uthando oluhle, olunempilo.
Ukuba nobudlelwano obuyimpumelelo nokunqoba ukungazethembi kuzosho ukususa konke ukulahlekelwa okwedlule, ubuhlungu, ukuhlukunyezwa nokunye okuhlangenwe nakho okunikele esimweni sakho samanje.
Nazi ezinye izindlela zokushintsha ukuzibona kwakho
Ubalulekile
Qala ngale mantra encane, uzitshele usuku ngalunye ukuthi ubalulekile.
Yenza uhlu lwabo bonke abantu obaziyo ubakhathalele. Cabanga ngezikhathi enibe nizwana ngazo, futhi ake uzizwe ukwazisa nothando lwabo.
Bona i-ejensi yakho
Labo abazizwa bengavikelekile othandweni bavame ukunganaki ukukhumbula ukuthi banamandla okuzikhethela.
Ukuba ne-ejensi kusho ukuba nemibono, izwi, ukuthi ukukholelwa kulokho okucabangayo nokushoyo kubalulekile futhi kunomthelela engxoxweni.
Imvamisa abantu abazethembi emshadweni wabo bayanqena ukucela noma yini; bacabanga ngokugwema izingxabano bangakwazi "ukugcina ukuthula" ngakho-ke bagcine umlingani wabo angabashiyi.
Kumele wazi ukuthi ubudlelwano lapho ungeke ukwazi khona ukuletha izinkinga ngenxa yokwesaba ukuthi oshade naye uzokushiya abukho ubudlelwano obufanele ukubugcina.
Unamandla, uyigugu, futhi unamandla okuzikhethela. Zizwe amandla!
Ezinye izindlela zokunqoba ukungazethembi
Ukukhula komuntu ngokusebenzisa ukuxhumana
Kwesinye isikhathi labo ababhekene nokungazethembi abanakho ukuxhumana, ikakhulukazi ukuxhumana ngokomoya.
Lokhu akudingi ukuthi kube okwenkolo, noma kungaba njalo.
Noma imuphi umuzwa wokuxhumeka entweni engaphandle kwakho kungakusiza uzizwe uthemba kakhulu kwabanye.
Abantu abazindla nsuku zonke, noma abenza ukucabanga, noma abenza i-yoga, babika umuzwa omkhulu wokulondeka ngaphakathi kwabo nasebudlelwaneni babo.
Ngale mikhuba exhumanisayo kuza umuzwa wokuzola, ukuzihlonipha, nokuzizwa uphephile noma ngabe kwenzekani emhlabeni wangaphandle.
Ukuzivocavoca okuhle kakhulu ongakusiza lapho ubhekene nokungazethembi ngoba kukunikeza umuzwa wolaka nokuphepha komuntu siqu.