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Ubudlelwano obuhlukumeza ngokomzwelo buyinqubo eqhubekayo lapho umuntu oyedwa anciphisa intando nezintshisekelo zomunye umuntu ukuze ekugcineni aqede inhlalakahle yomuntu lowo.
Ukuhlukumeza kungaba ngokwengqondo, ngokomzimba, ngokwengqondo, noma ngamazwi, futhi imvamisa kuyinhlanganisela yalokhu.
Njengoba ubudlelwano buvame ukufakwa ngokuheha okunamandla ngokomzwelo (ukuhlukunyezwa kungafaka umzali enganeni, ingane kumzali, phakathi kwezelamani noma ngisho naphakathi kwabangane), kuyamangaza ukuthi kungani umhlukumezi ephoqeleka ukuthi enze ngendlela ecekela phansi futhi engenazithelo.
Noma imuphi umhlukumezi ebudlelwaneni empeleni uziphendulela isibhamu - ngomqondo ongokomfanekiso - ngokonakalisa umoya wokunye kwabo okubalulekile nokuzidalela umonakalo ongacaciswanga.
Ukuhlukumeza kungabonakala njengokuyingxenye yokuziphatha okuzilimazayo.
Izisulu zithola inqwaba yezimpawu zokuzilimaza, ziba nemikhuba yokuzibulala ngesikhathi, futhi kancane kancane zicwila olwandle olukhulu lokudangala.
Ukuphulukiswa ekuhlukunyezweni ngokomzwelo noma ukwelulama ekuhlukunyezweni okungokomzwelo kulabo abahlukumezekile, ngakho-ke, kuba inqubo ekhathazayo nebuhlungu kakhulu.
Ngakho-ke, ungalulama kanjani ekuhlukunyezweni ngokomzwelo ngumlingani noma ngumlingani? Futhi ingabe ukululama ekuhlukunyezweni ngokomzwelo kungenzeka ngempela?
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Bheka futhi: Ungaziqhelelanisa kanjani nomhlukumezi ngokomzwelo
Ukuhlukunyezwa ngokomzwelo kufana nombulali othule ohlasela umuzwa futhi abulale ithemba. Nazi ezinye
Umuntu osebenzisa imizwa ngendlela ehlukumezayo kungenzeka angabi nomuzwa wokuthi kukhona okubi akwenzayo.
Ukuhlukumeza esimweni somzwelo akugcini ngokulinganiselwa kumuntu ovelele ebudlelwaneni - owesilisa noma owesifazane - futhi kwesinye isikhathi kungaba ngumlingani 'obuthakathaka' osebenzisa ukuhlukunyezwa ukuze azuze amandla nokulawula.
Ukuze ululame ebudlelwaneni obabuhlukumeza ngokomzwelo, bobabili umenzi wobubi kanye nalowo ohlukunyezwayo badinga ukufuna usizo. Ukuxazulula uhhafu wezingqinamba ebudlelwaneni obuhlukumezayo akukaze kube yisixazululo ngaphandle kwalapho ubuhlobo buchithwa.
Noma kunjalo, abahlukunyezwayo kuphela abazothola induduzo ekuziphatheni okuphazamisayo.
Usizo kulabo abahlukunyezwayo
Abantu abaningi abahlukunyezwa emakhaya bazizwa sengathi bodwa, futhi abantu ngeke baqonde noma bakholwe ababhekene nakho.
Noma kunjalo, awuwedwa.
Kukhona ochwepheshe abakhona abazokuqonda, abakholwa nguwe, nabafuna ukukusiza ukuthi ululame ekuhlukunyezweni ngokomzwelo.
Ochwepheshe bakhona ukuvele bakulalele futhi bakweseke, uma kwenzeka wenza imizamo yokufuna ukuholwa okunobungani noma ukusiza ukuthatha izinyathelo zokulapha ukuhlukunyezwa okungokomzwelo, noma uma kufanele unqume ukuhlela ukushiya ubudlelwano obukuhlukumezayo.
Ubuchwepheshe babo buzosiza izisulu ekwelapheni ekuhlukunyezweni ngokomzwelo nangamazwi futhi zibuyele esimweni esijwayelekile kancane kancane.
Noma ngubani odinga ukukhuluma ngokuzethemba maqondana nokuhlukunyezwa kwasekhaya noma ofuna izindlela zokulapha ekuhlukunyezweni ngokomzwelo kufanele aqale ngocwaningo ngezinsizakalo zendawo.
Ukusebenzisa amakhompyutha kanye ne-inthanethi emtatsheni wezincwadi wendawo kuzogcina ukuphequlula idatha kuma-computer omuntu siqu nawasekhaya angavela engahlosile futhi acasule umhlukumezi.
Uma imishini yasekhaya isetshenziselwa ukusesha usizo, qiniseka ukuthi usula yonke idatha kusuka ekuphequluleni izikhathi futhi ugcine izinombolo zefoni zigcinwe ngokuphepha.
Abahlukumezi bangaba nomkhuba wokuhlola ngasese indlela oziphethe ngayo obekungeke kube okungajwayelekile emqondweni wabo.
Ukusesha okulula kwemishwana efana nokuthi "usizo ngokuhlukumeza [igama ledolobha noma idolobha]" kuvamise ukuletha ulwazi oludingayo.
Abanye ochwepheshe, njengamaphoyisa, abaholi bezenkolo (umfundisi noma umpristi), izindawo zokukhosela zomphakathi, izinkantolo zomndeni, izindawo zokunakekelwa kwabagula ngengqondo, kanye nabasebenzi bezempilo bangakwazi ukunikeza izeluleko zokuthi ungalulama kanjani ekuhlukunyezweni futhi bakuthinte ekusekelweni kokuhlukunyezwa kwasekhaya izinsizakalo nalabo abagxile ekulethweni kwezinsizakalo zabanukubeziwe.
Yize umndeni oseduzane kungesona njalo isisetshenziswa esihle kakhulu sokubhekana nokuhlukunyezwa kwasekhaya, ukuhlanganisa usizo lwamalungu omndeni nabangane abathembekile kungaba yindlela yokuthatha lezo zinyathelo zokuqala ngokuzethemba.
Lapho ululama ekuhlukunyezweni ngokomzwelo emshadweni ngaphezu kwakho konke, umgomo wakho ukuthi ube ngumuntu osindile ekuhlukunyezweni futhi hhayi kabuhlungu kakhulu kwezisulu.
Nakekela ukuhlela kwakho futhi unakekele ucwaningo lwakho kuze kube yilapho usukulungele ukwenza uhlelo lokwenza. Zama ukungenzi ngenxa yokwesaba.
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Usizo kumhlukumezi
Ukwazi ukuthi uhlukumeze umlingani wakho kuyinto evame ukuphuma ngemiphumela emibi noma izingxabano.
Kuliqiniso elidabukisayo ukuthi ukugcwaliseka kubonakala kuphela uma isimo sesikhule kakhulu. Noma kunjalo, umkhuba ohlukumezayo noma i-ajenda yinto enzima, kepha engenakwenzeka ukuyiguqula.
Ukuthatha umthwalo wemfanelo ngezenzo zakho yinto edingekayo yokulungisa nokususa isimilo esibi.
Ngokubona ukuthi lezi zenzo zingezakho - hhayi into etshalwe yisikhuthazi sangaphandle - noma umlingani wakho noma umgomo wokuhlukunyezwa - kubeka umthwalo wemfanelo ngokuphelele emahlombe omhlukumezi.
Lokhu kungeniswa kungasabisa futhi kube nzima ukuphatha. Kodwa-ke, umhlukumezi akudingeki ukuthi ahambe yedwa.
Njengoba nje usizo lochwepheshe lutholakala ekululameni kokuhlukunyezwa ngokomzwelo, kunezinsizakusebenza umhlukumezi angazisebenzisa emizameni yokuguqula indlela yakhe yokuziphatha nokwakha kabusha izimpilo zabo kanye nobudlelwano babo uma kungenzeka lokhu kungenzeka.
Njengoba kunjalo ngezisulu, ukufuna izinsizakusebenza zasendaweni kwi-inthanethi kungaba isinyathelo sokuqala esihle, futhi nokufuna usizo lokulawulwa kwentukuthelo, abeluleki bokuhlukumeza, noma ezinye izinhlangano kanye nokwelashwa ngakunye kungasiza ekufundiseni umhlukumezi ukuba afinyelele emigomweni futhi aphathe isimilo.
Ukutshela umuntu oshade naye / omunye wakho obalulekile noma udaba lokuhlukunyezwa, noma ngabe uqotho ngaphambi kokuthatha ezinye izinyathelo, kuzobonakala njengesinye isenzo sokukhohlisa.
Kuzo zonke izimo, bobabili abahlukumezekile nabahlukumezayo kufanele bafune uhlobo oluthile losizo lokuthi bangaphulukisa kanjani ekuhlukunyezweni futhi bangakhohliswa ngokucabanga ukuthi ukusula usongo olusheshayo kuzolungisa isimilo noma ukulimala okungokomzwelo okudalwe ukuhlukunyezwa.
Lezo ezingxenyeni zezimo ezihlukumezayo njengezingane nazo zingazuza ekwelulekeni. Baxhashazwa ngokufanayo, uma kungenjalo ngqo, futhi badinga usizo ngokuphulukiswa ezimweni zokuhlukumezeka ngokomzwelo.
Ukuphulukiswa ngemuva kokuhlukunyezwa ngokomzwelo noma ukululama ekubeni ngumhlukumezi kungaba yindlela enzima okufanele uyilandele, kepha ngesiqondiso nosizo olufanele, ungathola induduzo ebudlelwaneni bakho nasempilweni yakho.
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