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- Bangobani ama-narcissists?
- Kungani ama-narcissists enobuthi kangaka?
- Ingabe oshade naye noma umlingani wakho ungumhlukumezi ohlukumezayo?
- Ungabaleka kanjani kumuntu obiza ngama-narcissist?
Ungahle uzibuze ukuthi kwenzeka kanjani ukuthi isisulu sokuhlukunyezwa ngokweqile singakuboni bese sibaleka, singalokothi sibheke emuva! Kepha, njengoba sizokukhombisa kule ndatshana, abakwa-narcissists bangabantu abakhohlisayo kakhulu, futhi bathambekele ekutholeni abalingani abanjalo abajwayele ukubekezelela ukuhlukunyezwa. Empeleni, noma ngubani angaba isisulu sokuhlukunyezwa. Kepha, kunokuhlangenwe nakho okuthile kwempilo okwenza abanye bethu babe sengozini yokuhlala endaweni engenampilo isikhathi eside kakhulu. Ngakho-ke, nansi indlela yokubona ukuhlukunyezwa kwe-narcissistic nokuqoqa isibindi sokubaleka!
Bangobani ama-narcissists?
I-narcissism igama elisetshenziswe ngokweqile kwengqondo. Ngeshwa, abantu abaningi bakholelwa ukuthi bayazi ukuthi ngubani umuntu osebenzisa izidakamizwa, futhi bagijimela ekubizeni othile njengoyedwa. Lokhu kucishe kulimaze ngokufanayo ukungamqapheli umuntu osebenzisa izidakamizwa lapho beqala ukulawula impilo yakho kancane kancane. Kuningi okumele ukuqonde mayelana ne-narcissism njengesifo nanjengobuntu (nangaphezulu), futhi ungafunda le ncwadi ukuze uqonde kahle lo mqondo, ngokwesibonelo.
Kodwa-ke, ngamafuphi, i-narcissism ingabhekwa njengokuqhubeka, nabantu "abazicabangela bodwa" nabazithandayo ngakolunye uhlangothi, kanye nokugula okugcwele kwengqondo kokunye.
Futhi akuwona wonke ama-narcissist abahlukumezi, yize kunzima kakhulu ukubhekana nobudlelwano phakathi kwabantu.
Ngemininingwane engaphezulu mayelana nokuphazamiseka kobuntu be-narcissistic, hlola le ndatshana. Kuyo, sichaza ngokuningiliziwe ukuthi izifo zengqondo zesimanje nezengqondo zibona kanjani i-narcissism. Njengoba uzofunda lapho, kunento efana nokuphazamiseka kobuntu kwe-narcissistic.
Yisimo sempilo yengqondo esithathwa njengesinzima noma esingenakwenzeka ukwelashwa. Kuyisiphazamiso sempilo yakho yonke esingalawulwa ngezinga elithile (uma kunjalo) uma umuntu ezimisele ukuvuma ekuboneni nasezidingweni zabanye abantu. Okuvame ukwenzeka.
Kungani ama-narcissists enobuthi kangaka?
Kuma-narcissists, kumayelana nokulawulwa. Badinga ukulawula yonke imininingwane eyodwa yezimpilo zabo, nakho konke okubathintayo (nasengqondweni yomuntu othanda izinto ezingekho emthethweni, konke kubabheka). Lokhu kungenxa yokuthi bathembele ngokuphelele ekugcineni isithombe sabo esihle, noma kungenjalo bazohlanya. Kungakho benza ukuthi wonke umuntu obazungezile ahambe ehlanya esikhundleni salokho.
Ngakolunye uhlangothi, i-narcissist ayinandaba nakancane nalokho okushoyo. Baziqhelelanise futhi baqhelelene, noma kunjalo, uma isiteji silungiswe kahle, bangazenza ngathi bathakaselwe kakhulu yiyo yonke into oyishoyo - uma lokho kusekela isithombe sabo esihle. Ngakolunye uhlangothi, baba namandla kakhulu uma kukhulunywa ngezidingo zabo futhi bazongena ebusweni nasemphefumulweni wakho ukuthola isiqinisekiso abasidingayo.
Bazokukhohlisa kancane kancane ukuthi uzinikele ngokuphelele kubo hhayi okunye. Lapho bekuthola kuwebhu yabo, okuvame ukuthi kukwenza uthandane nabo ngokuhlanya futhi ushiye zonke izintshisekelo zakho, izinto ozithandayo, izifiso, abangane nomndeni bangaba nomoya omkhulu (futhi kwesinye isikhathi bahlukumeze ngokomzimba).
Ingabe oshade naye noma umlingani wakho ungumhlukumezi ohlukumezayo?
Uma uzibuza lokho, kungenzeka. Uma ungaqiniseki, ungafunda ngezinye zezimpawu zama-narcissists ebudlelwaneni lapha. Empeleni, kumayelana nabo, futhi kuzohlala kukhulunywa ngabo njalo.
Azinamahloni ngaphambi kokuba zikulimaze ukuze nje zikwenze kube lula ukuzibamba.
Abasoze bakuvumela ukuthi ubagxeke futhi bazoba nentukuthelo ngento encane kakhulu uma kungenjalo ngentando yabo.
Indlela yabo yokuhlukumeza kunzima kakhulu ukubhekana nayo ngoba ingakholisa ngokweqile.
Babedinga ukuziqinisekisa ngokwabo ukubaluleka kwabo (yize bezenyanya ngempela, kodwa abasoze bavuma ngakho). Bazokufuna ukuthi "uphelele" ngokulingana njengoba benjalo ngoba bakubheka njengokwelulwa ngokwabo. Hhayi ngendlela enhle. Bazokuncisha zonke izidingo, bakuhlukanise nawo wonke umuntu, futhi bakugcine lapho ukuze nje ujabulise ubuqili bobukhulu babo.
Ungabaleka kanjani kumuntu obiza ngama-narcissist?
Okokuqala, ake sibhekane nezindaba ezimbi kuqala - kungaba nzima ukwenza njalo! Kepha, izindaba ezimnandi zi - to a point.
Okwesibili baphelelwa yisithakazelo kuwe bese bedlulela kokunye (kubo, yilokho oyikho), uzobe ukhululekile.
Kodwa-ke, i-narcissist empeleni ayizethembi kakhulu. Kungakho bazojwayela ukunamathela kothile futhi bakwenze kungakwazi ukuthi bahambe.
I-narcissist izothokozela inqubo edabukisayo yesehlukaniso ngoba lesi yisigaba esifanele sokudlala noma iyiphi indima abangayithola ihlekisa ngaleso sikhathi. Kungakho udinga ukuzungeza ngokusekelwa, okuvela emndenini nakubangane nakwabachwepheshe. Lungiselela impi ende, futhi ithiphu enhle kunazo zonke - cabanga ngezindlela zokubenza bakholelwe ukuthi banqobile. Bese ugijima!