-Delile
Ukuhlukana nomlingani onobuthi kungenye into, kepha ukusuka ebudlelwaneni obunobuthi kungenye into. Ukukhipha umuntu onobuthi empilweni yakho kuyisinyathelo sokuqala nje sokuqeda ubudlelwano obakulimaze, ngandlela thile.Kukholakala ukuthi lapho ubudlelwane obunobuthi buphela, ikakhulukazi lapho omunye wabalingani ehlukunyezwa ngokomzimba noma ngokomzwelo, abantu bangazama okuthile okufana kakhulu ne-PTSD (post-traumatic stress disorder).
Zishiya izibazi
Ubudlelwano obunobuthi bushiya amanxeba ahlala isikhathi eside ekuzihlonipheni komuntu, ekuzethembeni nasengqondweni yakhe, amanxeba angaphola kakhulu. Yize la manxeba ekugcineni ezophola, noma kunjalo azoshiya izibazi.
Ngemuva kokuthi ubusebudlelwaneni obuhlukumezayo noma obubi nganoma yiluphi uhlobo isikhathi eside, uzofunda ukungakubekezeleli ukuphathwa kabi ngokomzwelo noma ngokomzimba.
Kufanele uqonde ukuthi uma ukwazi ukunakekela ingqondo yakho, umzimba nomphefumulo, ngisho nezibazi ezijule kakhulu ziyonyamalala uma unesineke futhi unengqondo efanele yokuzivumela ziphole.
Ayikho into efana neresiphi yomlingo ejwayelekile yokuthola ubudlelwane obubi. Ama-traumas angahluka, kepha kunezinto ezithile ezizothuthukisa isimo somqondo cishe sanoma yimuphi umuntu ohlangabezana nobudlelwano obubi.
Okokuqala, kufanele uqonde ukuthi inhlalakahle yakho iyona nto ebaluleke kakhulu okumele uyikweleta wena nokuthi kungumthwalo wakho nomsebenzi ophelele ukukufeza.
Zinike isikhathi
Enye yezinto ezibaluleke kakhulu okufanele uzicabangele lapho ufuna ukuqhubeka nobudlelwano obubi ukuthi kufanele uzinikeze isikhathi sakho sokuqonda okwenzekile nokuthi yini ongayenza ukuze ungaphinde uzithole.
Awudingi ukuzilahla, kufanele uqonde nje ukuthi udinga ukuzinakekela kangcono ngokuzayo.
Qala ngokuhamba amabanga amade epaki, okunciphise ukukhulula izingcindezi. Chitha isikhathi esiningi ngangokunokwenzeka emvelweni, jabulela ukukhanya kwelanga nokuzivocavoca umzimba noma ukugijima nsuku zonke uma kungenzeka. Ukuvivinya umzimba kuyindlela enhle yokusebenzisa isikhathi sakho futhi kuyasebenza ekunciphiseni ukucindezeleka.
Thatha umdlalo wokuzilibazisa, okuthile kobuciko njengokupenda, ukuthatha izithombe, ukubhala noma umculo. Khetha okuthile othanda ukukwenza, okuthile okugcina ingqondo yakho imatasa kepha futhi nasekuxhumaneni okuvulekile nomphefumulo wakho.
Xhuma nabathandekayo bakho ngangokunokwenzeka, ngoba abangane bakho nomndeni wakho bazokunikeza konke ukwesekwa okudingayo ngenkathi ubuyela ezinyaweni zakho futhi.
Thatha abangani bakho niye emicimbini, emakhonsathini, emidlalweni yeshashalazi, emidlalweni yamahlaya noma kumabhayisikobho. Funda izincwadi ezikuthandayo. Kunezindlela eziningi zokuziphazamisa futhi uthole okuthile okujabulisayo nokukhiqizayo ukuze ubalekele imicabango yakho uthumele ubuhlobo obubi.
Hlala uphilile futhi uzihlanganise nabantu
Enye into ebaluleke kakhulu ukuthola ukulala kwakho nokunamathela ekudleni okunempilo. Uma uhlelo lwakho lukuvumela, zibhukhele uhambo lokuya endaweni obukade ufuna ukuyivakashela.
Ukuhamba kudla umphefumulo wakho futhi kucebise ukukhula kwakho ngokomoya, futhi kukuvumela ukuthi uhlangane nabantu futhi wakhe abangane abasha.
Yenza izinkumbulo ezintsha nabangani bakho ubasize bakusize. Ungazihlukanisi nomhlaba, noma ngabe lesi kuyisinqumo sokuqala esivela emqondweni wakho ngemuva kobudlelwano obubi obudlule kubo.
Yize isikhathi siphulukisa cishe sonke isilonda, uma uzizwa unengcindezi enkulu noma uma uzwa ukuthi ukudabuka noma eminye imizwa engemihle ingaphezu kwakho futhi iyasinda futhi awukwazi ukuyilawula, kufanele ucabange ukubona owelapha. Khumbula ukuthi ukuba nomqondo ophilile kubaluleke njengokuthola umzimba ophilile.
Uma ufuna ukuqhubeka nobudlelwano obubi, kufanele uchithe isikhathi esithe xaxa sekhwalithi nawe, uzibandakanye emisebenzini ekunika amandla, ukuxhumana nabangane bakho nomndeni wakho, uhambe ngangokunokwenzeka futhi ube nguwe uqobo.
Yiba nethemba futhi ukhumbule ukuthi ubudlelwano obubi obubodwa abukuchazi njengomuntu noma izinqumo ozozenza ngokuzayo. Bona uhlangothi oluqhakazile lwempilo bese umamatheka ngangokunokwenzeka.