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- Kungani izidakamizwa zikhanga kwezinye izingane hhayi kwabanye?
- 1. Chitha isikhathi nezingane zakho
- 2.Yala ingane yakho, kodwa ngendlela efanele nangemiphumela ezwakalayo
- 3. Fundisa ingane yakho ukuthi kuhle ukuzwa imizwa
- 4. Yiba yisibonelo esihle
- 5. Fundisa ingane yakho ngemininingwane efanele iminyaka
Yinto wonke umzali akhathazeka ngayo ngokuthi uzoyikhulisa kanjani ingane ukuze bathi cha ezidakamizweni nakwezinye izinto eziguqula ingqondo. Ibhayisikobho yakamuva (nendaba eyiqiniso) uBuhle Boy usikhombisa isithombe esethusayo sokulutha kwentsha, lapho umfana aqala khona ukukhipha insangu eneminyaka engu-11 eyaphenduka umlutha ogcwele wacishe wambulala amahlandla amaningi.
Kuyiphupho elibi kakhulu lomzali elethwe esikrinini. Kepha noma ngabe ubuka leyo movie nezingane zakho, ucabanga ukuthi kungaba yisithiyo kunoma ikuphi ukulingwa kwezidakamizwa okungenzeka ukuthi izingane zakho zingalingeka ukuthi zikulinge, ngabe ukubona ukuthi umlutha ubukeka kanjani kunganele ukuvimba ingane yakho ekusebenziseni izidakamizwa? Ngemuva kwakho konke, engqondweni yakhe, "wonke umuntu uyakwenza, futhi akekho olimalayo."
Ochwepheshe abasebenza ngezinkinga zokulutha, ikakhulukazi imilutha yentsha, bonke bayavuma ukuthi indlela engcono kakhulu yokuvimba izingane ezidakamizweni ngemfundo yezingane zisencane - imfundo ebandakanya ukwakha ukuzethemba, ukuthuthukisa amakhono avumela ingane yakho ukuthi cha ngiyabonga ngaphandle kokuzwa noma yini amahloni, futhi bafuna ukwenza okusemandleni ngomzimba nangengqondo yabo.
Ingane enombono onempilo ngempilo nangendima yayo emhlabeni ayilingwa kakhulu ukuthi ihambisane nezidakamizwa. Ingane ezwa inhloso, inhloso, kanye nokuzithanda ayinantshisekelo ekuthatheni konke lokho ohambweni lokubonisana.
Kunocwaningo oluningi olufakazela ukuthi imvelo esekhaya lomntwana iyona ethonya kakhulu ekunqumeni ukuthi ingane izoba umlutha wezidakamizwa. Yize lokhu kutholwa kungaqinisa idolo kubazali abesaba ingcindezi yontanga enobuthi ezinganeni zabo, futhi kungadala ukukhathazeka ngokubeka umthwalo omkhulu endimeni yobuzali.
Abazali abaningi bayazibuza ukuthi yiziphi izinto ezibaluleke kakhulu nokuthi ungazivikela kanjani izingane ezidakamizweni? Ingabe kufanele babeke imingcele eqinile nemiphumela? Kufanele babambe iqhaza elingakanani ezimpilweni zezingane zabo? Yini okufanele bayitshele izingane zabo ngezidakamizwa?
Kungani izidakamizwa zikhanga kwezinye izingane hhayi kwabanye?
Ucwaningo lucace bha - ukuluthwa yizidakamizwa nezidakamizwa kuyisibonakaliso sobuhlungu obujulile. Intsha ivame ukuqala ukuzama izidakamizwa ukuze indikindiki kusukela ekuphakameni okungokomzwelo nokwehla sonke esidlula kukho ngesikhathi sobusha. Bangena kule minyaka yesiyaluyalu bengahlonyiselwe ukukhipha izigaxa ezinamadwala zale ndlela yokuphila. Bathatha ukushaywa kokuqala kwejoyinti lomngane, noma bahoge umugqa we-coke, futhi ngokungazelelwe konke kube lula ukuzulazula.
Futhi kukhona ingozi!
Esikhundleni sokufunda amakhono okubhekana nokubaluleka okubalulekile ukuze ube umuntu omdala, osemusha ubuyela kaninginingi entweni ebivumela ukuthi bangazizwa.
Kufakwe i-loop yempendulo: izikhathi ezinzima -> thatha ezinye izidakamizwa-> uzizwe umuhle.
Ukugwema lolu gibe, kufanele ufundise ingane yakho kusukela isencane isipho sokukhulisa amakhono okubhekana nesimo.
Ngakho-ke, umbuzo ukuthi ungazivimba kanjani izingane ukuthi zingazisebenzisi izidakamizwa? Izimiso ezinhlanu eziyisisekelo zokukhulisa izingane ezizothi cha ezidakamizweni -
1. Chitha isikhathi nezingane zakho
Kusukela ebuntwaneni, yenza ukuchitha isikhathi nezingane zakho kube yinto eza kuqala. Uma unabo, ungabi ocingweni lwakho. Sonke sibabonile omama behleli ebhentshini lepaki ebaleni lokudlala, bacwiliswa efonini yabo ehlakaniphile ngenkathi ingane yabo imemeza ithi “ngibheke mama, ngibuke ngehla ngesilayidi!”
Kubuhlungu kanjani lapho umama engabheki nokubheka phezulu. Uma ulingeka ngocingo lwakho, ungahambi nalo uma usuphumile futhi uhamba nengane yakho.
Kungani kubaluleke kangaka ukuchitha isikhathi nezingane zakho?
Kubalulekile ngoba isimilo sokulutha ezinganeni asiveli ngenxa yokuntuleka kwesiyalo sabazali, kodwa ngenxa yokungaxhumani. Izingane ezingazizwa zisondelene nomama noma nobaba, ezizizwa zinganakiwe, zisengozini enkulu yokusebenzisa kabi izidakamizwa.
2.Yala ingane yakho, kodwa ngendlela efanele nangemiphumela ezwakalayo
Ucwaningo lukhombisile ukuthi intsha engena ezidakamizweni kaningi kunabazali abasebenzisa amasu okulawula ngokobushiqela, uhlobo lwendlela "yendlela yami noma umgwaqo omkhulu". Lokhu kungaholela ekubeni ingane ibe yimfihlo, ifihle noma yikuphi ukuziphatha okubi.
Bazosebenzisa izidakamizwa njengohlobo lokuvukela isimo sengcindezelo sabazali babo. Ngakho-ke, ungazivimba kanjani izingane ukuthi zingazisebenzisi izidakamizwa? Kulula! Vele usebenzise ukujezisa okunomusa, wenze isijeziso sibe nomphumela onengqondo olingana nokuziphatha okubi, futhi uhambisane nesijeziso sakho ukuze ingane iqonde imingcele.
3. Fundisa ingane yakho ukuthi kuhle ukuzwa imizwa
Ingane efunda ukuthi kulungile ukuzizwa iyingane engasengozini encane yokuphendukela ezintweni ukuze izame futhi ilahle imizwa emibi.
Fundisa ingane yakho indlela yokuhamba ezikhathini ezidabukisayo, uyinikeze ukusekelwa nokuqinisekiswa ukuthi izinto ngeke zihlale zizizwa zimbi njalo.
4. Yiba yisibonelo esihle
Uma ufika ekhaya, zithele iscotch noma ezimbili bese uthi “Hawu ndoda, lokhu kuzosusa ekugcineni. Ngibe nosuku olunzima! ”, Ungamangali ukuthi ingane yakho izolingisa lolo hlobo lokuziphatha futhi icabange ukuthi kudingeka into yangaphandle ukuze ikwazi ukubhekana nengcindezi.
Ngakho-ke bhekisisa imikhuba yakho, kufaka phakathi ukusetshenziswa kwezidakamizwa kadokotela, bese uzivumelanisa nayo. Uma udinga usizo ngokulutha utshwala noma izidakamizwa, zifunele ukwesekwa.
5. Fundisa ingane yakho ngemininingwane efanele iminyaka
Umntwana wakho oneminyaka emithathu ngeke aqonde inkulumo yokuthi umlutha we-cocaine uyilutha kangakanani. Kepha, bangaqonda lapho ubafundisa ngokugwema imikhiqizo enobuthi, ukungasebenzisi umuthi ngaphandle uma kunesidingo kwezempilo, nokuthi ungawuphekela kanjani umzimba wabo ngezithelo nemifino emihle, enomsoco.
Ngakho-ke qala okuncane lapho emincane, bese ukala ulwazi njengoba ingane yakho ikhula. Lapho befika eminyakeni yabo yobusha, sebenzisa izikhathi ezifundisekayo (njengokubuka ifilimu i-Beautiful Boy, noma eminye imidwebo yokwengeza kwabezindaba) njengesisekelo sokuxhumana. Qiniseka ukuthi izingane zakho ezisencane ziyaqonda ukuthi umlutha uqala kanjani, nokuthi kungenzeka kunoma ngubani kungakhathalekile imali, imfundo, ubudala.
Imilutha akuyona "abantu abangenamakhaya nje".
Ngakho-ke ukuphendula umbuzo wakho, ungazivimba kanjani izingane ukuthi zingazisebenzisi izidakamizwa, nanka amaphuzu amahlanu okufanele uwagcine engqondweni.