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- Vuma ukuthi lokhu kuyenzeka
- Thola iqembu lokusekela
- Vimbela ukukhuluma okungalungile
- Zinike isikhathi sokululama
- Uma usukulungele, susa ikhaya lakho izikhumbuzo ngaye
- Zibandakanye ekuzijabuliseni okusha nokuyinselele
- Ukuqomisana okuku-inthanethi kungaba yinto enhle
- Ubuhlungu obuzwayo bungasetshenziselwa ukudala uhlobo olungcono lwakho
- Thola ibhalansi ephelele yesikhathi sedwa nesikhathi sesikhathi somngane
Umyeni wakho ucele isehlukaniso, wena uboshwe emehlweni. Kuke kwaba nezikhathi zokungajabuli emshadweni wakho, impela, kodwa akukho obucabanga ukuthi kungaze kumenze akushiye.
Umshade impilo yonke futhi ubungakaze ucabange ukuthi uzosayina amaphepha ukuqeda isikhathi sakho njengabantu abashadile.
Futhi ... usamthanda.
Kungenzeka ukuthi wakukhaphela ngomunye. Kungenzeka ukuthi ukuthandile futhi ubona sengathi akunakwenzeka ukuvuselela leyo mizwa yothando. Kungenzeka ukuthi unenkinga yobudala obuphakathi.
Kunoma ikuphi, isinqumo sakhe asipheli, futhi akusekho ukuhlehlela emuva. Ushiywe ukwelapha inhliziyo yakho, inhliziyo esaxhumene nale ndoda, yize ingasakuthandi.
Yiziphi ezinye izindlela ongelapha ngazo?
Vuma ukuthi lokhu kuyenzeka
Kungaba iphutha ukwenza sengathi “konke kuhamba kahle” noma uzame ukubeka ubuso obujabulile ukuze labo abaseduze kwakho bacabange ukuthi uphethe lolu shintsho lwempilo njengowesifazane onekhono, oqinile obukade ukhona.
Asikho isidingo sokuba yiqhawe ngalesi sikhathi esinzima. Uma ungakhombisi abangane bakho nomndeni wakho ukuthi uhlupheka, abakwazi ukukusiza ukuthwala ubuhlungu.
Liphume. Thembeka.
Batshele ukuthi uphukile, uyamthanda umlingani wakho, futhi ubadinga ukuthi babe khona lapho bezulazula kulo mcimbi obaluleke kangaka wempilo.
Thola iqembu lokusekela
Kunamaqembu omphakathi amaningi lapho abantu abathola isehlukaniso bengaxhuma khona, bakhulume, bakhale futhi babelane ngezindaba zabo. Kuyasiza ukuzwa ukuthi awuwedwa kulokhu ohlangabezana nakho.
Qiniseka ukuthi iqembu lokwesekwa liholwa ngumeluleki onolwazi ukuze imihlangano ingadluli ochungechungeni lwezikhalazo ngaphandle kwanoma yiluphi uhlobo lwezeluleko ezigxile ezixazululweni ezinikeziwe.
Vimbela ukukhuluma okungalungile
Uzitshela ukuthi, “Ngiyisilima ngokuqhubeka ngimthanda emva kwento ayenze kimi!” akusizi, futhi akulona iqiniso.
Awusona isilima. Ungowesifazane onothando, ophanayo omgogodla wakhe wenziwe nguthando nokuqonda. Akukho lutho oluyihlazo ngokuzwa uthando kumuntu osekungumlingani wakho wempilo iminyaka eminingi, noma ngabe lowo muntu enze isinqumo sokuqeda ubudlelwano.
Ngakho-ke, ungazibeki endaweni ephansi ngokukhuluma okungekuhle futhi uhlale unethemba.
Zinike isikhathi sokululama
Kubalulekile ukuthi wazi ukuthi ukuphola esahlukanisweni, ikakhulukazi isehlukaniso ongasithathanga, kuzothatha isikhathi esithathayo. Gcina ukhumbula ukuthi ekugcineni, uzobuyela emuva.
Usizi lwakho luzoba nekhalenda lalo, lube nezinsuku ezinhle, izinsuku ezimbi, nezinsuku lapho uzizwa ungathuthuki nhlobo. Kepha themba inqubo: Leyo mifantu emincane oyibonayo emkhathizwe?
Kukhona ukukhanya okungena ngabo. Futhi ngolunye usuku, uzophaphama futhi ubone ukuthi uzobe uhambe amahora, izinsuku, amasonto ungahlali kumyeni wakho wakudala nakulokho akwenzile.
Uma usukulungele, susa ikhaya lakho izikhumbuzo ngaye
Lokhu kuzosiza ekulahleni imizwa yakho yothando. Yenza kabusha ikhaya lakho ngokuthanda kwakho.
Ngabe uhlale ufuna igumbi lokuphumula elenziwe kuma-pastels nempahla ye-wicker? Kwenze!
Yenza ikhaya lakho likukhombise, futhi uthengise noma uphisane nganoma yini edala leyo micabango yokuthi "kwakunjani ngenkathi umyeni elapha."
Zibandakanye ekuzijabuliseni okusha nokuyinselele
Le yindlela efakazelwe yokuthi uzizwe ungcono ngawe futhi ikusize wakhe ubungani obusha nabantu ababengakwazi njengengxenye yabashadikazi. Hlola izinsiza zendawo ukuze ubone ukuthi yini okunikezwayo.
Ngabe uhlale ufuna ukufunda isiFulentshi?
Uqinisekile ukuthi uzoba namakilasi emfundo yabantu abadala ekolishi lakho lasendaweni yangakini.
Kuthiwani ngesithombe sokuqopha noma sokupenda?
Ngeke ugcine umatasa kuphela kepha uzobuyela ekhaya nento enhle oyenzile! Ukujoyina ijimu noma iklabhu egijimayo kuyindlela enhle yokuqeda noma imiphi imicabango emibi ehlala ekhanda lakho. Ukuzivocavoca umzimba kunikeza izinzuzo ezifanayo zokuphakamisa imizwa njengokuthatha imishanguzo.
Ukuqomisana okuku-inthanethi kungaba yinto enhle
Ukudlala ngothando ku-inthanethi ngobubanzi bezinsuku ezingaba khona kungakwenza uzizwe ufiseleka futhi ufunwa futhi, okuthi, uma ubukade uzitika ngokuzikhulumela okungekuhle ("Impela ungishiyile. Angikhangi futhi ngiyisicefe") kungaba ukuphakamisa okukhulu ukuzethemba kwakho.
Uma, ngemuva kokuxhumana ku-inthanethi, uzizwa uthanda ukuhlangana noyedwa noma amaningi ala madoda, qiniseka ukuthi wenza kanjalo endaweni esesidlangalaleni (njengesitolo sekhofi esimatasa) nokuthi imininingwane yomhlangano uyishiyile nomngani .
Ubuhlungu obuzwayo bungasetshenziselwa ukudala uhlobo olungcono lwakho
Thatha usizi futhi ulusebenzise ukukugqugquzela ukuthi ungene esimweni, ushintshe izinto ezithile zekhabethe obekufanele ngabe zilahliwe eminyakeni edlule, ubuyekeze futhi ubuyekeze i-resume yakho yobungcweti, ushintshe imisebenzi. Beka la mandla ukuze uphile impilo yakho enhle kakhulu.
Thola ibhalansi ephelele yesikhathi sedwa nesikhathi sesikhathi somngane
Awufuni ukuzihlukanisa ngokweqile, kepha ufuna ukwenza isikhathi esithile ukuze ube wedwa.
Ukube ubushade isikhathi eside, kungenzeka ukuthi ukhohliwe ukuthi kwakunjani ukuba wedwa. Ungakuthola ungakhululekile ekuqaleni. Kepha hlela lezi zikhathi kabusha: awunaso isizungu; wenza ukuzinakekela.
Kule vidiyo engezansi, uRobin Sharma ukhuluma ngokubaluleka kokuba wedwa.
Ukuze uphinde uthande, kubalulekile kuwe ukuthi ufunde ukuthi ulungile ngokuba wedwa. Lokhu kuzokuvumela ukuthi uvulele enye indoda (futhi kuzokwenzeka!) Kusuka endaweni yokuzinza hhayi ukuphelelwa yithemba.
Kujwayelekile ukuzwa umuzwa wokulahleka nokudabuka lapho indoda owawuthandana nayo inquma ukuthi ayisathandani nawe. Kepha khumbula ukuthi manje usujoyine umphakathi omkhulu wabahambi esikanye nabo abasindile futhi ekugcineni baphumelela ezimpilweni zabo zangemva kwesehlukaniso.
Yinike isikhathi, ube mnene nawe, futhi ubambelele kulwazi lokuthi uzothandana futhi.