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- 1. Izindaba
- 2. Ukungabi nalutho
- 3. Ukulutha
- 1. Sungula isivumelwano bese uzichaze
- 2. Beka imithetho
- 3. Dala isakhiwo
- 4. Cabangela izingane
- 5. Hlela umugqa wesikhathi
- 6. Makwenzeke
Ungahlukaniswa futhi uhlale endlini eyodwa, kubonakala kungumsebenzi ongenakwenzeka ngaphandle kokuthi wazi ukuthi ungakwenza kanjani. Ukwehlukaniswa kwesilingo kuyenzeka emishadweni, futhi ngokungafani nenkolelo edumile akuhlali kuchaza ukuphela kobudlelwano bakho.
Ngakho-ke, empeleni kuyini ukuhlukaniswa kwesilingo?
Ukwehlukaniswa kwecala kusho ukuthi amaqembu amabili anqume ukuthatha ikhefu ebudlelwaneni bawo futhi asebenzise isikhathi sawo ukwahlukana ukunquma ukuthi ayafuna yini ukuqhubeka nokusebenza ebudlelwaneni.
Lokhu kuba wedwa kungakusiza ukuthi ubheke izinkinga ngokufanele, uzwe ukuthi impilo iyodwa ingaba njani, futhi uthole ukunambitheka kwenkululeko. Uhlobo lwenkinobho ethi 'On Hold' yomshado.
Njengoba igama lisho, ukwahlukaniswa kwesilingo ngokuvamile kufaka ukuhlala ezindaweni ezihlukene zokuhlala. Ngakho-ke, ungakwenza kanjani ukwahlukana kwesilingo ngenkathi uhlala endlini eyodwa? Noma ngabe kungenxa yokunqunywa kwezezimali noma izibopho zomndeni, kwesinye isikhathi awunanketho yokuhamba ekhaya lakho okwabelwana ngalo ngaso sonke isikhathi.
Nayi imihlahlandlela ewusizo yokuthatha ikhefu emshadweni ngenkathi nihlala ndawonye futhi niyenze iphumelele.
Izizathu ezijwayelekile zokwehlukaniswa kwecala endlini efanayo
Ukuhlukaniswa kwesilingo ngokuthatha ikhefu emshadweni kuvame kakhulu kunendlela ocabanga ngayo. Ukuthatha ikhefu ngenkathi nihlala ndawonye kungaba nezinzuzo zako emshadweni.
Nazi izizathu ezintathu ezivame kakhulu abantu abanquma ukuthatha ikhefu ebuhlotsheni babo.
1. Izindaba
Izindaba ezingaphandle komshado ziyimbangela ejwayelekile yokwehlukana kwecala endlini eyodwa futhi kwesinye isikhathi kuze kuhlukaniswe ngokuphelele ngenxa yomonakalo abulethayo.
Ukwethembana yisici esinzima kakhulu sobudlelwano ukwakhiwa kabusha.
Noma ngabe nibuyelana ekugcineni kokuhlukaniswa kwecala lakho endlini eyodwa, kungahle kube nzima ukubuyisa ukwethembana obukade unakho kumlingani wakho.
Ukungathembeki emthethweni kungadala nokuthi umlingani owake wathembeka aziphindiselele ngokuzikhohlisa.
Ukuphinga cishe kungumbulali osheshayo ebudlelwaneni njengoba kubangela ubuhlungu obukhulu benhliziyo nosizi. Lokhu akulimazi nje kuphela izinjabulo zombili zombili, futhi kungashintsha nobuntu bakho.
Imizwa yokukhathazeka, ukungabalulekile, nokucindezeleka ingakhula. Usizi oluhambisana nokukopela lungadala nezimpawu ze-Post-Traumatic Stress Disorder.
Ngakho-ke ungathatha kanjani ikhefu ebudlelwaneni lapho nihlala ndawonye kodwa ningazwani nomlingani wakho.
Ukubeka imithetho ethile yokuxhumana kungaba yisiqalo esihle.
2. Ukungabi nalutho
Ukuxokozela kokuba nezingane ekhaya bese kuthi kungazelelwe ziye ekolishi noma zishade kungashiya abazali bezizwa bengadingeki futhi behluthulwe enkambisweni yabo.
Kungakho abashadikazi abaningi behlukana uma izingane zabo sezihambile ekhaya. Uhlobo lokwehlukana okunjalo ngenkathi behlala ndawonye kwenzeka futhi lapho abazali begxila kakhulu ekukhuliseni izingane zabo baze bakhohlwe ukuqhubeka bethandana.
Bayakhohlwa ukuthi bangabantu ngabanye, hhayi nje abazali.
3. Ukulutha
Izidakamizwa notshwala nakho kungaqoqa ukungathembani ebudlelwaneni futhi kuholele emibhangqwaneni ehlala izimpilo ezihlukene endlini eyodwa. Ukusebenzisa kabi izidakamizwa kukhuthaza lezi zinto ezilandelayo ezingadudula ubuhlobo bakho bube semaphethelweni:
- ukusetshenziswa kabi kwemali
- ukungazinzi ngokomzwelo nangokwezimali
- ukushintsha kwemizwelo ngokushesha
- isimilo esingaphandle kwesimilo
Ekuqaleni, imibhangqwana enjalo ingahlukaniswa kepha ihlala endlini eyodwa futhi uma inkinga ingaxazululiwe bangakhetha ukwehlukana futhi bahlale ngokwehlukana.
Ungaba kanjani nokuhlukana kwecala endlini eyodwa noma uhlukane kanjani nowakwakho ngenkathi nihlala ndawonye
Ngenkathi imibhangqwana eminingi ihlukene ngokomzwelo ngalesi sikhathi, akusho ukuthi kufanele ihlukane ngokomzimba. Ukuhlukaniswa kwesilingo kuvame ukwenzeka endlini efanayo, ikakhulukazi lapho izingane ezincane zikhona.
Nayi eminye imihlahlandlela ongayilandela ukwenza ukwahlukaniswa kwesivivinyo sakho endlini eyodwa kube yimpumelelo.
1. Sungula isivumelwano bese uzichaze
Ukuhlukana kodwa ukuhlala ndawonye ngesivivinyo ngeke kukusize ngalutho uma usebenzisa yonke inqubo nixabana. Ukwehlukaniswa ngokuthula ngaphansi kophahla olufanayo kudinga imithetho ethile eyisisekelo.
Vumelana nobude bokwehlukaniswa ukubiza isivumelwano, setha emithethweni yokuhlukanisa izindlu bese ubeka izingxabano zakho eceleni. Kufanele futhi uchaze isizathu sakho sokufuna ukwehlukana. Beka obala izindaba zakho noma ngabe nihlala ndawonye ngenkathi nihlukene noma cha.
2. Beka imithetho
Kunemibuzo eminingana okufanele ibhekwe njengengxenye yohlu lokuhlola lokuhlukaniswa kwesivivinyo sakho.
- Ngabe kuzoba khona imingcele yokwehlukaniswa kwesilingo?
- Ngabe uzobona abanye abantu ngesikhathi sokuhlukana kwakho?
- Ingabe usavunyelwe ukushayelana noma ukuthumela imiyalezo ngalesi sikhathi?
- Uzohlukanisa kanjani ezezimali noma imoto ehlanganyelwe?
- Ngabe uhlela ukubuyelana ekugcineni kokwehlukana, noma umane ulinde iqembu elilodwa ukuthi longe imali eyanele yokuhamba?
- Ngabe uzohlala usondelana ngokocansi ngesikhathi sokuhlukana kwakho?
Yonke le yimithetho eyisisekelo okudingeka uyibeke lapho nihlukana ngokulingwa endlini eyodwa.
Ungaba nesivumelwano esifanelekile sokuhlukaniswa kwendlu njengengxenye yemithetho yokwehlukaniswa kwecala. Ngalokhu, kuwumqondo omuhle ukuhlala phansi nodokotela ukuze akusize nixoxe ngokuthula ngale mithetho ngaphandle kokuphikisana noma ukungavumelani.
3. Dala isakhiwo
Ukwehlukaniswa kwesilingo kusho ukuthatha isikhathi ngaphandle komunye nomunye ukuthola izinto bese unquma ukuthi ufuna ukuqhubeka kanjani nobudlelwano. Ngakho-ke, ungahlala kanjani endlini efanayo lapho uhlukanisiwe?
Yilapho ukudala khona isakhiwo sokuhlala ngokuhlukile endlini eyodwa kusebenza.
Udinga ukunquma ukuthi nizokhulumisana yini ekhaya noma ukuthi nifuna ukuphathana kahle ngaphandle kokuchitha isikhathi ndawonye.
Yebo, nizohlukaniswa kodwa nihlale ndawonye nemingcele edinga ukunqunywa nobabili.
4. Cabangela izingane
Isakhiwo sibaluleke kakhulu uma nobabili ninabantwana ndawonye. Zinike isikhathi sokuxoxa ngokuthi ngabe nizothatha izinqumo njengabazali abahlukene yini noma njengendawo ebumbene yokwehlukaniswa kwesivivinyo nezingane.
Uma uhlala ubumbene, uzofuna ukugcina inqubo ukuze ugcine ingane / izingane zizizwa ziphephile futhi zivikelekile. Lokhu kufaka ukugcina uhlelo lwakho lokuthi ngubani owenza isidlo sakusihlwa, ngubani olanda izingane zakho esikoleni, nokuthi nisebenzisa kanjani ubusuku bangeSonto ndawonye.
Uma nenze isimiso sokudla ibhulakufesi noma isidlo sakusihlwa ndawonye njengomndeni, qhubekani nenza kanjalo.
Cordially gcina inqubo futhi uzwele ngomphumela isimo sakho sobudlelwano esingaba naso ezinganeni zakho.
Isibonelo, ukukubona uletha usuku ekhaya kungayithinta kanjani ingane yakho, kufanele uthathe isinqumo sokuthi uvunyelwe ukubona abanye abantu ngesikhathi sokuhlukaniswa kwecala lakho? Khumbula njalo.
5. Hlela umugqa wesikhathi
Ngemuva kokuthi usuthole ukuthi kungani ungahlala kanjani ngokuhlukana endlini eyodwa, futhi udinga ukuthola ukuthi kuze kube nini? Ukusetha umugqa wesikhathi kuyindlela enhle yokugwema ukumangala okungafuneki ngokuhlukaniswa kwecala lakho.
Nqumani ndawonye ukuthi nizimisele kangakanani ukuhlukanisa ukwahlulelwa futhi nibe nenkani ngokubuyela ndawonye ekupheleni kwalesi sikhathi ukuxoxa ngesiphetho sobuhlobo benu.
Lokhu kunikeza izinhlangothi zombili umbono oqondile womugqa wesikhathi.
6. Makwenzeke
Ungathola ukuthi ngesinye isikhathi wawumanqikanqika ngokuqeda ubuhlobo benu. Kepha, njengoba ukwahlukana kwesilingo kuqhubeka futhi uthola umbono ongcono ngempilo yakho ungashadile, ungathola ukuthi uza kumlingani wakho ngokuya ngokwanda.
Uma uthola ukuthi uqala ukulala embhedeni owodwa futhi noma usebenzise ubusuku bakho ndawonye - jabulela nje. Akunasidingo sokubuza zonke izici zokuxhumana kwakho. Uma nizohlala ndawonye, kuzobonakala.
Ukwehlukaniswa kwecala endlini efanayo kungasebenza
Uma kunguwe ofuna ukwehlukaniswa, yiba nenhlonipho futhi unake umlingani wakho wazi ukuthi kusamele nibe nendawo ndawonye.
Uma ukwelinye icele futhi ungafisi ukwehlukana, kusamele ukhombise umlingani wakho inhlonipho ngokubanika isikhala abasidingayo ukuze benze isinqumo sabo.
Futhi, uma uzibuza ukuthi ukwehlukana kufanele kuhlale isikhathi esingakanani bese ukhumbula izindawo zakho zokududuza njengabantu ngabanye nanjengombhangqwana ukuze lokhu kuqhubeke.
Ukwehlukaniswa kwecala endlini eyodwa kungenzeka, inqobo nje uma nibeka imithetho eyisisekelo futhi nikhombisa inhlonipho efanayo komunye nomunye ngaphambi kokuba niphinde nihlangane ukwenza isinqumo.
Ekugcineni, uma phakathi nesikhathi sokuhlukaniswa kwecala omunye wenu ethatha isinqumo sokuthi le mithetho ayisebenzi noma ungathanda ukushintsha inkambo okuyo, xhumana nalokhu kubalingani babo ngendlela enempilo.