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- 1. Kuncane ngobuningi nokuningi ngekhwalithi
- 2. Izimpi ezinempilo ukulwa okulungile
- 3. Izithandani ezinempilo zigcina ama-akhawunti amafushane
- 4. Ukulwa okunempilo sekuqediwe
- 5. Ukulwa okunempilo akukaze kube nodlame
Akunandaba noma ngabe wena nomlingani wakho nithandana kangakanani, akunakwenzeka ukuba nobudlelwano obuhlala isikhathi eside ngaphandle kokungaboni ngaso linye okungenani kanye ngesikhathi.
Eminye imibhangqwana ibonakala iphikisana noma ilwa kakhulu, kanti eminye ibonakala ngathi cishe ayikaze iphikisane.
Uma ukhulele ekhaya lapho abazali bakho babelwa khona kakhulu, kungahle kungakuthokozisi ukuthi ube sebudlelwaneni obungenazinkinga.
Ngakolunye uhlangothi, labo abakhulele emakhaya angenazinkinga zingathola ubunzima uma sebudlelwaneni lapho izingxabano zivame kakhulu.
Faka kukho konke ukungqubuzana nezitayela zokulawula izingxabano esizivezayo sonke, futhi kungaba nzima ukwazi ukuthi kungakanani ukulwa okunempilo ebudlelwaneni nokuthi kufanele ukhathazeke nini - noma ushiye nini. Ngenkathi ingekho inombolo yomlingo eyisilinganiso “esifanele” sokulwa ebudlelwaneni, kunezinto ezithile okufanele uzicabangele.
Nazi izinto ezi-5 okufanele uzibheke ukutshela ukuthi inani lokulwa ebudlelwaneni bakho liphilile noma cha.
1. Kuncane ngobuningi nokuningi ngekhwalithi
Ayikho inombolo ekahle yezimpi noma imvamisa yezimpikiswano ezifanelekela ubudlelwano “njengobunempilo.”
Kunalokho yikhwalithi yezimpi zakho ezikunikeza umkhondo ngempilo yobudlelwano bakho.
Imibhangqwana enempilo akuyona imibhangqwana engalwi - kunalokho, yimibhangqwana izimpi zayo ezikhiqizayo, ezingenzeleli, neziphelile.
Lokho kusho ukuthi balwa nendaba eyodwa ngasikhathi sinye, bafuna izixazululo, balwa ngokulingana, bese beqeda impi ngesisombululo noma ngesivumelwano sokuphinda bavakashele.
2. Izimpi ezinempilo ukulwa okulungile
Ukulwa ngokulunga kungaba nzima lapho silimele, sithukuthele noma sicasukile. Kepha ukuze impi ibambe iqhaza ebudlelwaneni obunempilo iphelele, kufanele kungabi nobulungiswa.
Kuyini ukulwa okulungile?
Ukulwa okulungile yikho lapho nobabili nigxila khona odabeni olusondele, kunokuba niveze yonke into enithukuthelise phakathi kobudlelwano.
Ukulwa okulungile nakho kuyindlela yokugwema ukubizwa ngamagama, ukuhlaselwa wedwa, ukufaka ukwesaba kumlingani wakho noma ukuhlukumezeka kwangaphambilini, noma "ukushaya ngaphansi kwebhande."
3. Izithandani ezinempilo zigcina ama-akhawunti amafushane
Ingxenye yokufunda ukulwa ngokulingana ukugcina ama-akhawunti amafushane komunye nomunye. Lokhu kusho ukuthi ungaletha okuthile kahle lapho kwenzeka (noma kungekudala ngemuva kwalokho) uma kukukhathaza, noma ukuyeka.
Awugcini uhlu olusebenzayo lwayo yonke into eyenziwa umlingani wakho ekucasulayo bese uyidedela yonke ingxabano ezinyangeni eziyisithupha phansi komugqa.
Ukugcina ama-akhawunti amafushane futhi kusho ukungalethi izingqinamba ezedlule ezixazululwe ezingxabano zakamuva njengezinhlamvu. Kungaba nzima ukuyeka intukuthelo namagqubu adlule, kepha ukuze ulwe ngokulingana futhi ugcine ubudlelwane bakho bunempilo, kubalulekile ukusebenzela kukho.
4. Ukulwa okunempilo sekuqediwe
Indlela esemqoka yokugcina ukulwa ebudlelwaneni bakho kunempilo ukuqinisekisa ukuthi uyayiqeda impi lapho kwenzeka. Lokhu kusho ukulungisa udaba kuze kube yisixazululo ukuze ukwazi ukusungula ukuzwana.
(Uma ulwa njalo ngodaba olufanayo olungeke luxazululwe, lelo yifulegi elibomvu - noma ngabe awulwi ngempela nalolo daba futhi udinga ukujula uze ufike enkabeni, noma unomehluko oyisisekelo ongahle ungaxazululeki ubuyisane.)
Ngemuva kokuthi kufinyelelwe esivumelwaneni, ukuyekethisa, noma esinye isixazululo, okusemqoka ukusungula kabusha ukuzwana ngokuqinisekisa ubudlelwano, ukwenza imizamo edingekayo yokulungisa, nokuvuma ukuthi le nkinga ayizukulethwa ezimpini zesikhathi esizayo ngezinto ezingahlobene.
5. Ukulwa okunempilo akukaze kube nodlame
Abantu bayahlukahluka ekutheni bayakhala noma baphakamise amazwi abo ezimpini, futhi ayikho iphethini eyodwa enempilo lapha.
Kepha izimpi ezinempilo zinjaloungalokothi ube nodlame noma ugcwale usongo lodlame.
Ukuzizwa usongelwa noma ungaphephile ngokomzimba empini kusho ukuthi kukhona okungahambi kahle.
Noma umuntu obenodlame exolisa ngemuva futhi ethembisa ukuthi ngeke aphinde aziphathe ngaleyo ndlela, uma impi isiphenduke inodlame kubuguqula ngokuyisisekelo ubudlelwano.
Uzozwa imizwa ehlukahlukene empini, kepha akufanele neze uzizwe usongelwa noma sengathi ufuna ukusongela noma ukulimaza umlingani wakho.
Ngakho-ke yize kungahle kube nzima ukucacisa ukubalwa kwabantu jikelele ukuphendula umbuzo othi 'abashadayo balwa kangaki', kulula kakhulu ukuthola ukuthi yikuphi ukulwa okunempilo kuqhathaniswa nokulwa okunobuthi.
Futhi uma izimpi zakho zihlala zivamile kepha zinempilo ukwedlula izithandani ezilwa kaningi - kepha izimpi zazo zinobuthi, mhlawumbe sekuyisikhathi sokuvuma ukuthi unamandla futhi unothando ebudlelwaneni bakho kunokuba uzithinte wena ngokuthi ulwa kaningi na?