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- Kungani lokhu kubalulekile?
- Ngabe isitayela sami sokunamathiselwe sihlobene kanjani nokuhlukumezeka?
- I-Physiology yokuhlukumezeka
- Manje ngenzenjani?
Umshado ukuzibophezela kokunamathiselwe kumuntu oyedwa noma ngaphezulu ozizwa uxhumekile futhi uvikelekile. Isitayela sokunamathisela somuntu sichaza indlela abahlela ngayo ubudlelwano. Abantu bathuthukisa izitayela zabo zokunamathisela njengezingane futhi bavame ukuziphindaphinda nabalingani babo.
UMary Ainseworth, ongudokotela wezengqondo waseMelika waseCanada ngo-1969, wabona ubudlelwane bokunamathisela nezingane nabanakekeli babo ocwaningweni olubizwa ngeStrange Situation. Ubone izitayela ezine zokunamathisela: evikelekile, ekhathazekile / evikelayo, ekhathazekile / engaqondakali, futhi engahlelekile / edidekile. Izingane ngokwemvelo ziyazi ukuthi zidinga ukuthembela kubanakekeli bazo ukuze zigcine ziphila. Izingane ezizizwe ziphephile futhi zikhuliswa njengezingane zizoqhubeka zizizwe ziphephile emhlabeni nasebudlelwaneni bazo obuzinikele. Ekuhlolweni omama nezingane badlale egumbini ndawonye imizuzu embalwa, ngemuva kwalokho umama washiya igumbi. Lapho omama bebuya izingane zibe nokusabela okuhlukahlukene.
Izingane ezikhathazekile / ezigwema ukungabanaki omama bazo futhi zidlale ngathi akwenzekanga lutho, yize bekhala befuna omama babo lapho bephuma egumbini; ibonwa njengempendulo ekunganakekelweni okungaguquguquki kwezidingo zomntwana. Izingane ezikhathazekile / ezixakile zakhala, zinamathele komama bazo, futhi kwakunzima ukuthambisa; ukusabela ekunakekelweni okungahambisani nezidingo zomntwana. Ingane engahlelekile / edidekile ibingashuba emzimbeni, ingakhali, bese iya kumama, bese ibuyela emuva; bebefuna ukuxhumeka kodwa bebekwesaba, ezinye zalezi zingane zitholakale ukuthi ziyahlukunyezwa.
Kungani lokhu kubalulekile?
Uma usazi isitayela sakho sokunamathiselwe ungaqonda ukuthi usabela kanjani ekucindezelekeni. Abantu abake bahlukumezeka ebuntwaneni imvamisa abanaso isitayela sokunamathisela esiphephile. Laba bantu bayasinda ezinhlekeleleni zabo; kodwa-ke, abaningi abazi ukuthi ukwesaba kwabo ukuphepha kuvela kanjani ezimweni zansuku zonke ebudlelwaneni. Uyamthanda umuntu onaye, uyamethemba. Uma ucasukile, uzithola usuziphathisa okomunye umuntu. Uphendula imizwa futhi umlingani wakho ubona ukuziphatha kwakho hhayi ukwesaba okungaphansi. Ungavala umlomo ungakhulumi, noma unganqamula ezinye izindlela. Ungakhokha ngokweqile ngokungena nomlingani wakho ukuqinisekisa ukuthi konke kuhamba kahle ngemuva kokulwa kaningi. Izindaba ezinhle ukuthi noma ngubani angathola okunamathiselwe okuphephile ngobudlelwano obuzizwa buphephile futhi bukhulisa. Ukukhumbula izenzo zakho, ukumisa nokubuka indlela oziphatha ngayo nemizwa evelayo kungakunika ukuqonda ukuthi yini ongayidinga lapho ucindezelekile. Isibonelo, Ngabe udinga ukuzizwa uvikelekile? Ingabe uzizwa ukufanele ukuthandwa?
Ngabe isitayela sami sokunamathiselwe sihlobene kanjani nokuhlukumezeka?
Ukuhlukumezeka yinto eshiya umuntu ezizwa ecindezeleke kakhulu. Lokhu kungenxa yobudlelwano bomzimba womuntu nomcimbi. I-Neuroscience isikhombisile thina bantu ababhekane nokuhlukumezeka abasethe kabusha isikhungo sabo sokuphendula ngokuzimela- babona umhlaba oyingozi kakhulu. Okuhlangenwe nakho okubuhlungu kwenziwe izindlela ezintsha ze-neural ezibatshela ukuthi umhlaba uyesabeka, kufana nesitayela sokunamathisela esingavikelekile.
I-Physiology yokuhlukumezeka
Imizimba yabantu inohlelo oluphakathi lwezinzwa (CNS) oluxhuma ubuchopho nomgogodla lapho imizwa yezinzwa nezemoto idluliselwa khona - lokhu kuyisisekelo somzimba sesipiliyoni sethu somhlaba. I-CNS yenziwa ngezinhlelo ezimbili, i-parasympathetic nervous system (i-PNS) kanye ne-nervous system (SNS), le ndlela ikukhipha enkingeni. Abantu abahlangabezane nokuhlukumezeka bachitha isikhathi esincane noma bachithe isikhathi kwi-PNS: imizimba yabo iyasebenza futhi ilungele ukulwa. Ngokufanayo, lapho umuntu onesitayela sokunamathisela esingavikelekile ecasukile, uhlala ku-SNS futhi usabela ukufinyelela ekuphepheni. Ukuhlukumezeka kukuphuca ukuzizwa uphephile emzimbeni wakho. Uma ulwa nomunye wakho obalulekile kungenzeka ukuthi uletha amanxeba amadala ngaphandle kokwazi. Ukuze ululame kokuhlangenwe nakho, ingqondo, umzimba, kanye nengqondo kudinga ukuqiniseka ukuthi uphephile.
Manje ngenzenjani?
- Yehlisa kancane ijubane: thatha umoya ojulile futhi uphefumule isikhathi eside, usethe kabusha i-CNS yakho. Akunakwenzeka ukuzwa ukuhlukumezeka emzimbeni okhululekile.
- Funda umzimba wakho: I-Yoga, i-Tai Chi, Ukuzindla, Ukwelashwa, njll. Zonke izindlela zokuqwashisa ngomzimba nengqondo yakho.
- Naka isidingo lokho akuhlangatshezwana nakho futhi ukuxhumana lokho nomlingani wakho. Ukubheka ngaphansi kokuziphatha kungakusiza ukuthi nizwane.
- Xhumana: Xoxa nomlingani wakho ukuthi yiziphi izinto ezikucasulayo, khomba okubangela ulaka, ukudabuka, njll. Uma uzizwa umuzwa khomba okwenzekile ngaphambi kwalokhu okushiye uneso
- Phumula: thatha umoya okwemizuzu engu-5-20 uma usempikiswaneni engayi ndawo, bese ubuya uzokhuluma.
- Bala ubuyele emuva usuka ku-20, ukusebenzisa uhlangothi lwakho olunengqondo lobuchopho bakho kuzosiza ukulinganisela ingqondo egcwele amanzi ohlangothini olungokomzwelo.