Izikhathi eziningi sishada nomuntu onokuziphatha okufanayo njengabazali bethu. Ngenkathi ungacabanga ukuthi le yinto yokugcina ofisa ukuyenza, iza ngesizathu esihle futhi lesi sizathu empeleni singakusiza ukuthi ukhule, emshadweni wakho nasebuhlotsheni bakho bonke.
Sifunda sisebancane amaphethini ahlukahlukene kusuka kubazali bethu, bese silingisa ngawo ebudlelwaneni bethu. Noma ngabe iphethini liphilile noma cha, yilokho okuba okujwayelekile nokunethezeka. Ungaqhamuka emndenini onomsindo omkhulu, noma mhlawumbe umndeni wakho wahoxiswa futhi wakude. Mhlawumbe abazali bakho bafuna okungaphezu kwamandla akho futhi mhlawumbe babengenandaba nokuthi wenzani. Kulula kakhulu ukuthukuthelela oshade naye ngokuphinda lezi zimilo, kepha khumbula ukuthi ukhethe owakwakho futhi manje sekuwumsebenzi wakho ukushintsha indlela osabela ngayo. Lapho usufunde ukushintsha ukusabela kwakho, lezo zimilo ezivela kumlingani wakho azikhathazi kangako noma zivame ukunyamalala.
Sonke kungenzeka sikhethe umlingani onamaphethini afana nabazali bethu ngoba lokhu kuyabikezelwa futhi kukhululekile
Uma ubaba wakho engakwazi ukuzikhulumela, ungahle ushade nomuntu onenkinga yokuzikhulumela. Iphuzu lingaqapheleki, imvamisa sikhetha abalingani abanamaphethini afanayo nabazali bethu, noma ngabe sizonda lawo maphethini.
Kepha, kunezindaba ezinhle. Isizathu sokuthi ukuphendula kwakho kube kuwe kungenxa yokuthi ngenkathi useyingane wawungenakho ukuzikhethela futhi ungenakho ukulawula ngaphandle kokulandela isibonelo sabazali bakho. Njengezingane, siphoqeleka ukuthi senze njengoba kulindelwe ngabazali bethu, noma simane siwele emgqeni ngoba yikho konke esikwaziyo. Lapho usukhulile, ushada nomuntu onezici ezifana nezabazali bakho bese ubaphendula ngendlela efanayo naleyo owenza ngayo lapho useyingane. Lapho usubonile ukuthi manje usumdala futhi ungakushintsha ukusabela kwakho, ungaqala ukuphendula ngendlela entsha. Ngeke kube lula ngoba ungahle ube neminyaka engama-30 + yokuphendula ngendlela ethile. Ukuphendula ngendlela entsha akulula kepha kuwufanele umsebenzi.
Isibonelo, uma umama wakho noma ubaba wakho wayeqhele ukusuka engxabanweni, ungathola oshade naye enephethini efanayo, ephinda umqondo wokugwema. Uma uguqula iphethini futhi wazise oshade naye ukuthi kubaluleke kangakanani ukuhlala ekamelweni, noma wazi ukuthi uyakhala noma ukhala lapho ehamba, leli ithuba lokubheka ukuphendula kwakho. Umama wakho noma ubaba wakho angadinga ukufakazela ukuthi baqinisile empikiswaneni bese uzithola ushade nomuntu owenza okufanayo. Yini ebingenzeka uma uyeka ukuncintisana bese usabela ngendlela entsha ngokuphelele? Mhlawumbe ungavele ubheke, noma ucabange ukungaphikisani noma usho kuphela lokho okwaziyo empeleni. Ngabe ungajabula kakhudlwana emshadweni wakho nasebudlelwaneni bakho bonke? Sonke sifunde izindlela zokuthi sisabela kanjani ezimweni ezahlukahlukene futhi kungaleso sikhathi kuphela lapho singanciphisa futhi sibheke ukusabela kwethu lapho singaqala ukucabanga ngendlela entsha yokuphendula engashintsha inkambo yobudlelwano obunzima. Ngakho-ke, yebo, singakhathazeka lapho sicabanga ukushada nomuntu ofana nabazali bethu, kepha lapho nje sesifunde indlela entsha yokuphendula sizobona ukuthi izimpikiswano eziningi ziyinhlanganisela yokuziphatha nokuziphendulela okufundwayo.
Omunye umcabango wokugcina ukugcina engqondweni. Uma oshade naye ephinda amaphethini akhungathekisayo afana nabazali bakho, lokhu kuzodala ukusabela okuso kuwe ngoba uphile ngokukhungatheka kwalokhu kuziphatha impilo yakho yonke. Ngenkathi usebenza ngezindlela ezintsha zokuphendula oshade naye, khumbula ukuthi ungahle ubeke kakhulu lawo maphethini acasulayo aphindaphindiwe. Kungenzeka ukuthi oshade naye unezindlela eziningi ezithandekayo nezinothando okufanele uzinake.
Uma ungashintsha impendulo eyodwa ngakumlingani wakho, kungaba yini?