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- Izimpikiswano ezinempilo zikhuthaza ukwethembana
- Ukufunda kokungavumelani
- Yehlisa ukungezwani
- Kuthuthukisa ukuthobeka
- Kwakha ukwazisa nenhlonipho
- Ivimbela imizwa ekuhlakazeni
- Ikhuthaza ukuxhumana
- Ungaphikisana kanjani ngempumelelo emshadweni wakho
- 1. Isikhathi
- 2. Sebenzisa izitatimende "Ngizwa"
- 3. Buza imibuzo
- 4. Hlonipha
Ngabe imibhangqwana ephikisanayo ijabule kakhulu kunaleyo engenayo? Zonke izithandani zizoba nezikhathi ezinhle nezimbi phakathi nomshado wazo, kusuka ekhishini kubangwa izingxabano ezijulile. Iqiniso ukuthi izimpikiswano zingenza abantu abashadile basondelane futhi zikhuthaze izingxoxo ezikhiqizayo. Uma kukhulunywa ngemibhangqwana ejabulayo, ukungqubuzana okuncane lapha nalaphaya empeleni kungaba yinto enhle. Uma izingxabano ezinempilo zidingeka ukwenza umshado usebenze, kubalulekile ukuthi bobabili abantu bazi indlela efanele yokuxhumana nemizwa yabo nokuthi bangazixazulula kanjani izingxabano. Nazi izinzuzo zezimpikiswano ezinempilo emshadweni:
Izimpikiswano ezinempilo zikhuthaza ukwethembana
Uma kwenziwe kahle, ukungaboni ngaso linye okunempilo kungakusondeza ndawonye noshade naye. Izimpikiswano ezakhayo zakha ukwethembana lapho unikeza umlingani wakho inhlonipho nesithunzi. Ngokuhamba kwesikhathi, izimpikiswano zakho zingazizwa zingathi “ukulwa” futhi zifane nengxoxo eyakhayo. Ngokwakha lokhu kuthembana nobabili nizokhululeka ngokwengeziwe ukuveza izikhalazo zenu ngokuzayo, ngokuqonda ukuthi ukungazwani akusho ukuthi nizohlukana.
Ukufunda kokungavumelani
Njengombhangqwana oshadile, ukuphikisana empeleni kunisiza nifunde komunye nomunye. Ngokuhlanganyela ezingxoxweni ezivamile mayelana nezinkinga onazo, uqala ukufunda ukuthi umlingani wakho uphendula kanjani kokungaboni ngaso linye nokuthi yini engakubangela. Lokhu kuzokusiza ukuthi uxhumane kangcono ngokuzayo ngokugwema izihloko ezibucayi nokusebenzisa izindlela ukuzenza ziphume futhi uvuleke futhi uthembeke ngenkinga eseduze.
Yehlisa ukungezwani
Kumele uqaphele ukuthi ngemuva kokungezwani okunempilo nomlingani wakho uzizwa sengathi isisindo sisusiwe emahlombe akho. Izimpikiswano zenzelwe ukuxazulula izinkinga ngakho-ke kukhona ukukhululeka okungaqondakali okuzwakalayo lapho seziphelile futhi nezingqinamba zakho sezisingathwe. Ukususa izinto esifubeni sakho kungasiza ekunciphiseni ukungezwani, ukwesaba nokukhathazeka ebudlelwaneni bakho.
Kuthuthukisa ukuthobeka
Njengoba ungathanda ukukukholelwa, awuqinisile ngaso sonke isikhathi. Ucwaningo luphakamisa ukuthi kunokuhlobana okuqinile phakathi kokuthobeka nemishado ehlala isikhathi eside. Uma uphikisana nomlingani wakho uqala ukufunda ngombono wabo, imicabango kanye nemibono yabo. Uma ngabe unephutha, lokhu kukunikeza ithuba lokuthi uzithobe futhi uxolise. Lokhu kusiza bobabili abathintekayo ukugwema ukuziphatha kobugovu noma kokuzikhukhumeza futhi kwenza bobabili bazizwe bephephile futhi belondekile emshadweni.
Kwakha ukwazisa nenhlonipho
Izithandani eziphikisanayo kungenzeka ukuthi zikhule zinezakhiwo ezihluke ngokuphelele kanye nama-archetypes endlela yokuxhumana. Ngokufunda ukuthi kunokungavumelani okunempilo kanjani imibhangqwana eshadile empeleni ingahlakulela ukwazisa ngendlela umlingani wayo acabanga futhi asabele ngayo ezimweni ezithile. Isibonelo, mhlawumbe kungenzeka ukuthi ube nolaka noma uzivikele ngesikhathi sokulwa ngenkathi umlingani wakho ehlonipha futhi ezolile. Ngokuhamba kwesikhathi, ukuphikisana nomlingani wakho kungakusiza ukuthi wakhe ukwazisa nenhlonipho ngendlela abaziphatha ngayo futhi kukukhuthaze ukuthi ukhulume kangcono ebudlelwaneni bakho.
Ivimbela imizwa ekuhlakazeni
Izimpikiswano ezinempilo ziyadingeka ukwenza umshado usebenze ngenxa yokuxhumana okuvulelekile nokwethembeka. Abanye abantu banomkhuba wokufaka imizwa yabo emabhodleleni, bese beqhuma ngentukuthelo lapho kuphakama ingxabano. Ukuziba inkinga ebudlelwaneni bakho akunampilo, ikakhulukazi uma inkinga inkulu ngokwemvelo. Ngokuxhumana nomlingani wakho womshado uyogwema izinkinga ezikhulayo futhi ngeke ibe khona indawo yokwakha amagqubu.
Ikhuthaza ukuxhumana
Ukuzizwa ukhululekile ukuxoxa nganoma yiziphi izikhalazo ezikukhathazayo kusho ukuthi usesebudlelwaneni obuphephile futhi obunothando. Yini engaba ngcono? Lapho wazi ukuthi ungaxoxa nganoma yini phansi kwelanga, okuhle noma okubi, nomlingani wakho, lokho kuyisibonakaliso sangempela sothando.
Ungaphikisana kanjani ngempumelelo emshadweni wakho
Uma kwenziwe kahle, ukuphikisana kungaba nempilo ebudlelwaneni bakho. Udinga nje ukwazi ukuthi ungaphikisana kanjani ngokufanele. Lokhu kusho ukungaphonsani phansi kwebhasi futhi ungalokothi usebenzise ukukhohlakala njengezaba zokunyathela imicabango nemizwa kazakwenu. Nazi izindlela ezine zokuxhumana ngokungavumelani nokuphikisana ngempumelelo.
1. Isikhathi
Ukuthatha isinqumo sokuletha udaba olubucayi noma olujwayelekile ngenkathi umyeni wakho esendleleni eya emsebenzini akulungile kini nobabili. Ngeke nje ube nesikhathi esanele sokuthambekela odabeni olusondele, kepha nobabili niyosala nizizwa kabi usuku lonke kuze kube yilapho nithola ithuba lokuxazulula inkinga yenu.
2. Sebenzisa izitatimende "Ngizwa"
Izimpikiswano zingashuba, kepha ungavumeli ukukhungatheka kwakho kukwenze usho into ozozisola ngayo. Iphuzu lengxoxo yakho ukuthi ukhulume futhi uxazulule inkinga, hhayi ukuhlasela umlingiswa womunye nomunye. Enye indlela yokugwema ukuqhuma ngokusebenzisa izitatimende "Ngizwa". Leli qhinga likubeka phezu kwakho umthwalo wokuthi uzizwe ngendlela ethile futhi lizokwenza umlingani wakho mancane amathuba okuthi azivikele noma azizwe ehlaselwa.
3. Buza imibuzo
Akunakwenzeka ukuthi umlingani wakho ukhethe ukulwa nawe ngaphandle kwesizathu esizwakalayo, ngakho-ke sondela engxoxweni enempilo ngokubuza imibuzo. Yini eyakhelwe ukuholela empini onayo? Ungasibhebhethekisa kanjani isimo ukuze ukhulume ngomoya ophansi ngale ndaba? Ngabe kukhona ukungezwani okukhona okunomthelela ekuxabaneni emshadweni? Ukubuza imibuzo kuyindlela enhle yokuphikisana okunempilo.
4. Hlonipha
Ukuhlonipha umyeni noma unkosikazi wakho kungahle kungabi phambili engqondweni yakho uma kukhona ukungaboni ngaso linye, kepha uma ufuna ukuxazulula inkinga ngempumelelo uzogcina imizwa yomlingani wakho engqondweni. Faka umlingani wakho ngenhlonipho ngokuza ekungavumelaneni kwenu ngenhloso yokukuxazulula, hhayi ukumane nithethisane. Vala ifoni yakho unikeze isimo ukunaka kwakho okungahlukanisiwe, futhi uqiniseke ukuthi uzijwayeza ukulalela izinkathazo zomlingani wakho.