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- 1. Yini oyikhumbula kahle kakhulu futhi imbi kakhulu yobuntwana bakho?
- 2. Nciphisa izidingo zakho ezintathu ezibaluleke kakhulu, futhi ngingazanelisa kanjani?
- 3. Kubo bonke obathandayo, ngubani ocabanga ukuthi unobudlelwano obuhle kakhulu?
- 4. Iyiphi ingxenye oyithola iyiyona engcono kakhulu ebunyeni bethu?
- 5. Yimiphi imikhuba yami ongayithandi, okufanele ngiyiyeke?
- 6. Yimiphi imicabango ekugcina uphapheme ebusuku ongifihlele yona?
- 7. Ngabe akhona amaphupho akho angagcwalisekanga?
- 8. Siyini isizathu sakho sokuthanda mina?
- 9. Yini ongayithatha njengesenzo esingenazaba, futhi ngani?
- 10. Singakuthuthukisa kanjani ukusondelana nocansi ezimpilweni zethu?
Abasanda kushada, abasanda kusuka othandweni lokuthandana kwabo, ungalokothi ucabange ukuthi umshado wabo uzophela. Basabheke izinkanyezi kusukela ekwakhiweni kwezothando lapho abathandi bemiyalezo emide ebusuku babagcina bembozwe emhlabeni wabo wabathandi.
Kepha yeka ukuthi idlula ngokushesha kanjani iminyaka futhi yonke inkulumo enhle, imibuzo yothando yemibhangqwana noma ama-nothings amnandi aguquka abe yimisebenzi yansuku zonke eyisidina, akekho noyedwa owake wabona lokho kuza.
Kepha izindaba ezinhle ukuthi konke lokhu kungagwenywa. Imibhangqwana ingahlala ixhumekile futhi ijabule impilo yonke. Enye yezindlela ezilula zokugcina umshado ojabulisayo ukuvuleleka kumlingani wakho.
Thola isikhathi esiyimpoqo sophathina wakho bese nibuzana imibuzo enengqondo evulekile yemibono yezithandani.
Gxila futhi ugxile kuzimpendulo zakho, futhi uzomangala ukuthi kuzoba lula kanjani ukugcina umshado wakho umncane futhi ujabule impilo yonke.
Nalu uhlu lwemibuzo eyi-10 ehamba phambili yemibhangqwana engaguqula umhlaba wakho ube ngcono. Ungasebenzisa futhi le mibuzo yokwakha ubuhlobo njengengxenye yemidlalo yemibuzo yobudlelwano yemibhangqwana ukwenza inqubo ibe mnandi kakhulu.
1. Yini oyikhumbula kahle kakhulu futhi imbi kakhulu yobuntwana bakho?
Okuhlangenwe nakho kobuntwana kukwenza ube yilokho onguye. Noma ngabe okuhlangenwe nakho kube okujabulisayo noma okulimazayo futhi okunodlame, ukukhuluma ngakho nomlingani wakho kuyasiza ukuqonda ubuntu babo, izinkolelo zabo, nobuthakathaka babo.
Lona ngomunye wemibuzo ebalulekile 'yezithandani' ongayibuza omunye wakho obalulekile ukuze uyiqonde kangcono ngezikhathi lapho ucabanga ukuthi bacasuke ngokungafanele noma bathukuthele, futhi noma ngabe bajabule ngokweqiniso.
2. Nciphisa izidingo zakho ezintathu ezibaluleke kakhulu, futhi ngingazanelisa kanjani?
Lo ngomunye wemibuzo ebalulekile yobudlelwano okufanele ubuzwe oshade naye njengoba ukwanelisa izidingo zomlingani wakho kuyinto ebalulekile ebudlelwaneni obujabulisayo nobunempilo.
Khuluma ngezidingo zomunye nomunye nokuthi ungazifeza kanjani. Lokhu kuzodala isibopho esiqinile phakathi kwakho, kuhlanganiswe ukwethembana nothando.
3. Kubo bonke obathandayo, ngubani ocabanga ukuthi unobudlelwano obuhle kakhulu?
Ngesinye isikhathi omunye akakwazi ukuhambisa imizwa yabo yangempela komunye. Qaphela futhi uqaphele kumndeni wakho osondelene neqembu labangane noma eminye imibhangqwana ejabule ezungezile, okufunayo noma okudingayo ebudlelwaneni bakho bese uyixoxa nomlingani wakho.
Kufanele ucabangele lezi zinhlobo zemibuzo yobuhlobo obuhle yemibhangqwana uma ufuna ukuthi ubudlelwano bakho bube ngcono futhi bufezekise ngokuhamba kwesikhathi.
4. Iyiphi ingxenye oyithola iyiyona engcono kakhulu ebunyeni bethu?
Lona ngomunye wemibuzo ebalulekile okufanele uyibuze ebudlelwaneni okungafanele ungaphuthelwa ukubuza umlingani wakho kunoma yikuphi.
Ukudlulisa isikhathi neminyaka yokukhula kuzoletha okuhlangenwe nakho okuningi ngendlela yakho - ezinye zezifundo ezibuhlungu, ezinye izinkumbulo ezijabulisayo.
Lokhu kuzoshintsha izimpendulo zemibuzo eminingana yemibhangqwana enesikhathi. Ngakho-ke, Gcina usesikhathini nezikhathi ezishintshayo, ngakho-ke ungalahlekelwa ukusondelana kwakho nobunye.
5. Yimiphi imikhuba yami ongayithandi, okufanele ngiyiyeke?
Khuthaza umlingani wakho ukuthi aphumele obala ngemikhuba yakho ecasulayo.
Abalingani abaningi bayayishaya indiva imikhuba emibi yabalingani babo ukuze nje bagweme izingxabano nokugcina ukulinganisela okunokuthula empilweni.
Kepha ngokuhamba kwesikhathi, yonke le mizwa efakwe ngaphakathi ingaqhuma njengolaka nentukuthelo, kuqede iminyaka yobungane. Ngakho-ke, yiba namaqiniso.
Khuthaza umlingani wakho ukuthi athembeke ngemikhuba yakho "emibi". Lokhu kuzosusa konke ukunganaki okungakhela empilweni yakho ejabulisayo. Chuma ndawonye ukubhekana nezinkinga ezicasula ukuvumelana kwempilo yakho enenjabulo.
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6. Yimiphi imicabango ekugcina uphapheme ebusuku ongifihlele yona?
Imibhangqwana eminingi enakekelayo ayifuni ukuthwalisa abathandekayo bayo ngezinkinga zabo nezingcindezi zabo. Bagcina imfihlo yabo ecindezelayo ifihlwe ekujuleni kwezinhliziyo zabo, bekhombisa ukungabi nazihibe, injabulo phambi kwabalingani babo.
Ekugcineni, lezi zingcindezi nezingcindezi zithwala umthwalo wazo, emzimbeni nangokomzwelo. Ngokuthatha usizo lwale mibuzo emibhangqwaneni, ungazama ukunqoba ukuzethemba koshade naye, ubakhuthaze ukuthi babelane ngemithwalo yabo, futhi bathole izixazululo ndawonye.
Umshado umayelana nokwesekwa nokuqonda.
7. Ngabe akhona amaphupho akho angagcwalisekanga?
Wonke umuntu uphupha ngokufeza inhloso ethile. Thatha isikhathi ukuthola ukuthi amaphupho womlingani wakho nokuthi yiziphi izingqinamba ezimi endleleni.
Lezi zinhlobo zemibuzo yemibhangqwana ingakusiza ukuthi ube ngumgqugquzeli nomsekeli, ukuthi umlingani wakho adinga ukufeza izinhloso zabo, ebezingakagcwaliseki kuze kube manje.
8. Siyini isizathu sakho sokuthanda mina?
Umehluko uyohlala ukhona emshadweni. Ngaphezu kwalokho, ukuthi, “Ngiyakuthanda” akwanele. Uthando lukhonjiswa ezenzweni zakho nasemizweni yakho ngakumlingani wakho.
Ukubona ukwehluka komlingani wakho, ukwamukela imikhuba yabo emihle nokuma kwabo ngokuqinile eceleni kwabo uthando lweqiniso.
Ngakho-ke, ungabuza umuntu oshade naye imibuzo efana nokuthi, uzizwe nini ukuthi ngithande kakhulu noma kungani ungithanda neminye imibuzo efana naleyo yemibhangqwana ukuvumela oshade naye abuye nezizathu zokukuthanda.
9. Yini ongayithatha njengesenzo esingenazaba, futhi ngani?
Izitatimende ezingajulile ezihlasimulisayo ziveza ukuthi yiziphi izinqumo ezinzima ongazithatha uma umlingani wakho ephutha ngendaba ethile, futhi engonakalisa ubuhlobo obuhlala njalo obujabulisayo.
Yima ucabange. Ukuba ngabalingani obuseduze akufanele kube yinto ekha phezulu. Kufanele ukwazi ukuhlala ukhulume ngokujulile ngokuthi yiziphi izinto ongazithandi futhi, uma zenziwe, zizokulimaza kabi. Futhi, le mibuzo yemibhangqwana ingakusiza wenze lokho ngempumelelo.
Lokhu kuzodala ukuqonda okungcono phakathi kwezithandani, futhi kuzoba nokugwema izinto ezithathwa njengezingenakuthethelelwa.
10. Singakuthuthukisa kanjani ukusondelana nocansi ezimpilweni zethu?
Izikhathi eziningi, ukuncipha kobuhlobo bomzimba kuholela emshadweni ongajabule. Ukuya ocansini endabeni ebucayi nokwenqatshwa kaningi kwezocansi kuthathwa njengokulahlwa komuntu siqu.
Lezi zinkinga kufanele zixazululwe ngobumnene, ngokuqinisekile, nangokuqonda okujulile. Gxila kuzidingo zakho kanye nezidingo zakho. Khuluma ngezinkinga zakho zocansi. Lokhu akusoze kwavumela noma yikuphi ukuxhumeka kusethwe futhi kukusize wakhe ubuhlobo obunempilo, obujabulisayo.