-Delile
- 1. Isivivinyo isilingo
- 2. Yiba nesibindi noma ungazihluphi
- 3. Ungazami ukuyisebenzela wedwa
- Yini okufanele uyenze ngesikhathi sokuhlukana kwesivivinyo?
- Isiphetho
Uma umshado wakho usufinyelele eqophelweni lapho ucabanga ngokuhlukana ngokulingwa, kungenzeka ukuthi ufuna okuwusizo imihlahlandlela yokwehlukaniswa komshado noma imithetho yokwehlukana emshadweni.
Ngaphambi kokuthi singene ezintweni ezifana nokuthi singahlukanisa kanjani? Ungakufaka kanjani ukwahlukana emshadweni? Kufanele uqonde ukuthi kuyini ukuhlukaniswa kwesilingo.
Ukwehlukaniswa kwecala inqubo lapho imibhangqwana ihlukana ngokungahleliwe kwenye ngenkathi ishadile ngokusemthethweni. Kungaba ukwehlukaniswa kwesivivinyo endlini eyodwa noma ukwahlukaniswa kwesilingo okuhlala ngokuhlukana, imibandela yokwehlukana ayidingi ukuthi kube nezinyathelo zomthetho.
Noma yiluphi uhlu lokuhlola lokuhlukanisa uma lukulungiselelwe luvunyelwe yibo bobabili abalingani.
Eqinisweni, yonke imishado ihlukile njengabantu abakuyo futhi kuzodingeka uzitholele ngokwakho ukuthi yini engasebenzi noma engasebenzi esimweni sakho esithile.
Ukwehlukana okucatshangwe kahle kunganikeza umlingani ngamunye ithuba elibalulekile lokuhlola iqhaza labo ezinkingeni zomshado nokuzwa ukuthi bazizwa kanjani lapho bengabonani njalo.
Uma kukhulunywa ngemithetho yokwehlukana komshado noma amathiphu wokwehlukanisa isilingo, kuyasiza ukucabangela le micabango emithathu elandelayo:
1. Isivivinyo isilingo
Lona kanye igama elithi "ukulingwa" likhombisa isimo sesikhashana sokwehlukana. Kusho ukuthi "uzozama" bese ubona ukuthi uzoba yini umphumela. Kukhona amathuba angamashumi amahlanu-nanhlanu okuthi ukwehlukana kungaholela ekuhlukaneni noma ekubuyisaneni.
Kuyafana nalapho uqala umsebenzi omusha futhi usezinyangeni ezintathu “zokuhlolwa” (noma kwecala). Izinga lomsebenzi wakho ngalezo zinyanga zesivivinyo lizonquma ukuthi ngabe ubekwe noma cha kubasebenzi abasebenza unomphela.
Ngendlela efanayo, ngezinga elikhulu lokho okwenzayo ngesikhathi sakho somshado ukuhlukaniswa kwecala izonquma ukuthi likhona yini ikusasa lakho njengabantu abashadile.
Ngokungafani nesimo somsebenzi, noma kunjalo, kunezinhlangothi ezimbili ezihilelekile futhi umphumela oyimpumelelo kungenzeka kuphela lapho bobabili bezimisele ukufaka umzamo odingekayo wokulungisa imishado yabo.
Lonke uthando, ukulangazelela, nokubekezela okusezweni ngeke kwanele ukusindisa umshado uma kunguhlangothi olulodwa. Ngalo mqondo, ukuhlukaniswa kwesivivinyo kungaba yisikhathi esibalulekile sokubona ngokucacile ukuthi ngabe omunye noma bobabili abahlanganyeli basakhuthazeka ukugcina umshado wabo.
2. Yiba nesibindi noma ungazihluphi
Mayelana nokugqugquzela, uma bobabili abashadile bengakhuthazekile ngokufanayo ukuchitha isikhathi ekuboniseni futhi basebenze ekuxazululeni izingqinamba zabo, ngakho-ke akufanelekile ukuzihlupha ngokuhlukana kwecala.
Abanye abashade babona isikhathi sokuhlukaniswa kwecala njengethuba lokuqala obunye ubudlelwano bezothando nokujabulela "inkululeko" yabo.
Lokhu kuyakhiqiza futhi kwehlula inhloso ye- usebenza emshadweni wakho okhona ngenjongo yokubuyiselwa nokwelashwa. Uma ngabe yilokho ofuna ukukwenza ungahle ugcwalise isehlukaniso ngokushesha ngaphandle kokukhathazeka ngokuhlukana kwecala.
Okunye okukhombisa ukuthi ngabe umuntu uzimisele ngokubuyisela umshado wakhe uma beqhubeka nokusola abalingani babo ngezinkinga zomshado.
Kungaleso sikhathi kuphela lapho bobabili abalingani bekwazi ukuvuma amaphutha abo nobuthakathaka babo, bebona ukuthi ngamunye ubeneqhaza ekuwohlokeni, lapho kuba khona ithemba lokubuyisana.
Uma kungekho ukuvuma ukonakala kweqembu elilodwa, ukuhlukaniswa kwecala mhlawumbe kuzoba ukuchitha isikhathi.
3. Ungazami ukuyisebenzela wedwa
Ungase uzibuze, ngabe ukwahlukana kwesilingo kuyasebenza yini? Okokuqala, kungenzeka ukuthi, wena noshade naye anikafiki endaweni yokucabanga ngokuhlukana kwecala ubusuku obubodwa.
Cishe kuthathe amasonto, izinyanga, noma neminyaka yokuzabalaza nokulwa nokuzama kanzima ukulungisa izinto ndawonye. Iqiniso lokuthi uyahlukanisa liyinkomba yokuthi awuphumelelanga ukukusebenza wedwa.
Ukwehlukaniswa kwecala yisikhathi esihle sokuqala ukwelulekwa ngomshado noma ukwelashwa kwezithandani uma ungakakwenzi lokho. Ngosizo lomeluleki oqeqeshiwe noma umelaphi, kufanele see izinkinga zakho ngombono ohlukile nokuthola usizo ngokuzixazulula.
Uma uqhubeka wenza izinto ezimbi ezifanayo emshadweni wakho, uzothola imiphumela emibi efanayo. Ngakho-ke kubalulekile kini nobabili ukuthi funda izindlela ezintsha nezinhle zokuhlobana futhi ikakhulukazi ukuthi ungazixazulula kanjani izingxabano ngendlela enempilo futhi enhle.
Esihlokweni sokuthola usizo lwangaphandle, imibhangqwana eminingi iyakuthola lokho sikhuleke ndawonye futhi sithandazelane kuzuzisa kakhulu ekubasondeleni ebudlelwaneni babo.
Yini okufanele uyenze ngesikhathi sokuhlukana kwesivivinyo?
Ungathola imininingwane eminingi maqondana nalokho ongakwenzi ngesikhathi sokwehlukana. Kodwa-ke, sikunikeza imininingwane edingeka kakhulu ezintweni ezingeziwe okufanele uzikhumbule ngazo indlela yokubhekana nokwehlukana nokuthi yini okufanele uyenze ngesikhathi sokuhlukana kwecala:
- Thola ubude besikhathi sokwehlukana bese uhlaziya kabusha uma usufike endaweni yokuhlola enqunyiwe
- Beka imingcele ecacile necacile bese uzama ukungayiwele
- Uma uthathe indlela yezomthetho qiniseka ukuthi unawo wonke amaphepha akho okuhlukanisa ngendlela efanele
- Hlala uzibophezele ekwelashweni kwezithandani, noma ngabe kufanele uhambe wedwa
- Xoxa futhi uhlele izibopho zakho zezezimali
- Xoxa ngokuthi uzohlala usondelene noma cha ngesikhathi sokuhlukaniswa kwesivivinyo
- Sebenzelani izinkinga ndawonye; ungacabangi ukuthi bazozihambela bodwa
- Ungavumeli ubudlelwano bakho bube yinto 'yokuphinda futhi' 'yokuphinda futhi'
- Veza imizwa yakho, izifiso nezinhlelo zakho zekusasa
- Ungashintshi izinkolelo nezindinganiso zakho eziyinhloko ukusindisa umshado wakho
Isiphetho
Njengoba ubhekisisa le micabango, ikakhulukazi uma ufuna izinkombandlela ezithile zokwahlukana emshadweni, ungahle ubone ukuthi ekugcineni kosuku, yisimo senhliziyo esenza umehluko.
Ziningi imithetho yokuhlukaniswa kwecala lomshado kungabalwa, kepha ekugcineni umbuzo uthi ngabe nobabili nisathandana ngokwanele yini ukubeka eceleni izinhlungu zenu nokuziqhenya, nixolelane, futhi niqhubeke nifunde futhi nikhule ndawonye emshadweni wenu.