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Uluvimba kanjani uthando lwezithandani ekunciphiseni ngokuhamba kwesikhathi? Kungenzeka yini ukugcina izimvemvane esasikade sinazo ekuqaleni kobudlelwano?
Kujwayelekile kakhulu ukuthi ubudlelwano, ngemuva kwesikhathi esithile, buzovele busuke othandweni naseziqhumeni buye ekuthambekeni komthambeka oshelelayo we-ho-hum nokunganaki. Ngeshwa, emishadweni eminingi, lokhu kuwugibe olulula ukuwela kulo.
Ngelinye ilanga ulale eduze kwesithandwa sakho bese ngokulandelayo uvuka eduze komuntu ohlala naye. Kwenzeka ngokucashile ungaboni nokuthi kuyenzeka.
Encwadini kaSusan Piver, Amaqiniso Amane Athandekayo Wothando, ukhuluma ngempilo nothando esho ukuthi ngeke siphile ngePlanet Passion. Uncoma ukuthi sihambele lapho kaningi futhi sichithe isikhathi esiningi ngangokunokwenzeka lapho, kepha asikwazi ukuhlala lapho. Impilo iyisicefe futhi izithiyo azinakugwenywa.
Uma ngabe ushade isikhathi eside uqinisekisa kanjani ukuthi uthola inani elanele lobulili? Sinezeluleko ezithile ezibalulekile zokugcina ubuhlobo obumangalisayo nobunempilo obuhlala isikhathi eside.
Zama ukuhlangana, ibhalansi, nengxoxo ngokwakha ubudlelwano obuyimpumelelo
Ubuhlobo
Ukuhlobana komlingani wakho kubaluleke kakhulu. Ubudlelwano buchazwa njengokuthanda okuzenzakalelayo noma kwemvelo kothile. Kungamandla phakathi kwabantu okubenza bangene futhi bahlale behlangene ngokuhlangana.
Ukuze uxhumeke futhi ube nothando lomuntu othile enkabeni yenhliziyo kumele umthande ngempela lowo muntu. Kufanele ube nobudlelwano. Isihluthulelo ukugcina njalo ubumbano lomunye nomunye lubheke.
Lapho ubumbano seluphele ngokuphelele komunye nomunye kunzima kakhulu ukubuyisa. Akunakwenzeka kepha kuyinselele.
Ibhalansi
Ukulinganisela ebudlelwaneni kubaluleke kakhulu. Ibhalansi ichazwa njengokulingana ngokomzimba, ukuhlanganiswa okujabulisa ubuhle bezinto, ukuqina ngokwengqondo nangokomzwelo, ukuletha ukuvumelana noma ukulingana.
Ibhalansi iyisithako esidingekayo esakha ubuntu ngokuba umbhangqwana. Futhi kuyisithako esibalulekile ekutholeni ukuyekethisa kuzinselelo ezibhekane nabuphi ubudlelwano. Abantu ababili ngokuhlanganyela bayahlangana kodwa bagcine ubuntu babo egameni lothando.
Kuyinzuzo enhle futhi edingekayo lapho nikwazi ukulinganisana.
Isibonelo, njengoba kuvela ukucindezeleka, ibhalansi kulapho umlingani wakho ebona isimo futhi azi ukuthi yini edingekayo ukungenelela nokusiza ukususa ingcindezi. Lesi yisimo sobudlelwano obuyisivumelwano futhi siyindlela enhle yokuqinisa isibopho sakho futhi senze ukuxhumana okukhulu nokuzwana.
Izingxoxo
Amandla okuba nezingxoxo eziphumelelayo yisici esibaluleke kakhulu kunoma yibuphi ubuhlobo. Ingxoxo enempilo ukushintshana kwemizwa, ukubonwa nemibono.
Ingxoxo ingumgogodla wombhangqwana ochaza ukuqondiswa kobunye ubudlelwane.
Lapho ingxoxo ingekho, ukusondelana nokulinganisela kuqala ukwehla kokuzethemba okuholela kumuzwa wokubambeka enkingeni.
Into yengxoxo yinto ebaluleke kakhulu kuma-ABC obudlelwano obanelisayo.
Ukukwazi ukuxoxa ngezihloko eziyinselele kakhulu kubalulekile empumelelweni yobuhlobo bakho. Kusetshenziswa amagama anisondeza ndawonye kunokukhuthaza ukulwa noma ukundiza kubalulekile. Isibonelo, uma umlingani wakho enza okuthile ukukuthukuthelisa, umuzwa wakho wokuqala kungaba ukubazisa ukuthi bakucasule kanjani. Kodwa-ke, lokhu kuvame ukuholela ekutheni bazivikele, balwe noma bahambe kuleso simo. Azikho kulezi zimo ezisiza kulesi simo.
Kuthiwani uma ngakolunye uhlangothi, wabelana ngomsuka wolaka lwakho? Lapho ungangivezelanga njengoba uthembisile, kwangiphatha kabi kakhulu. Ngaba nomuzwa wokuthi awunandaba nami noma imizwa yami. Amagama afana nalawa azonisondeza kunokusondeza kude.
Kujabulele
Umqondo owodwa wokugcina ukuqiniseka ukuthi uyajabula empilweni yakho. Kunzima ukungathokozi lapho ukujabulela ukugibela. Inoveli ebudlelwaneni ibaluleke kakhulu, ngakho-ke qiniseka ukuthi uhlela izinsuku zobusuku nomunye nomunye. Izifundo zobudlelwano zikhombise kaninginingi ukuthi ngokufaka esikhundleni sedina elijwayelekile ne-movie enomsebenzi wosuku obungeke uwenze kwenza umthelela omuhle ebudlelwaneni bakho.
Ngakho-ke phuma esimisweni sakho bese uzama okuthile okusha okufana nekilasi lobuciko, ubusuku be-spa ekhaya, izifundo zokudansa, ukushibilika eqhweni endlini noma ngaphandle, uwuthola umqondo.
Sonke siyazi ukuba nobuhlobo obumangalisayo kuthatha umsebenzi kepha kuwufanele umfutho nomzamo lapho ukulo muhle. Ithemba lethu ukuthi wena nomlingani wakho nigweme ukubambeka ku-rut syndrome ngokungeza into entsha ezinsukwini zenu, nenze ama-A, B, C futhi ngaleyo ndlela nakhe ubudlelwano obumangalisayo obuzohlala impilo yonke.