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- 1. Ukuphefumula okuyisikhombisa
- 2. Ukubheka
- 3. Ukuxhumeka kwengxoxo
- 4. Ngekhanda ngokuthinta
- 5. "5 Izinto ..."
- 6. Hug ngathi akukho kusasa
Ukuthola ibhalansi phakathi kwempilo nobudlelwano kungacindezela. Kwabashadikazi, leli bhalansi liyinkimbinkimbi ngezingane, imisebenzi, kanye nemithwalo yemfanelo yabantu abadala. Ukugcina ukuxhumana ngokomzimba nomlingani wakho kubalulekile; ucansi nokuxhumana ngokocansi kubalulekile empilweni yobuhlobo noma yomshado. Kepha kukhona umehluko ohlukile phakathi kokuthintana ngokomzimba nokusondelana. Uma uzithola uswele ukuxhumana ngokomzwelo nomlingani wakho, awuwedwa. Imibhangqwana eminingi iyaqhubeka nokuheha ngokomzimba kodwa ihlangabezana nobunzima ekuxhumaneni ngenxa yokuntula ukusondelana ngokomzwelo. Uma kunguwe okholelwa ukuthi ubudlelwano bakho abunakho ukuxhumana ngokomzwelo, zama lezi zivivinyo eziyisithupha ukubuthuthukisa.
1. Ukuphefumula okuyisikhombisa
Lokhu kuvivinya umzimba kungazwakala kunzima kumibhangqwana ethile. Kudinga ukuhlushwa okulingene kanye namandla okuhlala ngokuzola imizuzu embalwa. Qala ngokuhlala ubheke ngaphesheya kozakwenu; ungakhetha ukuhlala phansi, embhedeni, noma ezihlalweni. Uma usunethezekile, bamba izandla, uvale amehlo, bese uncika phambili, uvumela amabunzi akho kuphela ukuthi akuthinte. Ngobunye, thatha umoya ojulile. Kungathatha ukuphefumula okubili noma kathathu ukuvumelanisa omunye nomunye, kepha kungekudala uzozithola usesimweni sokuphumula futhi uphefumule ngokuvumelana nomlingani wakho. Thatha okungenani ukuphefumula okuyisikhombisa ndawonye; zizwe nikhululekile ukuhlala isikhathi eside uma nobabili nikujabulela ukuba wedwa nokuxhuma. Uma wenziwe ngaphambi kokulala, lo msebenzi ungakhuthaza nokuzola nokuphepha ngaphambi kokulala.
2. Ukubheka
Njengokuzivocavoca kwangaphambilini, "ukubheka" kungazwakala kunzima kubaqondana abangahlangani njalo ekubhekaneni kwamehlo. Njengomsebenzi wokuqala, hlala ubhekane komunye nomunye endaweni enethezekile. Ungathinta, kepha qiniseka ukuthi akuyona eyezocansi ngokwemvelo. Uma ungakaze wenze lo msebenzi ngaphambilini, setha isibali sikhathi imizuzu emibili. Uma uhlanganyela kulo msebenzi kaningi, kungakuhle ukwengeza isikhathi. Qala isibali sikhathi bese ubheka ngqo emehlweni ozakwenu. Ningakhulumi noma nithintane ngenkuthalo. Mane ubheke umlingani wakho emehlweni uze uzwe umsindo wesikhathi. Ungakhetha ukukhuluma ngalokho okuzwile ngesikhathi sokwenza lo msebenzi, noma ungakujabulela ukumane ube nomlingani wakho ngemuva kokuqeda ukuvivinya umzimba.
3. Ukuxhumeka kwengxoxo
Indlela esheshayo nelula yokuzijwayeza ukusondelana ngokomzwelo ukusebenzisa imizuzu yokuqala engamashumi amathathu lapho ninobabili ekhaya, nikhuluma ngosuku. Umlingani ngamunye kufanele anikezwe isikhathi esanele sokuxoxa ngalemizuzu; khuluma ngalokho okuhambe kahle, okukudumazile, okujabulele, nanoma yiziphi izimpendulo zemizwa obe nazo emicimbini yosuku. Ukuzinika isikhathi sokuhlanganyela konke lokhu nomlingani wakho kungakhuthaza ukwethembana nokuzizwa uvikelekile. Imibhangqwana eminingi ibambeka emisebenzini yansuku zonke futhi iyakhohlwa ukwabelana ngezimpilo zayo nabalingani bayo - zihloseni ngesikhathi senu ndawonye futhi nisebenzise kahle leyo mizuzu engamashumi amathathu yokuqala.
4. Ngekhanda ngokuthinta
Ukubuyela ezimpandeni zobudlelwano bakho nokuzibandakanya ekuxhumaneni ngokomzimba kungaqabula ebudlelwaneni obentula ukusondelana. Hlala eduze noma phesheya kozakwenu. Beka izandla zakho ndawonye bese uvala amehlo akho. Okwemizuzu embalwa, zinike isikhathi sokuzwa izandla zomlingani wakho futhi "ubone" yonke imininingwane. Ngokuxhamazela kwemisebenzi yansuku zonke, imibhangqwana ivame ukukhohlwa imininingwane emincane eyenza ubudlelwano buhluke. Ungakhetha ukwenza lo msebenzi ngokuthinta ezinye izitho zomzimba womlingani wakho; zama ukungazibandakanyi nokuthinta ucansi (noma ngabe lo msebenzi ungadala ukusondelana ngokomzimba!). Ngekhanda imininingwane yomlingani wakho; bese uzijwayeza ukubamba ngekhanda izici nezici zabo zangaphakathi.
5. "5 Izinto ..."
Ngabe uke wazama umsebenzi we-Conversational Connection futhi kubonakala sengathi awutholi lutho ongakhuluma ngalo? Zama indlela "Yezinto ezi-5 ..."! Shintshanani ngokukhetha isihloko, noma mhlawumbe nifake izihloko eziningana embizeni ukuze niyibuyise lapho ingxoxo iba buthuntu. Isibonelo, ungakhetha "izinto ezi-5 ezingenze ngamamatheka namuhla" noma "izinto ezi-5 ebengingathanda ukuzenza ngaphandle kokuhlala emsebenzini." Lo msebenzi othile ungasiza ingxoxo ephilayo phakathi kwabalingani futhi mhlawumbe ikunikeze nokuqonda kwezintshisekelo noma izici obukade ungazazi!
6. Hug ngathi akukho kusasa
Okokugcina, akukho okudlula ukwangana okuhle, okuyisidala. Lokhu kungahlelelwa noma kwenziwe ngokungahleliwe; mane umane ugone uqinise! Ungayidedeli imizuzu eminingana; thatha umoya omncane ndawonye. Ngekhanda umuzwa womlingani wakho omelene nawe; uzwe imfudumalo yakhe. Sebenzisa izinzwa zakho ezinhlanu - ukubona, ukuhogela, ukunambitha, ukuthinta, nokuzwa - ukuzenzela imvilophu phambi komuntu omthandayo. Kungenzeka kungabi khona lutho olunye olungakhuphula ukusondelana ngokomzwelo nokuzwela ngaphezu kokuhaxa okusuka enhliziyweni futhi okuqotho!