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- Kusho ukuthini ukuthi unkosikazi ohlukanisiwe ngokusho kwezichazamazwi ezisemthethweni?
- Uyini umehluko phakathi kwabahlukanisile nabahlukanisile?
- Amalungelo omfazi ahlukanisiwe ngefa
- Ubudlelwano obuhlukanisiwe kuqhathaniswa nesehlukanisile
Unkosikazi ohlukanisiwe akusiyo isehlukaniso sakho noma unkosikazi ohlukene; akayona futhi i-ex yakho. Unkosikazi ohlukanisiwe unelungelo kuwe nakwimpahla yakho njengoba nje inkosikazi emaphakathi inakho, njengoba esashade nawe.
Uyini-ke umfazi ohlukanisile?
Ungumlingani wakho, osephenduke isihambi kuwe. Kunezimo nezici eziningi ezibandakanya izithandani esezihlukene.
Kungenzeka nihlale endlini eyodwa kepha anikaze nixoxe. Ungahlala ngokwehlukana futhi ningakhulumisani.
Kuzo zombili lezi zimo i unkosikazi ohlukanisile usashade nawe, yingakho enawo wonke amalungelo owenziwa ngumfazi ojwayelekile. Angangena angene endlini yomshado njengoba ethanda. Ngendlu yomshado, kusho ukuthi indlu abashadikazi ababeshade kuyo.
Kusho ukuthini ukuthi unkosikazi ohlukanisiwe ngokusho kwezichazamazwi ezisemthethweni?
Ufuna umfazi ohlukanisiwe okushoyo? Ngenkathi ecelwa ukuba achaze unkosikazi ohlukanisiwe, incazelo yowesifazane ohlukanisiwe ngokusho kukaMerriam Webster yayiwukuthi, "wayengasahlali nomyeni wakhe."
Ngokusho kukaCollins, “Owesifazane noma umyeni osehlukanisile akasahlali nomyeni noma unkosikazi wakhe.”
NgokweCambridge Dictionary, “indoda noma unkosikazi osehlukanisile manje akahlali nomuntu abashade naye”
Uyini umehluko phakathi kwabahlukanisile nabahlukanisile?
Isehlukaniso sinesimo esisemthethweni; kusho ukuthi ukuphela komshado kwenziwe yinkantolo ngokusemthethweni, futhi kunamaphepha okufakazela lokho. Inkantolo isixazulule zonke izindaba, futhi akukho lutho olulindile oluhlobene nokugcinwa kwezingane, imali yesondlo, isondlo sezingane, ifa noma ukwabiwa kwempahla. Bobabili abashadile, lapho behlukanisile, banesimo esisodwa futhi bangaphinde bashade nganoma yisiphi isikhathi.
Okwamanje, ohlukanisiwe akanaso isimo esisemthethweni.
Kusho nje ukuthi lezi zithandani sezihlukene futhi manje sezihlala njengezihambi. Akukho ukuxhumana nhlobo phakathi kwabo. Kepha njengoba bengakahlukanisi ngokomthetho, ezinye izindaba zisalokhu zingakaxazululwa. Njengamafa namalungelo omfazi ahlukanisiwe.
Unamalungelo wonke owenziwa ngumfazi onothando oshadile kahle.
Ukungaqondakali kusho ukuthi unkosikazi wakho unenzondo ngawe futhi akafuni ukukhuluma nawe, kufana nokuhlukana kepha kufana nokuba semibhalweni engakhulumi.
Kungenzeka ukuthi usengunkosikazi wakho wamanje, kepha angabe esakhuluma noma akuthandane nawe. Uma ungumfazi ohlukanisiwe, awukwazi ukuba yisoka, ngoba isimo sakho esisemthethweni sisazothi ushadile. Futhi, imibhangqwana ehlukanisiwe ayinayo inkululeko yokushada nomunye umuntu, ngaphandle kwalapho ithola isehlukaniso esifanele nesisemthethweni enkantolo nayo yonke imibhalo esemthethweni.
Amalungelo omfazi ahlukanisiwe ngefa
Oshade naye uthola uhhafu wayo yonke into, kufaka phakathi, impahla, amasheya, ukheshi, nanoma yiziphi ezinye izimpahla eziqoqiwe phakathi nomshado.
Noma iziphi izipho ezenziwe entandweni yefa ziyasuswa lapho kufakwa isehlukaniso, kepha lokho akunjalo kuwo wonke amazwe. Ngakho-ke, thola njalo intando yakho uma icala elinjalo selizokwenzeka.
Ngakho-ke kwenzekani uma kwenzeka unkosikazi ohlukanisile? Yebo, ngokomthetho ubengakahlukanisi, okusho ukuthi useshadile. Akukhathalekile enkantolo ukuthi niyakhuluma noma cha. Ngakho-ke ngokomthetho, uhhafu wefa uya kumkakhe, ehlukanisiwe noma ngenye indlela.
Njengoba umthetho wase-US ukwenza kuphoqeleke ukushiyela unkosikazi wakho ifa, unkosikazi ohlukanisiwe uthola ngokuzenzakalela isabelo sengonyama sefa lakho, yize imithetho yawo wonke amazwe yehluka.
Kodwa-ke, lo ngumqondo ojwayelekile. Ngaphandle kokuthi umyeni abe nentando yokufakazela ukuthi lo mbhangqwana ubengakhulumi ngamazwi futhi ubesanda kushada ephepheni ngenxa yezingane zabo noma esinye isizathu.
Ifa lingakhohlisa; ukugwema ukudideka, kungcono ukuthi ube nefa elibuyekeziwe nommeli ngaso sonke isikhathi.Lokhu kuzosindisa umndeni kunoma yikuphi ukudideka kanye nezimpikiswano ezingadingekile.
Ubudlelwano obuhlukanisiwe kuqhathaniswa nesehlukanisile
Kunezizathu eziningi lapho umbhangqwana ungakhetha ubudlelwano obuhlukanisiwe ngaphezu kwesehlukaniso noma ngokwehlukana. Isizathu kungaba izingane, ukuphazamisa izimpilo zezingane, noma ukucabanga ngempilo yazo yengqondo kungaba yisizathu esikhulu.
Esinye isizathu esikhona kungaba yizimo zezomnotho. Kushibhile ukwahlukaniswa kunesehlukaniso, ikakhulukazi uma kukhona imali ehlanganyelwe kanye nemali mboleko ongacabanga ngayo.
Uma umbhangqwana ungacabangi ngokushada futhi bese uhlele izindaba zawo maqondana nentando nefa, futhi-ke akufanele kube nenkinga yokuba nenkosikazi noma umyeni ohlukanisile. Ngokwamalungelo omfazi ohlukanisiwe, unelungelo njenganoma yimuphi omunye unkosikazi, ngoba usashadile ngokusemthethweni.
Ukuba ebudlelwaneni obuhlukanisiwe, ukuhlala njengabantu ongabazi kodwa usashadile kuyisimo sokudideka okufanele ube kuso. Awuthandi umyeni, kepha usengumfazi wakhe. Akunandaba ukuthi siyini isizathu, kuyisimo esidabukisayo ukuba kulo.