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Cabanga ngabantu obathandayo. Uyazi, abantu ababili ongabhekisela kubo njengababili "it" empilweni yakho.
Kungaba ngabazali bakho, wena noshade naye, noma izithandani eziqanjiwe ezivela ku-movie yakho oyithandayo. Yini ebenza bagqame? Ingabe yi-banter yabo? Ukuxhumana kwabo? Uthando lwabo komunye nomunye?
Kwesinye isikhathi kuba nzima ukukhomba ukuthi yini ngempela eyenza le mibhangqwana ibe “yizithandani” ezingqondweni zethu, kodwa siyazi ukuthi kukhona okuthile okukhethekile ngazo.
Ukuthi okuthile okukhethekile kungenzeka ukusondelana ngokomzwelo. Kalula nje, ukusondelana ngokomzwelo ukuthi izithandani zisondelene kangakanani ngemizwa yazo. Uma uwabuka ekhuluma kubonakala kungabi namandla. Uma uzibuka zihlangana, kuba sengathi akekho ozibukayo. Bafana nozibuthe abadonswa komunye nomunye, futhi amandla ababasondeza ukuxhumana kwabo okungokomzwelo.
Ukusondelana ngokomzwelo kukhulu, ubudlelwane nomshado buyogcwaliseka ngokwengeziwe. Ngalokho kusho, ungaba nenkinga yokukhomba izici zombhangqwana osondelene ngokomzwelo. Uyazi ukuthi yilokho okufunayo, kepha awazi ukuthi ungakudala kanjani empilweni yakho nasebudlelwaneni bakho.
Okusele kwalesi sihloko kuzonikezelwa ekuhlonzeni lezo zibonelo eziyisibonelo zemibhangqwana esondelene ngokomzwelo. Sizongena kulokho okubukeka ngakho nokuthi ungazakhela kanjani ngokwakho.
1. Ukuvuleleka
Imibhangqwana esondelene ngokomzwelo ivulekile futhi isengozini komunye nomunye. Azikho izithiyo eziphoqa umlingani wazo ukuthi aphumelele; banikela izinhliziyo zabo nomphefumulo komunye nomunye ngaphandle kokungabaza. Lokhu kungathatha isikhathi ukusungula, njengoba cishe wonke umuntu engena ebudlelwaneni nonogada ngenxa yesipiliyoni esedlule. Ngokuhamba kwesikhathi, nokho, lowo nogada uyehla futhi umuntu osothandweni olusondelene ngokomzwelo uvumela umlingani wakhe ukuthi afinyelele konke ukufinyelela kulokho abayikho ngempela.
Ukwakha umoya osengozini futhi ovulekile ebudlelwaneni bakho, kufanele uhole ngesibonelo. Ukuze umlingani wakho avule izinhliziyo zabo kuwe, udinga ukunikela nocezu lwakho olukhulu. Kuzobakhombisa ukuthi uzimisele ukuzibeka lapho, noma ngabe kusho ukulimala. Ngeke ukuzwa ukuxhumana okujule kakhulu okungenzeka ngaphandle kokubeka engcupheni inhliziyo nomphefumulo wakho. Ngokugcina uqaphile, kungenzeka ukuthi uyazivikela, kepha awusoze wavumela oshade naye noma umlingani wakho emhlabeni wakho. Imibhangqwana esondelene ngokomzwelo ibeka lokho kuvikela phansi futhi ivumele umlingani wayo ukuthi ayibone ifomu eliluhlaza kakhulu.
2. Ukwethembeka nozwela
Ukuvuleleka kungavela kuphela ngokwethembeka ebudlelwaneni. Umbhangqwana othi “it” obucabangile ekuqaleni kwalesi sihloko ukufundile lokho ngokuhamba kwesikhathi. Uma bekhuluma bodwa, bakwenza lokho ngenhliziyo enozwelo, kodwa ngolimi oluqotho. Kungenzeka kube namaqiniso abukhali adinga ukushiwo, kepha angashiwo ngendlela engamchobozi omunye umuntu. Ukuphela kwendlela yokusondelana, futhi ukhuthaze ukusondelana okungokomzwelo ngokweqiniso, kungukukhuluma iqiniso komunye nomunye.
Ukwenza inkhulumomphendvulwano ethembekile futhi enozwelo nomlingani wakho, kuzofanele futhi uhole ngaphambili. Uma uzizwa sengathi wena nomlingani wakho benigodlelana izinto — ngisho noma kungukuvikela omunye okwesikhashana emizweni elimele — bazise ukuthi uqaphele. Bakhombise ububele bakho ngenkathi uthembeke nakubonayo. Ukungena egumbini ngokufutheka nolaka akusoze kwavumela ukwethembeka kuchume. Phuma endaweni yozwela nozwela futhi uzozithola usondela engxoxweni ngayinye.
3. Ukuthinta ngokomzimba
Yize isiqeshana sobudlelwano singumbuso waso wobudlelwano, kubalulekile ukugqamisa ubukhulu bokuthinta ekudlulisweni kwemizwa. Ukuthinta okulula kungasho konke okuningi futhi kuxhumane nemizwa eminingi. Uma ungowesifazane, unga uzizwe amagama athi "Ngiyakuthanda" lapho umyeni wakho edlala ngezinwele zakho. Uma uyindoda, ungahle uzizwe wona lawo magama lapho unkosikazi wakho ethatha isikhathi ukukunika umhluzi obuyiselwe kahle. Ukuxhumana akuyona nje into edlula ezindebeni zakho; imibhangqwana esondelene ngokomzwelo isebenzisa imizimba yayo ukwazisa abalingani bayo ukuthi bazizwa kanjani ngabo.
Ukuletha ukuthintana okungokomzimba okusondelene kakhulu ebudlelwaneni bakho, qala ngokuba nenhloso yokuthi uyisebenzisa kanjani ebudlelwaneni bakho. Ungacabangi ukuthi ukuthinta kwakho ngokomzimba kufanele kuhlale egumbini lokulala kuphela. Nikezanani ngokwengeziwe, nibambane ngesandla, noma ngisho nokukitaza umngane wakho womshado uma ithuba livela. Kunemizwelo eminingi engafakwa ekuthinteni okunengqondo. Ungalivumeli lelo thuba lokusondela lonakalise.
4. Ukuthethelela
Imibhangqwana eyenza ibe mide kakhulu futhi ithande ukujula kakhulu yilabo abangaxolela, futhi bakwenze ngokweqiniso. Ukushada nothile kungukuzibophezela impilo yonke futhi abantu bazokwenza amaphutha. Njengabantu, asiphelele. Kuza nje nensimu. Ukuze umbhangqwana ugcine ukusondelana kwawo ngokomzwelo, lapho kumele yiba nokuxolelwa lapho kudlalwa. Uma bengakaze bathethelelane, lokho bekungadala ibanga nentukuthelo phakathi kwabo.
Njenganingi lalezi zimfanelo nezibonelo zokusondelana ngokomzwelo, ukuxolelwa kudinga ukulingiswa ngaphambi kokuba umlingani wakho angene ebhodini. Baxolele ngento obukade uyibambele igqubu. Vumela leyo ntukuthelo isuke emahlombe akho bese uzivulela umlingani wakho ngendlela ongakaze wenze ngayo ngaphambili. Babonise ukuthi bathethelelwe, futhi lapho bezwa ukuthi isisindo sisuswe emahlombe abo, maningi amathuba okuthi bakuthethelele.
Thatha lezi zibonelo uhambe nazo njengoba uhamba indlela ende yomshado. Sonke sifisa ukuba yizithandani ze- “it” esizibone ku-TV noma esake sabhekana nazo emndenini wakithi nabangane. Ukuze ube nalobo budlelwane bephupho, kufanele ulwele ukusondelana ngokomzwelo. Lapho usondelene kakhulu nomlingani wakho, uthando olukhulu kakhulu uzozizwa futhi luyohlala isikhathi eside.
Nakhu imibhangqwana ethi “it” yomhlaba, isibonisa ukuthi singaba kanjani ngabantu abangcono nabalingani abangcono.