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- Kuyini ukuhlukana emshadweni?
- Yiba nomgomo ofanayo owabiwe ngawo
- Yiba nenhlonipho futhi ube nomusa
- Ungalokothi ucindezele umlingani wakho
- Gwema ubudlelwane obubuyile
- Musa ukuhudulela izingane kumxube
- Beka imingcele bese unamathela kuyo
- Xhumana njalo
Ngokocwaningo, amaphesenti angama-50 emishado agcina ngesehlukaniso; lelo iqiniso elibabayo. Izithandani ezinethemba lokubuyisa imishado yazo zikhetha ukwehlukana ukudala isikhala sokuhlola ukuthi ziyahlukanisa noma cha.
Ukwehlukana emshadweni yisimo lapho umbhangqwana oshadile uyeka ukuhlala ndawonye ngaphandle kokuhlukanisa.
Kuyini ukuhlukana emshadweni?
Ukuhlukana emshadweni kungaba isinyathelo sokuqala sesehlukaniso; ngaphandle kokuthi abalingani basebenzise amakhono afanele wokuyisebenzisa njengethuluzi lokubuyisana.
Ukwehlukaniswa komshado kwabashadile kungenziwa ngokungahlelekile noma ngokuhlukana ngokomthetho ngokufaka isivumelwano sokwehlukana enkantolo.
Lapho besebenza ngokuhlukana emshadweni, bobabili abashadile kufanele bathathe isinyathelo sokuqala sokuthola izithelo ezihlukanisayo ezingaholela kamuva emshadweni ojabulisayo.
Ungakusingatha kanjani ukwahlukana komshado? Futhi iyiphi indlela engcono yokubhekana nokuhlukana komshado?
Buka futhi:
Ukukusiza ekubhekaneni nokuhlukana noshade naye, sibhale uhlu lwezinto okufanele uzenze nokungafanele uzenze ngokwehlukana ukuze uqiniseke ukuthi ungasebenzisa ukwahlukana kwakho komshado njengethuluzi lokubuyisana futhi uthuthukise umshado wakho.
Yiba nomgomo ofanayo owabiwe ngawo
Lapho usingatha ukwehlukana, vumelana noshade naye ukuthi kungani kufanele uthathe isinqumo sokwehlukana.
Ukwehlukaniswa okuyimpumputhe kunzima ukukulungisa, futhi kushiya imizwa ebuhlungu phakathi kwabalingani, kwandise inqubo yokuphulukisa.
Vumela oshade naye aqonde imizwa yakho nesidingo sakho sokuthatha ikhefu emshadweni wakho ukuze kuzuze nina nobabili izingane.
Isikhala nesikhathi esanele sinikeza indawo yokwenza isinqumo esinengqondo ngaphandle kwethonya lomlingani wakho.
Umuntu uthola ithuba lokucabanga nokuqhuba ukuhlaziywa kwe-SWOT (Amandla, ubuthakathaka, amathuba nezinsongo) ezinhlosweni zomshado.
Kodwa-ke, ukuze uqiniseke ukuthi unokuhlukaniswa komshado okukhiqizayo, kufanele futhi ucacise isethi yezinhloso zokuhlukanisa umshado.
Izinhloso zakho zokuhlukanisa umshado kufanele zifake:
- Umugqa wesikhathi wokwehlukana komshado
- Imithwalo yemfanelo nendima yomlingani ngamunye phakathi nesikhathi sokuhlukana
- Izingqinamba nemithetho bobabili abashadile bazolandela ngesikhathi sokuhlukana
- Okulindelwe yizinhlangothi zombili ukulungisa umshado
Yiba nenhlonipho futhi ube nomusa
Ukwehlukaniswa kungaba nezimpikiswano emixazelweni engaxazululiwe, ukungafuni ukuxolelana, ukwehluleka ukuthatha umthwalo wezenzo zakho, kanye nokuxhumana okungafanele.
Ngayo yonke le mizwa elimele, imizwa yakho ingadala inhlamba noma amazwi amabi akhulisa ibanga elingokomzwelo phakathi kwenu nobabili.
Lawula imizwa yakho; vumela ukucabanga kube maphakathi nendawo ngalesi sikhathi.
Ukuba nenhlonipho nokuba nomusa ngesikhathi sokuhlukana kwakho kuzodlala indima enkulu ekubuyisaneni komshado wakho futhi kuzoqinisekisa nokuthi izingane zakho zivikelekile ekulimaleni ngokomzwelo.
Ungalokothi ucindezele umlingani wakho
Lesi yisikhathi se- "me time" esihle sokuzihlola kanye nokubona ukubaluleka koshade naye empilweni yakho.
Kodwa-ke, ukwehlukana kuletha ukwesaba ukungaqiniseki. Lokhu kwesaba kuphoqa abalingani ukuba baphoqelane ukuthi benze ngokungathandi benze ukukhetha, okuyingozi kunoma yibuphi ubuhlobo.
Njengoba nje udinga isikhathi sokuthatha isinyathelo esibanzi sokuphula noma sokwenza umshado, vumela oshade naye ukuthi enze izinqumo ezizimele ngaphandle kwengcindezi.
Isinqumo somuntu siqu sichaza ukuhlolwa kwesimo kanye nesisombululo saphakade.
Funa umeluleki wemishado
Ukwelulekwa ngomshado kuyindlela yokwelashwa kwengqondo okusiza imibhangqwana ekuboneni izingxabano nokuyixazulula ukuze ithuthukise ubudlelwano bayo. Kuzwakala njengokuthile lapho izithandani ngokwehlukana zingakusebenzisa.
Zibophezeleni esinqumweni sokufuna usizo lomuntu oqeqeshiwe wesithathu ukunisiza nobabili enkambisweni yokwelashwa.
Kumele wazi ukuthi ngokukhetha umeluleki wemishado, uyakwazi ukuthola izindlela ezahlukahlukene zokunikeza ubudlelwano bakho umkhombandlela yize behlukene.
Futhi zikusiza ukuthi usebenzise inkombandlela efanelekile ngemuva kokubonisana ngokucophelela nokuhlolwa kwesimo obhekene naso.
Uma usaqhubeka nokubamba imizwa elimele, ukuthethelelwa akuyona inketho yakho, kepha, kubalulekile ekubuyiselweni komshado. Ukwelulekwa kungasiza ekutholeni ukuthethelelwa futhi.
Ukwelulekwa ngemishado kuza kahle njengesinyathelo sokwelapha ukukhululeka ukuqhubeka nempilo ngaphandle kokuthinta impilo yakho.
Gwema ubudlelwane obubuyile
Ungalokothi ukhethe obunye ubuhlobo ngaphambi kokuba uhlukanise ngokomthetho nomyeni noma unkosikazi wakho.
Jabulela isikhala nesikhathi sakho ngokutshala imali ekuzilolongeni. Uma unezingane, manje sekuyisikhathi sokuthi uzinake manje njengoba udlala indima yokuba ngumama nobaba.
Musa ukuhudulela izingane kumxube
Ukwehlukana noma isehlukaniso kungaba nomthelela omubi empilweni yengane. Ukwehlukaniswa kungaba inqubo ebuhlungu ezinganeni zakho engaholela ezinkingeni zangaphakathi nezangaphandle.
Ucwaningo kukhombisa ukuthi isehlukaniso / ukuhlukaniswa kwabazali kuhlotshaniswa nengozi eyengeziwe yezinkinga zokulungiswa kwengane nentsha, kufaka phakathi ubunzima bezemfundo (isb., amamaki aphansi nokuyeka isikole), isimilo esiphazamisayo (isb., izinkinga zokuziphatha nokusetshenziswa kwezidakamizwa), kanye nomoya wokucindezeleka.
Izingane azinacala; abayona ingxenye yezingxabano zakho. Bazise ngalokho okufanele bakulindele ngaphandle kokuthola imininingwane emihle ngaphandle uma sebekhulile.
Ungalokothi ukhulume kabi ngoshade naye eduze kwabo; njengoba kuzoba nomthelela omubi kuphela ezinganeni zakho futhi zizozizwa zinecala futhi zididekile ngokwethembeka kwabo kubazali bobabili.
Beka imingcele bese unamathela kuyo
Kunomehluko phakathi komshado nokwehlukana. Uma uvumela oshade naye ukuthi ajabulele wonke amalungelo omshado njengokusondelana, kungenzeka bangasheshi ukulungisa izinto.
Ngenkathi ubhala umgomo, setha imingcele, futhi uyilandele ngokuqinile.
Xhumana njalo
Ukuxhumana kubaluleke kakhulu emshadweni noma ngokwehlukana.
Vumela iziteshi zakho zokuxhumana zivuleke nganoma yisiphi isikhathi ukuvimbela izinsolo. Kuyithuluzi elifanele ukuvula futhi ukhulume ngemizwa yakho elimele, ubeke inkulumo yakho ngendlela efanele ukuze ungazigweme izingqinamba, bese uqala "ukuphola."
Imibhangqwana ekhetha ukwehlukana emshadweni kumele ibe nomqondo ovulekile ekuqondisweni komshado.
Impumelelo yokuthile okumele ukwenze nokungafanele ukwenze ekusingatheni ukwehlukana komshado kusho ukuthi unethuba lokubuyiselwa komshado ngenkathi ukwehluleka kwalo kusho ukuthi uphokophele isehlukaniso.