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- Ingabe i-dissonance yokuqonda ingathinta ubudlelwane phakathi kwabantu?
- Ebudlelwaneni beplonic
- Ebudlelwaneni bomndeni
- Ebudlelwaneni bezothando
- Ngakho-ke busiza kanjani noma bulimaze ubudlelwane?
Iningi lethu kumele ngabe lahlangabezana nezimo lapho iqiniso lethu lishayisana nokulindela kwethu empilweni. Ukungqubuzana okunjalo kusenza singakhululeki ngakho-ke sithambekele ekuyekethiseni ngokwamukela iqiniso esingazange silithethele noma siguqule inkolelo yethu uqobo.
Isibonelo, uJohn Doe angasebenzisa kabi izidakamizwa yize ekholelwa ngokuqinile ukuthi ukusetshenziswa kabi kwezidakamizwa akulungile. Njengomphumela wokungahambisani phakathi kombono wakhe nezenzo, uhlupheka ngaphakathi. Ukwehlisa ukucindezeleka kwengqondo, anganquma phakathi kwalezi zinketho ezimbili ezilandelayo:
- Yeka ukusebenzisa kabi izidakamizwa ngoba kuphambene nenkolelo yakhe, noma
- Shiya umbono wokuthi ukusebenzisa kabi izidakamizwa akukubi kangako.
Izimo ezinjalo zingaletha ukukhathazeka kwengqondo njengoba umuntu ezama ukuthethelela izenzo zakhe. Lesi simo sezindaba siyisisekelo sombono obizwa ngokuthi yi-cognitive dissonance ohlongozwe yisazi sokusebenza kwengqondo uLeon Festinger ngo-1957.
Ingabe i-dissonance yokuqonda ingathinta ubudlelwane phakathi kwabantu?
I-dissonance yokuqonda yenzeka cishe kuzo zonke izinhlobo zobudlelwano babantu- noma ngabe eyomndeni, yothando, noma yeplaton.
Kungathinta indlela esiziphatha ngayo noma esisabela ngayo, bese siqhubeka nokuthatha ubudlelwano bethu bubheke emzileni ohlukile ongaba nempilo.
Ebudlelwaneni beplonic
Lapho abantu bengavumelani ngokuthile, noma ngabe basondele kangakanani, ukukhathazeka kuvela. Kusongela isigqi esinokuthula sobungani babo. Ukuxazulula ukungezwani, elinye lamaqembu abandakanyekayo likhetha ukungayinaki imibono noma izenzo zomunye ukuze kugcinwe ukucindezeleka.
Isibonelo, uJane noBianca bebengabangane abakhulu kusukela kusengaphambi kwesikole. Ngemuva kokuhamba ngezindlela zabo ezehlukene ekolishi, ubungani babo buphazamiseka ngenxa yemibono yabo ephikisanayo yezombusazwe. UBianca, njengomuntu olangazelela ubumbano nokuthula, unquma ukuyeka ukuphikisana nomngani wakhe ngezihloko zepolitiki. Esikhundleni salokho, uzilinganisela ekusekeleni nasekukhuthazeni uJane ezimweni lapho ezombusazwe zingabandakanyeki khona.
Esinye isibonelo, uMike yisazi sezocwaningo esikholelwa ngokuqinile emalungelweni abantu kodwa singakholelwa ku-euthanasia. Lapho umphathi wakhe ohloniphekile ekhetha ukubulawa kwesiguli ukuze aqede ubuhlungu besifo somdlavuza, uMike ubhekana nokuphazamiseka kwengqondo. Ukwehlisa ukukhathazeka kwakhe, ulungisa imibono yakhe nge-euthanasia, ebeka izizathu zokuthi kungcono kumphathi wakhe, futhi kuyilungelo lakhe ukwenza njalo.
Ebudlelwaneni bomndeni
Yonke imindeni ibhekene nezinkinga zayo.
Noma ngabe ukungqubuzana kuphakathi kwezinombolo zabazali noma phakathi komzali nengane, omunye wabantu abathintekayo anganquma ukulungisa ukuze izinkinga zixazululwe.
Isibonelo, umama osadla ngoludala ophikisana nobudlelwano bobungqingili uthola ukuthi indodana yakhe ayithandayo iyisitabane. Ukugcina ukungaguquguquki kwangaphakathi, angahle anganaki iqiniso lokuthi indodana yakhe ingungqingili. Ngenye indlela, angaguqula umbono wakhe ngobungqingili ukuze amukele iqiniso ngobulili bendodana yakhe.
Ebudlelwaneni bezothando
Enye yama-tie-ins ajwayelekile lapho kwenzeka khona ukungaboni ngaso linye ebuhlotsheni bezothando, ikakhulukazi obunobuthi noma obuhlukumezayo - emzimbeni noma emoyeni.
Ngakolunye uhlangothi isehlukaniso, ukungathembeki, nokuhlukumeza kungaba yimiphumela yemizamo yokuxazulula ukungaboni ngaso linye, kanti ngakolunye uhlangothi ukuthethelela, ukuphika, noma iqiniso elikhethiwe kungaba yimiphumela ehlukile.
Isibonelo, uJack noCarrie bebethandana ezinyangeni eziyisithupha ezedlule. Bajabulela isigaba sabo sangemva komshado, becabanga ukuthi bazi konke okumele bakwazi ngomunye nomunye. Kodwa-ke, uJack ngokungalindelekile ushaya uCarrie ngesikhathi kuliwa.
Lokhu kuphumela ekungahambelani kahle kwengqondo kuCarrie njengoba umbono wakhe ngomlingani wakhe manje ushayisana nezenzo zakhe ezingathandeki. Uyazi ukuthi uyamthanda uJack, kodwa hhayi izenzo zakhe. Ngakho-ke unezindlela okungenani ezimbili zokuxazulula ukucindezeleka kwengqondo. Angabuqeda ubudlelwano babo noma alinganise indlela uJack ahlukumeza ngayo 'njengeyinto eyodwa'.
Yize singathola izibonelo ezifanayo bese siya ku-ad nauseum, imifanekiso engenhla yanele ukuthola umqondo wokuthi kuvame ukuhamba kanjani.
Ngakho-ke busiza kanjani noma bulimaze ubudlelwane?
Singaphetha ngokuthi i-dissonance yolwazi yisimo lapho unquma khona ukuthethelela izenzo zakho noma izenzo zabanye ukuze ingxabano yakho yangaphakathi yehliswe kakhulu.
Njengoba isisho sithi, yonke into inecala elibi nelilungile.
Ukudideka kwengqondo kungakulimaza noma kukusize, noma ngabe kukodwa noma kungumuntu uqobo. Ngokuya ngesinqumo sakho, ungakhula noma unciphe njengomuntu ngenxa yezithiyo ezithile nezithiyo ezithile empilweni. Kungaqinisa noma kuqede ubuhlobo bakho nabanye. Kungakusiza futhi ukuthi uziqonde kangcono 'noma ungabi nandaba.