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- Izinhlobo zokwelashwa
- 1. Izithandani ezihlanyayo kuphela eziyidingayo. Awunayo
- 2. Kungenxa yabantu ababuthakathaka kuphela
- 3. Akusebenzi ngempela
- 4. Kungenxa yabantu abanezinkinga "ezibucayi"
- 5. Akunasidingo
Ukwelulekwa ngemishado, okubizwa nangokuthi ukwelashwa kwezithandani, uhlobo lwe-psychotherapy. Kunezinhlobo ezahlukene zokwelashwa. Ukwelulekwa ngomshado kusiza imibhangqwana yazo zonke izinhlobo ukuthi ibone futhi ixazulule izingxabano futhi ithuthukise ubudlelwane bayo.
Ngokululekwa ngomshado, ungenza izinqumo ezibucayi mayelana nokwakha kabusha ubudlelwano bakho noma ukuhamba ngezindlela ezihlukene.
Izinhlobo zokwelashwa
Kunezinhlobo ezahlukahlukene zokwelashwa ezisuselwa ebufakazini nezisekelwa ngucwaningo. Nazi ezinye zezinhlobo zokwelashwa ezivame kakhulu kodwa ezisebenzayo.
- Ukwelashwa komuntu ngamunye - Ukwelashwa komuntu ngamunye kugoqela izimbangela zezinkinga eziphindaphindayo (njengobudlelwano obungenampilo noma izindlela zokuziphatha eziyingozi).
- Ukwelashwa kwezithandani (ukwelulekwa ngomshado) - Lokhu kulungele imibhangqwana eshadile efuna ukufunda ukulungisa izingxabano zabo, ukuxhumana kangcono nokuxazulula izinselelo eziphindaphindwayo ebudlelwaneni babo. Izinhlobo zokwelashwa kwezithandani zithandwa ukwelulekwa ngokungathembeki, ukwelulekwa ngezezimali emshadweni, ukwelulekwa ngodlame lwasekhaya, ukwelulekwa emndenini nasemshadweni kuhle kwemibhangqwana eshadile enezingane, ukwelashwa ngokocansi, ukulutha ngokobudlelwano noma ukwelulekwa ngokungenamthetho okungenampilo kanye nokwelulekwa ngokuvimbela isehlukaniso.
- Ukwelashwa komndeni - Ukwelashwa komndeni kumayelana nokwelapha ilungu lomndeni elingaphezu kwelilodwa (imvamisa ngasikhathi sinye) ukusiza umndeni ukuxazulula izingqinamba nokwenza ngcono ukuxhumana. Izinhlobo zokwelulekwa emndenini zifaka izinhlobo ezahlukahlukene zamamodeli wokwelashwa komndeni afaneleka kakhulu ukuxazulula ubudlelwano bomndeni, izingqinamba zezempilo yabantu abadala, izinselelo zokuba ngumzali, ukwakha amakhono okomoya, ukunqoba ingcindezi yezezimali noma imiphumela noma ukuhlukunyezwa okungokomzwelo, kwengqondo noma ngokomzimba, ukudala umndeni ohlangene onempilo noma amandla emikhaya yokutholwa, kanye nokweseka amalungu omndeni ngesikhathi sokwehlukana nesehlukaniso nokubona nokulwa nokuphazamiseka kokudla okubangelwa yingcindezi.
Noma ukwelashwa kubaluleke kakhulu, kusalokhu kuyindaba efihliwe futhi izinganekwane eziningi ziyaqhubeka.
Lokhu kungaboni ngaso linye kungahle kuvimbele abantu ekufuneni usizo nasekuthuthukiseni izimo zabo ngosizo lokwelulekwa ngemishado okungcono kakhulu ngaphansi kokuholwa ngobungcweti kwabeluleki bezemishado abaphezulu.
Nazi ezinye izinganekwane ezivamile ezihlobene nokwelashwa.
Izinhlobo ezahlukahlukene zabelaphi zisusa lezi zinganekwane ukuze ukwazi ukunqoba izivimbamgwaqo zengqondo, ukucwaswa komphakathi, nokubhuka komuntu okukubuyisela emuva. Funda ngabo ukuze ukwazi ukuthatha isinqumo unolwazi ngokufuna ukwelulekwa ngemishado nemibhangqwana ukuze ugcine umshado wakho, noma usizo lochwepheshe oluvela emndenini noma kubelaphi ngabanye ukukusiza wakhe amandla okuphila emndenini kanye nokuzizwa kahle.
1. Izithandani ezihlanyayo kuphela eziyidingayo. Awunayo
Iqiniso: Imibhangqwana eminingi ephilile, elinganiselayo futhi ephumelelayo emisebenzini yayo ibona abelaphi abazobasiza bakwazi ukubhekana nenkinga ethile. Lokho kungenxa yokuthi badinga usizo ukuthola ukuthi kungani bengajabule ngokuthile. Ezinye izizathu ezijwayelekile kungaba yizinkinga ezinjengokudangala, ukukhathazeka noma ukulahlekelwa othandekayo.
Akukho lutho oluphambana ngokuthola usizo ngokuhlola izinhlobo ezahlukahlukene zokwelulekwa ngemishado nokufuna ukungenelela okusemthethweni, okungachemi nokomsebenzi.
2. Kungenxa yabantu ababuthakathaka kuphela
Iqiniso: Empeleni, ngokusho kwabeluleki bezemishado abahamba phambili, kuthatha umuntu oqinile (noma umbhangqwana) ukuya kumelaphi. Yilabo kuphela abafuna ngempela ukuzisiza abangathola isibindi sokwenza lokhu. Umelaphi angakunika amathuluzi okuqina futhi akusize ukwazi ukubhekana nezinkinga zakho.
3. Akusebenzi ngempela
Iqiniso: Abelaphi ngabantu abangachemile. Abelaphi abasemshadweni abahamba phambili bangabantu abangakhethi, abangathathi hlangothi abazokusiza ekuxazululeni izingqinamba zakho - futhi yingakho-ke bengaba usizo!
Vele, akekho umelaphi ongathi uxazulula izinkinga zakho.
Uma ufisa ukuzuza ekwelashweni, kuzothatha umsebenzi omningi ohlangothini lwakho - okusho ukuthi, kuzokubeka esihlalweni sokushayela ukwenza izinguquko ezinhle empilweni yakho.
4. Kungenxa yabantu abanezinkinga "ezibucayi"
IqinisoAbanye abantu bacabanga ukuthi kufanele kutholakale ukuthi unenkinga yokufuna noma yiziphi izinhlobo ezahlukahlukene zokwelashwa. Ucwaningo luphinde lufakazele ukuthi imibhangqwana ilinda cishe iminyaka eyisithupha ngaphambi kokuthola usizo noma ukuhlola izinhlobo ezahlukahlukene, izindlela noma izinhlobo zokwelashwa.
Ukulinda kukhulisa izinkinga futhi kuzenze zibe nzima kakhulu ukuzixazulula. Ngakho-ke cha, awudingi ukuba nezinkinga 'ezibucayi' zezokwelapha ukuze uthole usizo.
5. Akunasidingo
Iqiniso: Kungani umuntu edinga ukwelashwa kanti bangaxoxa nje nabangane abahle?
Kunenkolelo yokuthi abangane abahle bangafaka esikhundleni sokwelapha. Vele, abangane babalulekile futhi umuntu angathululela kubo isifuba kubo ukuze athole ukusekelwa kepha akukaze kushintshwe ngokuqonda okunikezwa ngumelaphi ezinhlotsheni ezahlukahlukene zokwelashwa.
Abangani nakanjani bayisethi eseduze sabantu abathembekile abakukhathalelayo, abazi okwedlule, futhi abafinyeleleka kalula ngaphandle kokufuna i-aphoyintimenti. Kodwa-ke, ukufuna ukungenelela okusemthethweni kumelaphi oqeqeshiwe kushaya isifuba kumngani.
Nazi izinto ezimbalwa umelaphi angazenza umngani angakwazi.
- Ukwelashwa kwemibhangqwana emihle kukufundisa ngaphezu kwamakhono amahle "okuxhumana".
- Imfihlo enikezwa ngumelaphi ayinakubuyiselwa.
- Kukusiza ukuthi ubone umbono womunye umuntu futhi kukufundise ukuthi omunye angahluka kuwe.
- Isazi sochwepheshe singabona amaphethini akho, amahle namabi. Ngokukhomba amaphethini akho angakuhlomisa ngokubona kokusebenzisa amaphethini amahle ngenkathi ugudluza amabi.
- Umelaphi akazukuxazululela izinkinga zakho kuphela kepha uzokunika nokuqonda namathuluzi awusizo ngokuzayo ukucabanga nokuthola izixazululo uwedwa.
- Bangakusiza ukuthi uzibekele imigomo emisha ongabheka phambili kuyo futhi usebenzele ukuthola impilo ezuzisa kakhulu.
Ngokufanelekile, akumele kube khona ukucwaswa okuhambisana nokuthola usizo nokuxazulula izingxabano. Thola usizo noma nini lapho uzizwa udinga ukufinyelela!