-Delile
Lapho umbhangqwana ushada, ukubhekana nesehlukaniso akuyona into yokugcina ezingqondweni zabanye. Umshado ubumbano nesithembiso. Akukwenzeka ngenhloso yokuhlukanisa izindlela ngokuzayo. Wenza izifungo impilo yakho yonke futhi wenze imizamo yokukhulisa ubudlelwano obuhle kuze kube sekupheleni kwesikhathi.
Ngeshwa, abantu bayahlukana. Ngokuguquka okuhlukahlukene empilweni, imibhangqwana ikuthola kunzima ukunamathela ndawonye futhi inqume isikhungo ngokungabavumeli. Banquma ukuwumisa umshado futhi bayeke ukuhola impilo yabo njengamunye. Bakhetha ukudlula esehlukanisweni. Lapho umbhangqwana uthatha isinqumo sokuthi ufuna isehlukaniso, izizathu zesehlukaniso zingaba ziningi:
- Ukungathembeki
- Ukungahambisani kwezezimali
- Ukuphuza ngokweqile nezidakamizwa
- Udlame lwasekhaya
- Ukwehluka kwamasiko
- Ukuntuleka kokusekelwa ngumndeni
- Ukuntuleka kwemfundo yomshado
- Umshado weminyaka yobudala
- Ukungabi nokusondelana
- Ukuxabana njalo nezimpikiswano
Izizathu abakhetha ukubhekana nesehlukaniso zingaba ziningi, kuphela ebudlelwaneni obubodwa. Yonke imibhangqwana izama ukulungisa isimo okungenani isikhashana ngaphambi kokubhekana nesehlukaniso.
Ukubhekana nesehlukaniso kungokunye kokuhlangenwe nakho okucindezela kakhulu empilweni futhi kuzokuthinta kakhulu. Noma ngabe usushade iminyaka emihlanu noma engama-50, uzozwa ukudabuka okukhulu nokudumala. Mhlawumbe, ingcindezi yesehlukaniso nokukhathazeka ngesahlukaniso kungakwenza uzizwe wehlulekile. Akekho oshadayo ngenhloso yokuthola isehlukaniso, nokho okubuhlungu ukuthi lowo ngumphumela wemishado eminingi yanamuhla.
Ukusingatha isehlukaniso kulula ukusho kunokukwenza. Noma kunjalo, ukumisa umshado omubi kuhlala kungcono kunokuhlala kuwo nokuhlupheka. Ukubhekana nesehlukaniso kusho ukubhekana nengcindezi engokomzwelo nobuhlungu bomzimba. Ngakho-ke, ungabhekana kanjani nesehlukaniso? Ungabhekana kanjani nesehlukaniso nokucindezeleka?
Ukubhekana ngokuphumelelayo nesehlukaniso kuyinqubo ehamba kancane. Kodwa-ke, ngezindlela ezifanele zendlela yokubhekana nesehlukaniso, isimo siya ngokuba ngcono futhi silula. Thola ukuthi ungabhekana kanjani nesehlukaniso esingezansi:
Vumela ubuzwe ubuhlungu
Ukwamukela ngokwengqondo iqiniso lesehlukaniso kulula kakhulu kunokulamukela ngokomzwelo. Ukwamukelwa ngokomzwelo kungathatha isikhathi. Kungakhiqiza ubuhlungu obukhulu nokucindezeleka kwengqondo. Kubalulekile uku ukuzwa imizwa, noma kunjalo, kunokuzama ukubangcwaba ngaphansi komsebenzi omningi nokuphika.
Sonke sivame ukugwema ubuhlungu, ngakho-ke kulula ukwamukela isimo sikaScarlett O'Hara
Ngizocabanga ngakho kusasa
Kulungile ukudabuka. Vumela uzizwe kunokuba uvimbele yonke imizwa yakho. Lokhu kwehlukana kungaholela ezimpawu zokucindezelwa kwesehlukaniso. Kodwa-ke, kubalulekile ukuqonda ukuthi ukudabuka kuyingxenye yenqubo yokwelashwa. Akunandaba noma ngabe uhlangabezana nobuhlungu obungakanani noma ukukhathazeka ngemuva kwesehlukaniso, lokhu ngeke kuhlale unomphela.
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Yamukela iqiniso
Yiba namaqiniso. Imvamisa, sijwayele ukucwebezela lezo zinto ebesingazithandi ngomlingani wethu futhi sikhumbule kuphela lokho esikuthandile. Gwema isilingo sokukhazimulisa ubuhlobo. Esikhundleni salokho, yamukela iqiniso lokuthi bekunezinkinga, futhi ngokuzayo, isehlukaniso singazuzisa. Impilo yakho ingaba yilokho okwenzayo, futhi izingqinamba zakho zamanje ziyitshe nje lokuya empilweni engcono.
Ukwamukela iqiniso nokuyeka lesi simo esingalawuleki kungathatha isikhathi. Ithiphu ukuhlala ugxile kulokho ongakwenza nawe. Ukuphuma kokudlule kuyisihluthulelo.
Izinguquko zendlela yokuphila
Kungaba nzima ukwamukela ukuthi abangani bakho bakulahlile, kepha lokhu kungenzeka. Yazi ukuthi nabo bangalimaza futhi babhekane nezinkinga ongazazi. Ungathathi isenzo sabo uqobo bese uqhubeka. Susa izikhumbuzo ezikukhumbuza lowo owawushade naye, zakhe imikhuba emisha, futhi wakhe izintshisekelo ezinempilo nezintsha.
Uma kukhona izingane, yenza konke okusemandleni ukuthi zingabikho kudivosi. Njengokulingwa okungenzeka kube khona ukuzisebenzisela ukuziphindiselela, lolo hlobo lokuziphatha alusizi izingane. Isehlukaniso singathinta bonke abathintekayo, ikakhulukazi izingane, ezingaba zincane kakhulu ukuthi zingasiqonda lesi simo futhi zizibeke icala ngaso ngokuphelele. Hlakulela imikhuba enempilo ezosiza wena nezingane.
- Zondle Ngokwenyama
Ukuhlala uphilile kuvamise ukubukelwa phansi — izinzuzo zokuhlala unamandla ngokomzimba futhi usebenze ngokushayela kude nezingcindezi eziningi ezingokomzwelo nezingokwengqondo. Hlela ukuzivocavoca njalo ukuze ubuyele emuva kangcono. Ziphakamise ngokomzimba nangokomzwelo ngomsebenzi othile womzimba
- Zondle ngokomzwelo
Ziphathe kahle ngale nqubo yokubhekana nesehlukaniso. Phuma ku-adventure, funda incwadi, ufunde ifomu lokudansa. Yenza konke owazizwa sengathi umshado ukuvimbela kukho. Jabulela ukudla okufanele. Balekela imikhuba engenampilo njengokuphuza njengendlela yokusingatha ukucindezeleka kwesehlukaniso.
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Phumula
Thatha ikhefu esimisweni sakho esimatasa ngenye indlela. Zama ukungathathi izinqumo ezinkulu empilweni ngenkathi usabhekene nesehlukaniso. Ukukhathazeka nesehlukaniso kuyahambisana. Ngakho-ke, vele uthathe isikhathi sokuphumuza ingqondo yakho bese ucwilisa imizwa. Zinike isikhathi futhi usebenzise ukubonisana okunengqondo ukuze ufinyelele kunoma yisiphi isinqumo. Hlola yonke imizwa engemihle bese uzama ukuyishintsha.
Usizo luyatholakala
Ungazami ukubhekana nemizwa yesehlukaniso nalesi sikhathi esinengcindezi ngaphandle kokuthola usizo. Chitha isikhathi nomndeni nabangane. Futhi, thintana nodokotela ukuze ubhekane nesehlukaniso. Ukuxhumana ngemicabango yakho nomuntu wesithathu oyingcweti kuzokukhomba endleleni efanele.
Ividiyo engezansi ikhombisa ukuthi isehlukaniso singakufiphaza ngokunganaki. USadie Bjornstad wazisa ngokuthola ukucaciseleka kokuthi ungayilungisa kanjani impilo ngemuva kwesehlukaniso.
Chitha isikhathi esidingekayo ukuze wena nezingane nilulame, futhi nizame ngawo wonke amandla ukusisebenzisa ngokugcwele. Izobeka isibonelo esihle kakhulu ezinganeni futhi izokwenza lula ukuxhumana nomlingani wangaphambili. Lokhu, futhi, kuzodlula, futhi uzoba ngcono kukho.
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