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- 1. Akukho lutho oluyimfihlo
- 2. Yiba umnumzane futhi ukwamukele
- 3. Awukwazi ukwenza umuntu onjengawe
- 4. Ungabi ngumuntu ocathamela abanye abantu
- 5. Ungamenzi azonde amanye amadoda
- 6. Hlolisisa sonke isimo
- 7. Akuwena wedwa
- 8. Chitha isikhathi esithile udabukile, kodwa hhayi kakhulu
- 9. Zibandakanye entweni ekhiqizayo
'Cha'. 'Angikuthandi'. 'Angikaze ngikuthande.'
Lawa ngamagama ambalwa abuhlungu okunzima ukuwezwa uma umuntu omthande ngokujulile ewasho. Ukubhekana nokwenqatshwa kwezothando kungaba buhlungu ngokufanayo njengokuzwa ubuhlungu obuthile emzimbeni.
Kwezinye izimo, lapho abantu bengaphumeleli ekubhekaneni nokwenqatshwa, iya ekucindezelekeni noma uze ufune ukuzibulala.
Ukwenqatshwa akukaze kube ukuphela kwempilo yakho.
Umuntu kufanele akubheke lokhu njengokugcina kwesahluko empilweni yabo futhi kufanele aqale ukugxila esahlukweni esilandelayo. Okubalwe ngezansi kukhona ezinye zezeluleko ezisheshayo nezisebenzayo zokubhekana nokwaliwa yintombazane nokuthi ungasukuma kanjani, ubude futhi uqine.
1. Akukho lutho oluyimfihlo
Uma kukhulunywa ngokubhekana nokwenqatshwa kunoma ngubani, into eyodwa ukuthi wonke umuntu, kungakhathalekile ubulili, kufanele aqonde ukuthi ukwenqatshwa akumele kuthathwe njengokungeyakho.
Abanayo i-ajenda yomuntu siqu efihliwe ngawe futhi abakunqabanga ngaphansi kozungu oluthile.
Ukwamukelwa noma ukwenqatshwa kuyisinqumo umuntu asenzayo.
Ngakho-ke, ungalokothi uthathe noma yini yomuntu siqu futhi ungazami ukuziphindiselela ngoba wenqatshiwe.
2. Yiba umnumzane futhi ukwamukele
Kunezikhathi lapho amadoda ethatha ukwenqatshwa e-ego yabo futhi anqume ukulimaza isithunzi sentombazane. Akukaze kube nesimo esifanele. Intombazane ikulahlile ngoba ayikuzweli ngendlela efanayo nawe. Uma umthanda ngempela, kuzomele usihloniphe isinqumo sakhe, usamukele ngenhliziyo eqinile bese uphuma kuleso simo. Ukuziphindiselela akuyona inketho efanele.
3. Awukwazi ukwenza umuntu onjengawe
Impela awunayo i-potion yothando engasetshenziselwa ukwenza umuntu akuthande. Wonke umuntu unenkululeko yokuzikhethela ukwamukela noma ukwenqaba noma ubani nanoma yini.
Ngakho-ke, uma intombazane ikulahlile, yamukele ngomusa.
Ukubhekana nokwaliwa ngeke kube uhambo olulula, kepha akumele ulahle ithemba bese ucindezelekile. Ungaqali ukukholelwa ukuthi kukhona okungahambi kahle ngawe. Vele wamukele iqiniso lokuthi awukwazi ukwenza umuntu akuthande.
4. Ungabi ngumuntu ocathamela abanye abantu
Ukubhekana nokwaliwa othandweni kunzima impela. Njengoba ubuzibandakanya naye futhi uchithe isikhathi esiningi naye, ngokuqinisekile kungaba nzima kuwe ukungcwaba okwedlule futhi wenze okujwayelekile.
Kodwa-ke, ungavumeli lokhu kukuguqule ube ngumlandeli. Unempilo futhi myeke aphile impilo yakhe. Ukugijima ngemuva kwakhe, ukumlandela konke akwenzayo futhi ukhathazeke kakhulu ngaye kuzokufaka ezincwadini zakhe ezimbi. Yamukela, bese uqhubeka.
5. Ungamenzi azonde amanye amadoda
Lapho intombazane ikulahla, ulindele ukuthi uzokuphatha ngokuqinile ukwenqatshwa.
Ngokuphindisela ukwenqaba ngentukuthelo ukhombisa ubuthakathaka bakho. Ngenkathi ubhekene nokwenqatshwa, kufanele umenze azizwe evikelekile futhi kufanele akhombise inhlonipho enkulu esinqumweni sakhe. Ngolaka lwakho nolaka lwakho ubungamethusa futhi angahle angazizwa eqinile futhi ezethemba namanye amadoda ngokuzayo, ngakho-ke uzokwesaba ukuthi kungenzeka bangakuphathi kahle ukwaliwa.
Ngakho-ke, esikhundleni sokumethusa impilo yakhe yonke, menze azizwe kahle futhi azethembile ngesinqumo.
6. Hlolisisa sonke isimo
Uma kuziwa ekubhekaneni nokwenqatshwa kwezothando, kufanele uhlolisise sonke isimo ukuze wazi ukuthi uthathe kuphi isignali engafanele.
Ezimweni eziningi, amadoda ajwayele ukutolika kabi izimpawu nezimpawu bese eqala ukukholelwa ukuthi intombazane iyazithanda. Lokhu, ekugcineni, kuholela ekudidekeni okukhulu yingakho kunqatshwa. Ngakho-ke, hlala uhlaziye isimo ukuze ungaphinde wenze iphutha elifanayo.
7. Akuwena wedwa
Ukwenqaba kuyingxenye yempilo futhi wonke umuntu udlula kulokhu okungenani kanye. Kungaba yisiphukuphuku ukuhlala ukhalaze ngokwenqatshwa bese ukubhekela mathupha.
Imvamisa, abanye bayazehlukanisa futhi babambelele ekwenqabekeni kuze kufike ezingeni lokuba bacindezeleke. Lokhu akuyona into efanele ukwenziwa. Ngakho-ke, zidonse ndawonye bese uqala kabusha. Funda kokuhlangenwe nakho okwedlule futhi uqhubekele phambili.
8. Chitha isikhathi esithile udabukile, kodwa hhayi kakhulu
Ukudabuka kungenye indlela yokubhekana nokwenqatshwa. Hlala eceleni, uhlaziye, ukhale, ukhiphe leyo micabango nemizwa engqondweni yakho, kepha ungabambeli kuyo isikhathi eside. Ukudabuka kukusiza unqobe isimo kalula futhi ngokushesha. Khuluma nomngane wakho uma uzizwa uphansi kakhulu. Mhlawumbe, ukukhuluma kungakusiza ukunqoba ukwenqatshwa.
9. Zibandakanye entweni ekhiqizayo
Ngenkathi ubumatasa ngemuva kwento okholelwa ukuthi ingeyakho, kungenzeka ulahlekelwe yizinto eziningi. Ngakho-ke, esikhundleni sokungena emicabangweni yokwenqatshwa, qala ukugxila kokuthile okukhiqizayo.
Hlangana nabangane, zibandakanye kokuzilibazisa okuthile, funda okuthile okusha noma usebenzise isikhathi esithile nawe. Le misebenzi izoba nezithelo uma kukhulunywa ngokubhekana nokwenqatshwa.