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- Ukudumisa yilokho abakudingayo ngaso sonke isikhathi
- Umqondo okweqile wokuzincoma
- Umuzwa wokuphakama
- Benza ihaba ngempumelelo yabo
- Ugxile ebuhleni nasemandleni
- Ubuqili emvelweni
- Ukuthambekela komona
- Ayikwazi ukwamukela ukugxekwa
I-narcissism yigama lesiGreki elibandakanya ukuzincoma komuntu nokubukeka kwakhe. Kuyisimo sokuzithanda ngokweqile.
Ngaphezu kwalokho, umuntu oyisidlwangudlwangu uzicabangela yena yedwa; akudingeki ukuthi babe bahle ukuze bakholwe ukuthi bangabo. Esikhundleni salokho, bayaqiniseka ngokwabo ukuthi bahle futhi baphakeme kunabanye. Ukusebenzelana nomuntu osebenzisa i-narcissist kuba nzima uma ungakwazi ukukhomba la maqiniso kubo. Yize kungashiwo kalula kunokukwenza, noma kunjalo, kuyinto edinga ukwenziwa.
Izici zobuntu zomuntu obhala ngezinto ezingekho emthethweni
Lapho uthando lwakho lufinyelela ezingeni eliphakeme, khona-ke i-narcissism ishintsha ibe yinkinga yobuntu. Umuntu onalesi sifo wenza ngendlela exakile, futhi isimo sengqondo nokuziphatha kwalowo muntu akunakuthathwa njengokujwayelekile. Izici ezithile zabantu abanjalo ziveza isimilo okungathi uma sikutholile, sikusize ekubhekaneni nomuntu osebenzisa izigebengu.
Nazi ezinye izindlela zokuziphatha ezikhonjiswe ngumuntu othanda ukwanda okuxoxwe ngazo ngezansi. Uma ufuna ukwazi ukuthi ungamphatha kanjani umuntu osebenzisa izihlukumezi, funda ku:
Ukudumisa yilokho abakudingayo ngaso sonke isikhathi
Ukulambela kwabo ukunconywa akupheli. Futhi okubaluleke kakhulu, lokhu kudumisa kwenzelwe bona kuphela, futhi abafuni ukuthi umuntu alindele okufanayo kubo.
Empeleni, uma kwesinye isikhathi bengazizwa izinhliziyo ezifanayo ziwina izincomo bayathukuthela futhi bakhungatheke.
Ngasikhathi sinye, ucwaningo luye lwabonisa nokuthi ukuncoma ngokweqile kungaholela ekuqothulweni kwezingane ezinganeni.
Umqondo okweqile wokuzincoma
Abaqondi iqiniso lokuthi abanye banenhliziyo futhi wonke umuntu unenani elithile. AmaNarcissist awalokothi azwele abanye; empeleni bafuna bona baphathwe njengabakhulu kunabanye.
Umuzwa wokuphakama
Kungakhathalekile ukuthi ngabe kukhona abakuzuzile noma cha banomqondo othile wokuphakama obahlala ubazungezile.
Bafuna ngokwabo ukuthi babonwe njengabanesikhundla esivelele kunabo bonke abanye.
Benza ihaba ngempumelelo yabo
Ngaphezu kwalokho, uma benethalente lokuthile okuze kwabavumela ukuthi bazuze abakufisayo; ngakho-ke lokhu okufeziwe kuhlala kunehaba ngama-narcissists.
Ugxile ebuhleni nasemandleni
Ukukhathazeka ngemicabango ngobuhle, amandla, ubukhazikhazi, umlingani omuhle wokuphila kungenye into ebalulekile yalabo bantu. Kungaba nzima ukuphawula kwesinye isikhathi ngoba abantu abaningi bakhangwa yilezi zinto kepha abantu abanolwazi lokusebenzelana nomuntu osebenzisa i-narcissist bayazi ukuthi ukukhathazeka kwabo kusezingeni elihluke ngokuphelele.
Ubuqili emvelweni
Bakhohlisa izinto futhi bacabange ngezindlela ezikhohlisayo zokuthola abakufunayo. Ngaphezu kwalokho, bangahle basebenzise abanye abantu, babe nenhlonipho kakhulu futhi babe nomusa ukwenza intando yabo yamukelwe. Empeleni, ucwaningo olwenziwe yi-University of Alabama luye lwabonisa ukuthi abantu abanjalo bangazama ngamasu okwenza ngisho nabalingani babo babe nomona.
Ukuthambekela komona
Bahlala benomona ngabanye futhi bacabanga nokuthi abanye bayabafela njengoba bengabantu abaphelele abanobuhle nobuchopho. Lokhu kwenza ukusebenzelana narcissist kube nzima kakhulu ngoba bacabanga ukuthi abantu basuke bezimisele ukubathola lapho bekhombisa ukuthambekela kwabo kwe-narcissistic.
Ayikwazi ukwamukela ukugxekwa
Okokugcina, basabela kunoma yiluphi uhlobo lokugxekwa olubhekiswe kubo ngokuzikhukhumeza ngokweqile (hlola lolu cwaningo oluthokozisayo olukhuluma ngokuhlobana kokugxekwa narcissism).
Ubuwazi ukuthi kunesinye isifo esilingisa kokubili i-narcissism kanye ne-borderline personality disorder. Bheka le vidiyo ukuze wazi ukufana nokwehluka:
Ungabhekana kanjani narcissist
Kunzima kakhulu ukubhekana nomuntu othanda izidakamizwa ngoba bengakwamukeli lokho ababhekene nakho, okuwukuphazamiseka kobuntu. Futhi, lapho becelwa ukuthi bavakashele udokotela, bangase basabele kukho ngentukuthelo ngoba lokho okulindelwe nakanjani kuyabalimaza ukuzethemba kwabo. Kungaze kuholele, kwesinye isikhathi, ekuhlukunyezweni ngokweqile okungenza umthwalo kumlingani noma osondelene naye.
Bese wenzeni? Ungabenza kanjani babone ukuthi bakhombisa izici zobuntu be-narcissistic?
Akuyona inkimbinkimbi kakhulu. Okulandelayo ezinye zezimfihlo ezisisiza ukuthi sibhekane nomuntu osebenzisa izidakamizwa.
Yiba nenhlonipho
Ufuna ukwazi ukuthi ungabhekana kanjani nomyeni we-narcissist, ubaba, umama, unkosikazi, umngani noma ingane yakini? Qala ngokukhuluma nabo ngenhlonipho esikhundleni sokusabela ekuziphatheni kwabo ngokucasuka. Lalela abakucabangayo nabakuzwayo bese uthola isisombululo sakho kancane kancane.
Ungalokothi ulwe noma ubaphoqe ukuba benze noma yini ephikisana nemicabango yabo.
Babuze
AbakwaNarcissist bahlala bekwazi ukubukeka kwabo, isimo sabo sengqondo, nobuntu babo bonke, kepha bangabukeka bengelula kwabanye. Ngakho-ke kubalulekile ukuthi sibabuze imibuzo efana nokuthi, 'Wake wacabanga yini ukuthi abanye abantu bazocabangani ngawe?', 'Awufuni ukwazi ukuthi abanye bazizwa kanjani ngawe nokuziphatha kwakho okungavamile?', Noma 'Ingabe wena ngifuna ukubukeka singaphelele phambi kwabanye? '
Imibuzo enjalo izobenza bazibuze ngokuziphatha kwabo. Ngoba bahlala befuna ukubukeka kahle, bazozama ukubashintsha, kepha kancane kancane.
Lesi ngesinye sezeluleko eziphumelelayo kakhulu zokukhuluma nomuntu osebenzisa izidakamizwa.
Khetha u-'hayi 'emibuzweni yabo eminingi
Ngaso sonke isikhathi lapho abantu abanjalo bethola ukuvunyelwa abakushoyo, bathola ukonakala okuningi okwenza ukuhlala nomuntu osebenza ngezidakamizwa kube ngumqansa ngezikhathi ezithile. Bakholelwa ukuthi yibona kuphela abalungile ngenkathi abanye bephikisana nabo. Isibonelo, uma umngani wakho, oyisidlwangudlwangu ethi, ‘Awucabangi ukuthi ngihlakaniphe ukwedlula lowo esisebenza naye? '
Indlela enhle yokuphendula kumuntu osebenzisa iziqubulo ukuthi impendulo yakho kumele ibe yinegethivu. Kepha ngaphezu kokuthi cha, kufanele uchaze nesizathu ngenkathi ubhekene nobuntu obuthandayo. Zama ukukholisa umngani wakho ukuthi abale izimfanelo ezinhle zabantu ababazungezile.
Thuthukisa uzwela kwabanye
Ngenkathi ubhekene nomuntu osebenzisa i-narcissist, kufanele kufundiswe kubo ukuthi kulungile ukuba ngumuntu ojwayelekile. Uzwela lwabanye luyadingeka ekwakheni ubudlelwano nabo.
Lapho izibopho nabalingani bakho, abangane noma izingane zakini zilungile, uzizwa ukhululekile ukubaba nabo. Lokhu kukuvumela ukuthi wabelane ngemicabango yakho.
Ngaphezu kwalokhu, ukuqonda abanye kubalulekile; umuntu osebenzisa izidakamizwa kufanele afunde ukuhamba ezicathulweni zomunye umuntu.
Akunamahloni ngokuvakashela isazi sokusebenza kwengqondo
Impendulo yokuthi singobani itholakala emehlweni abanye. Singaba nobugovu kakhulu nokuzicabangela thina uqobo lwethu size siphike ubukhona babantu abasizungezile. Ngakho-ke, uma uthola ukukhomba izici zakho ze-narcissistic, bese uvakashela isazi sokusebenza kwengqondo esinolwazi olufanele ekubhekaneni nokuphazamiseka kobuntu kwe-narcissistic.Xoxa ngezinkinga zakho bese uziqeda.
Futhi, uma othile omaziyo ekhombisa lezi zimpawu ngazo zonke izindlela, basikisele ukuthi bathole usizo kepha bathole impendulo efanele, khumbula njalo ukuthi unenhlonipho futhi ungazivikeleli ngenkathi ubhekene nomuntu osebenzisa i-narcissist.