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- Ukuchazwa komlingani wangaphandle
- Imininingwane ebalulekile
- Izidingo zomthetho
- Ukwehluka kwamasiko
- Okuhlangenwe nakho okujabulisayo
- Isiphetho
Umshado yinto abesifazane nabesilisa abaningi ababheke phambili kuyo. Abanye banenhlanhla yokuhlala impilo yonke yomshado kumlingani oyedwa ngenkathi imibhangqwana embalwa ihlukanisa noma idivosa ngezizathu ezahlukahlukene. Isaga sasendulo sithi: “Imishado yenziwa ezulwini.” Akukho okuphawuliwe ngalesi axiom.
Kodwa-ke, imithetho, imithetho, imithethonqubo, izinkolo namasiko enziwa ngabantu. Kodwa-ke lezi zinto zivame ukudlala indima ebonakalayo empumelelweni noma ekwehlulekeni komshado. Ngaphezu kwalokho, uma ungowesifazane noma owesilisa ushada nowezizwe. Ukushada nomlingani ovela esikweni elihlukile kungaba yinto ejabulisayo kepha futhi kungaba yinto ethusayo. Ukugwema amaphupho amabi emshadweni, kubalulekile ukwazi ukuthi umshado onamasiko ahlukahlukene uhlanganisani.
Ukuchazwa komlingani wangaphandle
Uhlelo 'lwabashadikazi boku-oda ngeposi' oluchume kusukela ngeminyaka yama-1970 kuya kowe-1990 luyadlondlobala. Amazwe amaningana avimbele 'omakoti be-mail-oda', ngoba kufana nokuhweba ngenyama. Kwakuhilela abesifazane abasebasha abavela emazweni abuyela emuva kwezomnotho ukulethwa “njengabashadikazi” emazweni acebile futhi kwesinye isikhathi beshade nabesilisa asebekhule ngokwanele ukuthi bangaba ogogo babo.
Uhlelo manje seluthathelwe indawo 'izinhlangano zomlinganiso' ezisemthethweni ezichuma kwi-Intanethi. Ngemali encane yobulungu, owesilisa noma owesifazane angakhetha kwabalingani abambalwa abangavela kunoma iyiphi ingxenye yomhlaba.Ngokungafani ne-mail-oda, lowo ozoba umakoti noma umkhwenyana kufanele aye ezweni lapho lowo ozoba umlingani ahlala khona futhi azoshada ngokuqedela zonke izinqubo zomthetho.
Kukhona ezinye izinhlobo zabalingani bomshado nazo ezihlangabezana nencazelo yomlingani wangaphandle:
- Umdabu wezwe elilodwa othole ubuzwe bezwe langaphandle
- Ingane yabantu bokufika ephethe ipasipoti yezwe lapho kuhlala khona abazali
- Indodana noma indodakazi yabashadikazi abavela ezizweni ezahlukahlukene
Azikho izincazelo ezihlakaniphile zomlingani waphesheya kepha imvamisa, zingathathwa njengabantu abavela emasikweni nasebuzwe obuhluke kakhulu.
Imininingwane ebalulekile
Ukushada nabantu abanjalo kujwayelekile kulezi zinsuku njengoba amazwe amaningi amukela abokufika abanamakhono futhi enikeza ubuzwe ngemuva kokuhlangabezana nemibandela ethile. Kodwa-ke, kukhona ukukhathazeka okubili okudingeka ubhekane nakho ukuze uphumelele, umshado ojabulisayo nowezizwe. Lezi izi:
- Izidingo Zezomthetho
- Umehluko Wamasiko
Lapha, sixoxa ngalolu lwazi olubalulekile ngemininingwane ethe xaxa.
Izidingo zomthetho
Lapha sibala eminye imithetho, imithetho kanye nemithethonqubo evame ukwenziwa amazwe emhlabeni jikelele. Kodwa-ke, ungahlola nehhovisi labokufika lakho lendawo kanye nabameli ukubhekana nanoma yikuphi ukukhathazeka okuthile.
Awukwazi ukuhlala ezweni lomlingani wakho ngaphandle kwemvume efanele evela kuhulumeni walo. Okusho ukuthi, ukushada nesakhamuzi sezwe elilodwa akukunikezi ilungelo lokuthola amalungelo okuhlala lapho. Imvamisa, uchungechunge lwemvume lucelwa yiminyango ehlukene kahulumeni ngaphambi kokunikeza ukuhlala unomphela noma ngisho ne-visa yokungena ezweni lowakwakhe. Umthetho ukuvimbela ukufuduka okungekho emthethweni noma 'imishado yenkontileka' lapho umlingani waphesheya alethwa kuphela ngenhloso yokuthola ubuzwe.
Ukunikeza ubufakazi bokuthi awushadile noma awushadile noma unelungelo elisemthethweni lokungena emshadweni kuyimpoqo. Ngaphandle kwale dokhumenti ekhishwe yisiphathimandla esifanele ezweni lakho, awukwazi ukushada nowangaphandle.
Ungashada emcimbini wenkolo ethempelini elithile, okungenzeka ukuthi awufuni ubufakazi bokungashadi noma ongashadile noma onelungelo lokushada. Kodwa-ke, lo mbhalo uyimfuneko ngenkathi ubhalisa umshado wakho enkantolo yezomthetho nasemishini yokuxhumana.
Ukubhalisa umshado ezweni lakho kanye noshade naye kubalulekile. Ngenxa yokwehluka kwemithetho yomshado yamazwe ahlukahlukene, uzakwethu wangaphandle futhi kufanele nivumelane nemithetho yamazwe womabili. Lokhu kubalulekile ukuqinisekisa ukuthi oshade naye noma abantwana bakho bangaba izindlalifa zakho zomthetho. Ukungabhalisi kungaholela emshadweni wakho uthathwe njengongekho emthethweni nezingane zibhalwe ukuthi 'azikho emthethweni'.
Ngokwengeziwe, uma uhlala ezweni lesithathu, udinga ukubhalisa nomshado lapho. Le mithetho ikhona ukuqinisekisa ukuthi bobabili abashadile bathola ukuvikelwa okudingekayo namalungelo ngenkathi behlala kulelo zwe. Kodwa-ke, ukubhalisa umshado kuyadingeka kuphela uma ushada kulelo zwe. Ngaleyo ndlela, izwe linganikeza oshade naye i-visa noma imvume yokuhlala edingeka ngaphansi kwesimo esisha, sokushada.
Ngaphandle kokuthi bobabili abashadikazi abavela kwamanye amazwe banobuzwe obufanayo, udinga ukunquma ubuzwe izingane zakho okufanele zinikezwe lapho zizalwa. Amanye amazwe avele anikeze ubuzwe bawo enganeni ezalwe emhlabathini wayo kanti amanye aqinile futhi awavumeli abesifazane abakhulelwe ukuthi bangene emingceleni yabo. Udinga ukukala ubuhle nobubi bezingane zakho ezithatha ubuzwe bezwe likababa noma lomama.
Ukwehluka kwamasiko
Uma imibango esemthethweni kuyinto okufanele uyicabange ngenkathi ushada nowezizwe, ukuvala umehluko wamasiko nakho kubalulekile ngokufanayo. Ngaphandle kokuthi uhlale ezweni lomlingani womuntu noma ngenye indlela, kunezinto eziningi okudingeka uzifunde ngaphambi nangemva komshado.
Imikhuba yokudla yinto ejwayelekile kakhulu lapho iningi labashadikazi bangaphandle lizithola lingqubuzana. Ukujwayela izindlela zokupheka zabokufika akulula. Oshade naye kungenzeka ukuthi akazi ngemikhuba yokupheka kanye nolwanga lwendabuko yakho. Ngenkathi abanye bengazivumelanisa nezinto ezithandwa kwamanye amazwe ngokushesha, abanye kungenzeka bangaze bavume. Ukuxabana ngokudla kungaholela ekuphazamisekeni kwasekhaya.
Yazi isimo somnotho somndeni womlingani wakho. Ukuxabana kwemali phakathi kwezithandani kuyimbangela enkulu yezehlukaniso e-US nakwezinye izingxenye zomhlaba. Uma umndeni womlingani wakho untengantenga ngokwezomnotho, bangalindela usizo lwezezimali. Lokhu kusho ukuthi, umyeni noma unkosikazi wakho angagcina ethumele ingxenye enkulu yemali etholakalayo yokuxhaswa kwakhe. Kuyaqondakala ukuthi, bazodinga imali yokwenza izinto ezisuselwa ekudleni kuya ekunakekelweni kwezempilo nakwimfundo. Ngakho-ke, kungcono ukwazi ngokuzidela kwemali okungahileleka ukushada nowezizwe.
Ukuxhumana okuhle kakhulu kubalulekile empumelelweni yanoma yimuphi umshado. Ngakho-ke, kubalulekile ukuthi oshade naye ongaphandle kwakho futhi ube nezinga lobungcweti bolimi olimini oluvamile. Abantu abavela emazweni ahlukene bakhuluma isiNgisi ngezindlela ezahlukahlukene. Ukukhuluma ngobumsulwa komuntu wesinye isizwe kungathathwa njengecala kwesinye isiko futhi kungalimaza kakhulu ubudlelwano.
Ukwazi umehluko emikhubeni yenkolo nakwizintandokazi nakho kuyisihluthulelo somshado ophumelelayo nowezizwe. Noma ungalandela inkolo efanayo, amasiko omdabu avame ukuba nomthelela endleleni okwenziwa ngayo. Isibonelo, ezinye izizwe zigubha ukufa futhi zamukela abalilayo ngoswidi, amakhekhe, utshwala noma iziphuzo ezibandayo. Abanye babamba imilindelo ebabazekayo. Ungazizwa uphatheke kabi uma oshade naye ebungaza ukufa kwesihlobo esithile asithandayo ngezizathu zokuthi umphefumulo ongasekho uye ezulwini.
Abanye bangabona amasiko we-melancholic njengokuphendula ngokweqile kule ndima yemvelo yempilo yomuntu.
Izibopho zomndeni zesiko langaphandle zingahluka kakhulu. Ngokuvamile, ama-movie e-Hollywood aqokomisa la ma-nuances. Kwamanye amasiko, kulindeleke ukuthi uthathe wonke amalungu omndeni womlingani wakho uye naye kumamuvi noma isidlo sakusihlwa. Ukujabulela isizungu noshade naye kungabhekwa njengokwedelela noma okunobugovu. Futhi, ngenkathi unikeza othile oshade naye okuthile, kungadingeka nokuthi uthenge izipho zomndeni ukuze zihambisane namasiko angaphandle. Ngezizwe ezithile, kuvamile ukuthatha abangane nezihlobo abangamenyiwe baye ephathini. Udinga ukuzilungiselela ukuthola okungenani eliphindwe kabili inani lezivakashi ezimenyiwe uma oshade naye evela kunoma yiziphi izinhlanga ezinjalo.
Imikhuba yokusebenzisa imali iyehluka kuye ngezwe ngalinye. Amanye amasiko akhuthaza ukonga imali nokungazibeki phansi njengophawu lwesizotha kanti ezinye zizitika ngamabibi okukhombisa ingcebo. Lokhu kwenza kubaluleke kuwe ukuthi wazi imikhuba yokusebenzisa imali yesiko ofisa ukushada kulo. Okunye, ungagcina usuphila impilo yokuncishwa izinto owawukade uzithatha kalula. Ngakolunye uhlangothi, ungangena ezinkingeni zezezimali uma oshade naye engukuchitha ngokweqile, ngenxa yokuphoqeleka kwamasiko.
Okuhlangenwe nakho okujabulisayo
Ukushada nomuntu wangaphandle kungaba yinto ejabulisa kakhulu, inqobo nje uma ungamelana nazo zonke izingxabano ezisemthethweni ezibangelwa yimithetho yamazwe ahlukahlukene futhi uhambe lelo mile elingaphezulu ukuze ufunde umehluko wamasiko. Izigidi zabantu emhlabeni jikelele zishade nabezizwe abavela emasikweni ahlukene kakhulu futhi baphila impilo enenjabulo enkulu. Ngakho-ke, ukuzijwayeza nge-vagaries yokushada isiko elihlukile nezomthetho ezihilelekile kungabonakala kunomvuzo.
Isiphetho
Abanye abantu emhlabeni jikelele bahlushwa yi-xenophobia. Baxwaye ngabokufika emndenini nakomakhelwane. Ungenza okuncane ukubhekana nabantu abanjalo kwesinye isikhathi abangaze bahambe ngokuzitika ngobuhlanga. Akunasizathu sokuziphindiselela ngoba kuzokwandisa ubutha obudlangile.
Uma ushada nomuntu wesinye isizwe, funda ukuthatha amazwi anjalo ngokunganaki. Abanye abantu bangayibalekela inkampani yakho noma bangamemi oshade naye noma wena emcimbini. Lesi akusona isizathu sokukhathazeka. Ukungabanaki laba bantu bokucwaswa kwabantu kuyimpendulo enhle kakhulu.
Kodwa-ke, ungahle udinge ukwazisa umlingani wakho wangaphandle mayelana nezimo ezinjalo.