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- 1. Yiluphi ulimi lwakho lothando?
- 2. Madoda thandani omkenu.
- 3. Amakhosikazi hloniphani amadoda enu.
- 4. W.A.I.T.
Ngemuva kweminyaka eyisithupha sithandana - sahlangana ebangeni lesi-5 kodwa wayengeke athandane nami kuze kube ngumhla ka-11 - neminyaka engama-38 sishadile, mina nomkami sijabulela iminyaka engcono kakhulu yobudlelwano bethu.
Bekuyinto elula kepha kube nezikhathi lapho sobabili besicabanga ukuthi kungaba lula ukuyibiza ngokuthi iyekile. Ngabe niyazwana wena noshade naye?
Okulandelayo okhiye abane othandweni oluhlala njalo zazingagcinanga nje ngokusigcina ndawonye, bona wasilethela ukuzwana nokuphepha emshadweni esikujabulelayo namuhla.
Lezi zimiso zomhlaba wonke ziyoba nomthelela omuhle kakhulu emshadweni wakho njengoba uzisebenzisa.
Lezi zihluthulelo zothando lwempilo yakho yonke zizokusiza uqonde ukuthi ungaba kanjani nomshado owukade ukufuna.
1. Yiluphi ulimi lwakho lothando?
Ukuze umqonde kangcono oshade naye, kufanele uziqonde ngokuphelele. Okumangazayo ithuluzi eliwusizo elizokunika ukuqonda okusha kuzintambo zakho zangaphakathi yincwadi kaDkt Gary Chapman, Izilimi Ezi-5 Zothando.
Ithengiswe ngamakhophi ayizigidi eziyi-12 futhi ihunyushelwe ezilimini ezingaphezu kwezingu-50. Wena noshade naye ningathatha ukuhlolwa kolimi lothando mahhala ku
Imiphumela izokhombisa ukuthi yiziphi izilimi eziyisihlanu eziyinhloko ozikhulumayo. Kodwa-ke, kunezilimi eziningi ezilimini ngalinye oluyinhloko.
Thatha ukuhlolwa, phrinta imiphumela, bese nixoxa nomunye izilimi zakho eziphezulu. Khuluma ngama-nuances amaningi olimi lwakho lothando futhi ninikezane isibonelo sokuthi bakhulume nini ulimi lwakho njengowokuzalwa.
2. Madoda thandani omkenu.
Akumangazi ukuthi i- IBhayibheli liyala amadoda ukuba athande omkawo. Kepha igama lesiGreki lakuqala lolu hlobo lothando ligcwele kakhulu kunegama lesiNgisi.
Ngemuva kwakho konke, igama elithi uthando lingayiveza kanjani ngokwanele imizwa yakho ngoshade naye nokudla okuthandayo, ibhayisikobho, izicathulo, umdlalo wokuzilibazisa noma iqembu lezemidlalo? Uhlobo lothando uNkulunkulu ayalela amadoda ukuthi alwande kakhulu kumakhosikazi abo alunabugovu futhi alunankani.
Lolu hlobo lothando luhlala lubiza njalo. Kungadla imali, amandla, isikhathi, noma umzamo, kepha kubiza njalo. Futhi lokhu Uhlobo lwebhayibheli lothando aludingi mbuyiselo yalutho. Kulula? Lutho neze.
Ukuphela kwendlela amadoda anganikeza ngayo lolu hlobo lothando ngokuqhubeka ecela usizo lukaNkulunkulu. Futhi i- Indoda idinga kakhulu ukuthi unkosikazi wayo amtshele njalo uma eyithola kahle.
Kuyasiza kakhulu futhi lapho unkosikazi ezibophezela ekubeni ngumfazi oluthando olulula nokuzihlonipha ngokuhlonipha umyeni wakhe ngokuphelele.
3. Amakhosikazi hloniphani amadoda enu.
Kuyamangaza ukuthi uNkulunkulu akatsheli abafazi ukuthi bathande abayeni babo kepha kunalokho mabahloniphe futhi bababheke. Ucwaningo oluningi oluzimele nezifundo zaseyunivesithi zikuqinisekisile okufundiswa yiBhayibheli.
Isidingo esikhulu somuntu, ngokwakhiwa, ukuzizwa uhlonishwa. Madoda, njengoba nithatha ukuhlolwa kwezilimi ezi-5 zothando, faka igama lothando esikhundleni senhlonipho.
Kuzokusiza ukuphendula imibuzo kalula. Bafazi, ngeke ukwazi ukumhlonipha wedwa futhi umhloniphe ngempumelelo. Akuzi ngokwemvelo kuwe.
Ngakho-ke, cela uNkulunkulu akusize. Futhi qonda lokhu: indawo umyeni wakho ayidinga kakhulu ukuzizwa ehlonishwa ngomsebenzi wakhe.
Amadoda qinisekani ukuthi nitshela omkenu njalo uma nizizwa nihlonishwa futhi ninconywa. Umnika uhlobo lothando aludingayo ngokulwela ukuba uhlobo lomyeni okulula ukuluhlonipha.
4. W.A.I.T.
Kungani ngikhuluma? UNkulunkulu ukunikeze izindlebe ezimbili nomlomo owodwa ngakho-ke qiniseka ukuthi uzisebenzisa ngokulingana! Ukuze ube ngumlaleli ophumelelayo kufanele wenze oshade naye azizwe ezwa.
Uma usushade ngaphezu kwemizuzu embalwa, uyazi kahle ukuthambekela okungokwemvelo sonke okufanele sifune ukuzwakala kunokuba sifune ukulalela. Lwela isilingo sokuveza iphuzu lakho.
Zikhuze kuWA.I.T. Qhubeka ubuze imibuzo kuze kube yilapho oshade naye eqiniseka ukuthi uyaqonda futhi uyayazisa imibono yabo. Khumbula ukukhuluma ulimi lwabo lothando njengoba ulalele.
Nikeza umshado wakho konke onakho ngokwenza ingxenye yakho. Cela uNkulunkulu akuqinise usuku nosuku. Zibophezele ekusebenziseni lezi zimiso futhi uzodumisa uNkulunkulu futhi uvuselele oshade naye, izingane, abangane, nabo bonke abanye kwinethiwekhi yakho yethonya. Landela lezi zikhiye ezi-4 ukwakha umshado obukade uphupha ngawo.