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- Ukusondelana kuya kujula kakhulu kunocansi ocansini
- Ukuzijayeza amakhono wokubhekana nokucabanga
- Ukuxhumana kubalulekile ekwakheni ukusondelana
- Bamba ujule ukuze uthuthukise uthando lwakho nokuxhumeka
Ngenkathi lezi zikhathi zobhadane lomhlaba zingalungile ukuqala kanye / noma ukugcina ubuhlobo, kepha lisekhona ithemba.
Uma ubheka into ebanga ibanga, kusho ukuthini ukwakha ukusondelana ebudlelwaneni bebanga elide?
Ukusondelana kuya kujula kakhulu kunocansi ocansini
Ukusondelana kweqiniso kuhlangene futhi kuyisihluthulelo sobudlelwano obuhlala njalo nobunempilo, ngisho nakulabo abashadayo abasebudlelwaneni bebanga elide.
Ngezinyathelo zokuqhela kwezenhlalo emhlabeni wonke, ukuhlala uxhumekile kunanini ngaphambili kukhombisa ukuthi kuyisenzo sakho uqobo.
Kepha akudingeki ukuthi ichaze ukungabi nathemba kwemibhangqwana ebudlelwaneni bebanga elide. Ubuhle kulesi siphepho ukuthi bududula abantu ukuthi bathole izindlela ezintsha zokuxhumana nokuhlala bexhumekile. Ikakhulukazi lapho ubudlelwano bebanga elide kungezona ezehlukaniso ngokwezibalo.
Ukuzijayeza amakhono wokubhekana nokucabanga
Ukudlula ebudlelwaneni bebanga elide akuyona into elula. Enye yezinto zokuqala engingakhuthaza noma ngubani ebudlelwaneni bebanga elide ukuthi azenze ukuzimisela okwamanje.
Impendulo yalokho okwenza ubudlelwane bobude obude busebenze ingahlala kuyo ukucabanga.
Ukuzijwayeza ukucabanga akudingeki kube yisicefe. Enye yezinzuzo eziningi zokuncika ekucabangeni kungakusiza ukuthi ubonge izikhathi eziyigugu zanamuhla kunokuba ufise ngokungabaza futhi unethemba lokuthi zingaphela.
Enye inzuzo yokucabanga ukuthi kukhuthaza ukuphumula, okusekela ukukhulula ukungezwani ngenkathi kukuvula amandla afanele.
Ngaphambi kokuthi siqhubekele phambili sithuthukisa ukusondelana, ake sime bese sizibeka phakathi.
Gxila futhi uvumele ukuphefumula kwakho kube yihange lakho. Thatha umoya ojulile bese kancane ngomlomo wakho udedele umoya (phinda izikhathi ezimbalwa njengoba kusebenza esimweni sakho samanje sokuqwashisa). Okulandelayo, gxila ngaphakathi bese uvumela izinzwa zakho.
- Yiziphi izinto ezintathu ongazizwa?
- Yiziphi izinto ezintathu ongazibona eziluhlaza okwesibhakabhaka?
Zibone ugxile futhi uzinikele, kepha zizwe ukhululekile ukuzivumela ukuthi uhlole ukucabanga ngezinzwa zakho ngokujulile njengoba kudingeka. Manje, ake sibuyele ekwakheni ubudlelwano nokubhekana nezinselelo zobudlelwano bamabanga amade.
Ukuxhumana kubalulekile ekwakheni ukusondelana
Lapho kufanele u-ace ukuthi ubuphathe kanjani ubudlelwano bebanga elide, ukhiye ulele ekuxhumaneni ngokukhululekile nangokwethembeka.
Kungakhathalekile ukuthi ubuhlobo bukusiphi isigaba, kusukela kokuqeda ukuphola, kuya kwabasanda kushada, kuya kwabalingani besikhathi eside, ukukhathazeka okukhulu iningi labashadikazi bami abahlanganyela nami maqondana nokunganeliseki emshadweni kubangelwa ukuxhumana.
Ngakho-ke silivala kanjani igebe ebudlelwaneni be-LDR? Ake sikhulume ngendlovu esegumbini - ukufaka imizwa yakho emabhodleleni.
Zithande ngokwanele ukuthi ungakufihli iqiniso ukuthi uzuze inguqulo yomunye umuntu ngawe. Khuluma iqiniso lakho bese uvumela umlingani wakho ukuthi ezwe inhliziyo yakho.
Ngemuva kwalokho, kungaqala isisekelo sokusondelana.
Njengoba sincika ekusondelaneni, umbuzo usekutheni ungakha kanjani futhi ugcine ukusondelana.
- Uyayizwa inhliziyo yomlingani wakho?
- Uyawuzwa umoya wabo?
Esikhathini esiningi, izithiyo ezibhekene nemibhangqwana eminingi akulona ibanga elingokomzimba, kepha ibanga elingokomzwelo, engilokotha ukusho ukuthi ukusondelana. Ukusondelana kokungazizwa kuphela ukuphefumula kwabo okulandelayo, kepha bayajula futhi bazizwe izinhliziyo zabo. Yebo, ngisho nokuqhelelana kwamamayela.
Zijwayeze ukucabangela; yimuphi umqondo ongawuvula ukuze uxhumane kangcono nomlingani wakho?
Izindlela ezimbalwa zokudala ukwakha ukusondelana ebudlelwaneni bebanga elide kumane nje kuyindlela yakudala yokukhuluma ocingweni noma nokuxoxa ngevidiyo entsha.
Noma ngabe iyiphi indlela oyikhethayo kuqala, phuma endaweni yakho yokunethezeka - yishintshe wenze okuphambene.
Okokuqala, kudala ukuzenzekela futhi lokho kuyinhlansi yempilo.
Kepha okubili, kukhombisa umlingani wakho ukuthi unendaba ngokwanele ukuzwa izinhliziyo zabo ngokuphuma endaweni yakho yokunethezeka.
Buka futhi:
Ngezansi, uzothola imibono embalwa yokumba ujule ngenkathi ugcina ubudlelwane obude phakathi kwalezi zikhathi ezinzima.
Bamba ujule ukuze uthuthukise uthando lwakho nokuxhumeka
Nawa amathuluzi ambalwa kanye nezeluleko zobudlelwano bamabanga amade zokudala ubuciko obuthile nokwakha ukusondelana ebuhlotsheni bakho. Lokhu kuzokusiza futhi ekutholeni ukuthi ungabugcina kanjani ubudlelwano bebanga elide bumnandi.
- Thumela umlingani wakho iphakethe lokunakekelwa ngezinye zezinto abazithandayo futhi kufaka isimanga esisodwa (qamba ubuciko) ukuze unakwe
- Hlela ukuthi ukudla abakuthandayo kulethwe ekhaya labo
- Zijwayeze ukubonga nomlingani wakho; yabelana ngento eyodwa ngabo ozibongayo
- Fundani incwadi ndawonye cishe
- Dlalani umdlalo we-inthanethi ndawonye
- Bukela ibhayisikobho efanayo
- Xoxa ngevidiyo ngenkathi upheka
- Yabelana ngengoma yakho oyithandayo noma dala uhlu lwadlalwayo lomculo
- Zijwayeze ukwehla ngomugqa wememori, ukumazi kangcono umlingani wakho (yiziphi izinto abazithandayo nabangazithandi, ngubani umuntu wabo abaseduze kakhulu, bekuyini iphutha labo elikhulu, liphi iphupho labo elikhulu). Yiba nobuciko futhi uhlole umlingani wakho ngezinga elisha lokulandela nelukuluku.
- Okokugcina, ungapheli amandla, nalolu bhubhane nalo luzodlula.
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