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- 1. Uma udinga ukukhuluma ngendaba "enkulu", hlela isikhathi salokho
- 2. Qala ngemishwana yokuzifudumeza
- 3. Yisho lokho okudingeka ukusho, bese uqhubeka nesihloko
- 4. Khombisa umyeni wakho uzwile ukuthi uthini
- 5. Ukuxazulula izingxabano: Yilwa ngokungakhethi
- 6. Musa ukumenza aqagele ukuthi ziyini izidingo zakho
- 7. Veza izidingo zakho ngqo nangolimi olucacile
- 8. Amadoda enza kangcono uma uwavuza ngemisebenzi yawo emihle
Wake wazibuza ukuthi uma ekhuluma nomyeni wakho akakwazi ukukhuluma ulimi lwakho? Ukuthi ubukeka exakekile uma ukhuluma, uqinisekile ukuthi akezwa nelilodwa igama olishoyo?
Kunezincwadi ezahlukahlukene ezibhalwe ngezindlela ezahlukahlukene zokuxhumana kwabesilisa nabesifazane. Ufuna amathiphu wokuthi ungaxhumana kanjani nomyeni wakho?
Nawa amanye amathiphu azokusiza ukwephula "umgoqo wolimi lobulili" futhi ugcine ingxoxo igeleza phakathi kwakho nomyeni wakho.
1. Uma udinga ukukhuluma ngendaba "enkulu", hlela isikhathi salokho
Ngeke ukwazi ukuba nenkulumo ezuzisayo uma omunye wenu ephuthuma emnyango eyosebenza, indlu ingaphezulu futhi izingane zikhalela ukunakwa, noma unemizuzu emihlanu kuphela yokuhlala phansi uzwakalise wena.
Esikhundleni salokho, setha ubusuku bosuku, uqashe umuntu ohleli, uphume endlini uye endaweni enokuthula futhi engenaziphazamiso, bese uqala ukukhuluma. Ungakhululeka, wazi ukuthi unamahora ambalwa wokuzinikela kule ngxoxo.
2. Qala ngemishwana yokuzifudumeza
Wena nomyeni wakho nizibekele isikhathi sokuxoxa ngodaba olubalulekile.
Ungahle ulungele ukungena ngaphakathi bese uya engxoxweni. Umyeni wakho, noma kunjalo, angadinga ukufudunyezwa kancane ngaphambi kokuba aqale ukukhipha inkinga asesondele kuyo. Ungamsiza ngokuqala ngokudonsa okuncane.
Uma uzokhuluma ngezezimali zasekhaya, qala ingxoxo no "Yini ekukhathaza kakhulu ngendlela esiphatha ngayo imali yethu?" kungcono kune- “We are broken! Ngeke sikwazi ukuthenga ikhaya! ” Owokuqala ummema ngokufudumele engxoxweni. Lesi sakamuva siyadambisa futhi sizombeka ekuvikeleni zisuka.
3. Yisho lokho okudingeka ukusho, bese uqhubeka nesihloko
Ukucwaninga ngezindlela ezehlukene zokukhuluma kwabesilisa nabesifazane kukhombisa ukuthi abesifazane bavame ukweqisa lapho bechaza inkinga noma isimo esidinga ukulungiswa.
Uma uqhubeka futhi uqhubeka, uletha izindaba ezihlobene, umlando owedlule noma eminye imininingwane engaphazamisa inhloso yengxoxo, umyeni wakho angavela. Yilapho ungahle uthande ukuxhumana “njengendoda,” futhi ufike ephuzwini ngokulula nangokucacile.
4. Khombisa umyeni wakho uzwile ukuthi uthini
Kubalulekile ukuthi uqinisekise lokho umyeni wakho abelana nawe ngakho.
Abesilisa bajwayele ukukhuluma, kodwa bambalwa abajwayele umlaleli wabo bevuma ukuthi bekuzwile okushiwoyo. “Ngizwa ukuthi ufuna sibe abaphathi bemali abangcono” kukhombisa umyeni wakho ukuthi ugxile kulokhu akushoyo.
5. Ukuxazulula izingxabano: Yilwa ngokungakhethi
Yonke imibhangqwana eshadile iyalwa. Kodwa abanye balwa kangcono kunabanye. Ngakho-ke, ungaxhumana kanjani nomyeni wakho ezimweni ezigcwele izingxabano?
Uma ungqubuzana nomyeni wakho, gcina izinto zilungile, ngephuzu, futhi uye ekuxazululeni. Musa ukumemeza, ukukhala, ukudlala umdlalo wokusola, noma ukusebenzisa imishwana efana nokuthi “WENZA NJALO [noma yini ayenzayo ekucasulayo]” noma “UNGALOKOTHI [noma yini ongathanda ayenze]”. Ufuna ukuxhumana ngokuhlanzekile, ubhekane nesihloko esingumthombo wengxabano esheshayo, futhi usho ukuthi yiziphi izidingo zakho nokuthi ungathanda ukuthi isixazululwe kanjani lesi.
Bese uyidlulisela kumyeni wakho bese uyambuza ukuthi ubona kanjani ukungaboni ngaso linye.
6. Musa ukumenza aqagele ukuthi ziyini izidingo zakho
Kuyinto evamile ngabesifazane ukuzwa ukuthi abakwazi ukuzwakalisa izidingo zabo.
Ukubeka ubuso obuhle kodwa uzizwe ngasese unobutha ngaphakathi kuyindlela eqinisekile yokuhlala ubambekile esimweni. Amadoda amaningi azobuza ukuthi “Kwenzenjani?” ukutshelwa kuphela ukuthi “Lutho. Akukho lutho. ” Iningi lamadoda lizothatha leyo mpendulo njengeqiniso, bese liqhubeka. Iningi labesifazane, nokho, lizoqhubeka nokuzama ukuxazulula inkinga ngaphakathi, kuze kube yilapho izingqinamba zakheka futhi, njengomuntu opheka ingcindezi, ekugcineni ziqhume. Umyeni wakho akayena umuntu ofunda izingqondo, noma ngabe wazi kangakanani wena.
Unesibopho sokuveza noma yini eyenzekayo ngaphakathi kuwe. Ngumnikazi wayo.
Ngokuxhumana ngokwethembeka nangokungagunci nomyeni wakho, usondela egxeni elilodwa ekuxazululeni noma yini ekuhluphayo.
7. Veza izidingo zakho ngqo nangolimi olucacile
Lokhu kuhlobene nethiphu inombolo yesithupha. Ngoba abesifazane bafundiswa ukuthi akukona okwabesifazane ukukhuluma ngqo, sivamise ukuphendukela kwizicelo "ezifihliwe" ezithatha okwephula ikhodi ukuthi aqonde. Esikhundleni sokucela usizo lokuhlanza ikhishi, sithi “Angikwazi ukubuka leli khishi elingcolile ngomunye umzuzu!”
Ingqondo yomyeni wakho izwa kuphela ukuthi “Uzonda ikhishi elonakele” hhayi ukuthi “Mhlawumbe kufanele ngimsize ukuyihlanze.” Akukho lutho olubi ngokucela umyeni wakho ukuthi akunike isandla. “Ngingajabula uma ungafika ungisize ngihlanze ikhishi” kuyindlela eyamukelekayo futhi eshiwo ngokusobala yokucela umyeni wakho akusize.
8. Amadoda enza kangcono uma uwavuza ngemisebenzi yawo emihle
Ngabe umyeni wakho wakusiza ngomsebenzi wasekhaya ngaphandle kokuthi umcele?
Ngabe uyithathile imoto yakho ukuyozicocela ukuze ungekho? Khumbula ukukhombisa ukubonga kwakho ngazo zonke izinto ezincane nezinkulu akwenzela zona. Kusukela kokubonga okusuka enhliziyweni kuya kumbhalo ogcwele uthando othunyelwe ocingweni lakhe, akukho okuqinisa izenzo ezinhle njengokuqashelwa.
Enye yezimpendulo ezinhle kakhulu embuzweni othi, "ungaxhumana kanjani nomyeni wakho?" inikeza impendulo enhle futhi ivuma ngokukhululekile ngisho nemizamo emincane kakhulu.
Impendulo evumayo idala izenzo ezinhle eziphindaphindwayo, ngakho-ke yiba nesandla sokubonga nokuncoma ngemisebenzi eyenziwe kahle.
Yize kungabonakala sengathi amadoda nabesifazane abahlanganyeli ulimi olufanayo, ukusebenzisa amanye amathiphu angenhla kungasiza ekuvaleni lelo gebe lokuxhumana futhi kukusize ukuxhumana ngempumelelo nomyeni wakho. Futhi njengokufunda olunye ulimi, lapho usebenzisa kakhulu lezi zindlela, uzokwazi kangcono ukuveza imizwa yakho ngezindlela umyeni wakho azoziqonda futhi azazise.