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- Ukhethe umuntu wakho, nabo bayakukhetha futhi
- Ubudlelwano babantu abadala budinga izimpendulo zabantu abadala
- Ungakhombisa kanjani ukuzibophezela ebudlelwaneni
- Ubudlelwano buhamba benyuka
- Abantu bayakhula futhi baguquke ngamazinga ahlukene
Ukuzibophezela okwenzayo kumlingani wakho ukuthi ube yingxenye yabo empilweni kuyinto enkulu kakhulu.
Kunomgomo wokusimama nokuqina phakathi kwakho lapho umemezela ukuzibophezela ebudlelwaneni.
Ukhethe umuntu wakho, nabo bayakukhetha futhi
Ukwenza izithembiso nokwenza izifungo kuyingxenye yaleli lungiselelo. Uthatha isinqumo sokuzinikela ngokuphelele komunye umuntu ngenhloso yokuhlala ndawonye kuze kube phakade; khona-ke impilo iyenzeka, izinto ziba nzima, uyalwa, uyalwa, futhi ungahle uthande ukudela bese uhlukana.
Ukucabanga ukuthi le yindlela elula yokuphuma kuyiphutha, ngiyethemba uma uzizwa ngale ndlela, uzoma futhi ucabange ngayo isikhathi eside futhi kanzima ngaphambi kokuthi ushiye umlingani wakho ulahle uthando lwakho.
Njengomelaphi ngisize imibhangqwana ezimeni eziningi ezahlukahlukene ukuthola indlela ebuyela ebudlelwaneni obunothando nobusondele lapho bobabili bazizwa bebalulekile futhi baziswa. Ngiyazi ukuthi kungenzeka, noma kungabonakali njengamanje.
Sizwa okuningi "ngezinsuku zakudala" lapho abantu babehlala ndawonye noma kunjani futhi bakujabulela ukuzibophezela okuhlala njalo ebudlelwaneni.
Siyazi ukuthi imibhangqwana eminingi iyisebenzisile, yathola indlela yokulungisa izinkinga zayo nokuqhubekela phambili, futhi kusho nokuthi bekukhona ubudlelwano obunobuthi futhi obuhlukumezayo lapho abalingani bevaleleke futhi bezizwa sengathi abanandlela yokuzikhethela ngaphandle kokuhlala nababo umlingani.
Noma ngabe kwakusho ukuthi babephila ngokuluthwa utshwala noma ubudlova, babona ukuthi babengenayo enye indlela ngaphandle kokuhlala; ikakhulu ngenxa yomphakathi ocwaswa wangaleso sikhathi owafaka isehlukaniso nabesifazane abangashadile abaseminyakeni yokushada abakhetha ukungabi nabalingani.
Ngiyakuzonda ukubona imibhangqwana ehlala ndawonye nganoma yisiphi isizathu ngaphandle kothando nokuzibophezela kepha eminye imibhangqwana ihlala ndawonye ngenxa yezingane, ngenxa yezizathu zezomnotho noma ukuntuleka kwezinye izindlela ezingasebenza.
Umnyombo wakho, ukuzibophezela ebudlelwaneni kusho ukugcina izethembiso zakho.
Noma kunzima, noma ngabe awuzithandi. Uma uthembise ukuba ngumuntu womuntu othile, ukuba lapho futhi uvele empilweni yakhe, udinga ukukuthatha ngokungathi sína lokho.
Ubudlelwano babantu abadala budinga izimpendulo zabantu abadala
Ngingasho ukuthi kubaluleke kangako uma ungashadile ngokomthetho. Isithembiso kufanele sibe yisibopho kini nobabili. Ngenkathi singacasuka, siyeke, sizizwe sinamathele noma siphelelwe yithemba, sidinga ukuthatha isinyathelo emuva sibheke isithombe esikhulu.
Khumbula izithembiso zakho komunye nomunye nokuzibophezela kwakho ebuhlotsheni ukuze ukufeze. Ungalilahli ithemba ngothando lwakho kalula, kufanele ukululwele.
Uma ushade ngokomthetho unesibopho esijulile nenkontileka ebophezelayo.
Uqoqe bonke abangane bakho nomndeni wakho ukuzobona lokhu kuzibophezela, wenze izifungo phambi kwabo bonke ukuba nithandane futhi nithandane kuze kube phakade.
Unokuxhumana ngokomoya nangokomthetho koshade naye nomndeni wakho. Uqinisekile ukuthi uhlela ukugcina lezi zifungo. Isikhathi sokukhumbula lokhu lapho ukuhamba kuba nzima futhi uzizwe uthanda ukuyeka.
Ukuzibophezela ebudlelwaneni kusho ukuhlonipha igama lakho ezintweni ezincane kanye nakwezinkulu.
Ungakhombisa kanjani ukuzibophezela ebudlelwaneni
Uphawu oluyinhloko lobudlelwano obuzibophezele ekubeni ngumuntu othandana naye nganoma yiluphi usuku.
Uma udinga ukuba namandla, yiba namandla. Uma umlingani wakho ezizwa eswele, vela ubanikeze abakudingayo.
Thembeka, ungaguquguquki, futhi ube ngumuntu umlingani wakho angathembela kuye ukugcina izwi lakho.
Kubukeka kulula, kepha ngiyazi ukuthi kwesinye isikhathi kungaba nzima kakhulu. Ozakwethu abathandeki ngaso sonke isikhathi. Abathandeki ngaso sonke isikhathi! Yilapho ukuzibophezela kubaluleke kakhulu.
Khombisa ukuzibophezela kwakho ngokuba nomusa, ukusiza, nokuhlonipha umlingani wakho noma bengekho.
Gcina ibhizinisi lakho langasese liyimfihlo, ungathobi umuntu wakho noma umthuke phambi kwabantu.
Zibeke endaweni ephakeme, bese uzihlehlisa ngaphezu kwabangane bakho kanye nomndeni wakho. Okubalulekile kumlingani wakho kufanele kubaluleke kuwe, futhi uma kungenjalo, kufanele ucabangele isikhundla sakho.
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Ubudlelwano buhamba benyuka
Akulula ukuhlala nomuntu usuku nosuku. Yonke imithwalo esiyiletha ebudlelwaneni bethu, imikhuba yethu, izimbangela zethu; akulula ngaso sonke isikhathi kubalingani bethu ukuqonda noma ukubhekana nakho.
Kuzoba nezikhathi lapho ningathandani kakhulu, futhi ungahle ufune ukusuka kumlingani wakho isikhashana.
Ngena kwelinye igumbi, uthathe uhambo lokuhambahamba noma uhlanganyele nabangane. Kulungile ukuzizwa ngale ndlela, wonke umuntu uyazizwa, kepha ukuzibophezela kusho ukuthi ubhekana nokungathandeki okwamanje, futhi lapho uthatha uhambo lwakho, cabanga ngokuthi umkhathalela kangakanani umlingani wakho, nokuthi ukuzibophezela kwakho kujule kangakanani.
Ubudlelwano buhamba ngezigaba futhi wena nomlingani wakho kungenzeka kungavumelani ngaso sonke isikhathi. Kubalulekile ukukhumbula ukuthi lezi yizigaba zesikhashana bonke ubudlelwane obudlula kuzo.
Abantu bayakhula futhi baguquke ngamazinga ahlukene
Lesi yisikhathi lapho udinga ukuba nomusa nothando kakhulu futhi ukhombe umlingani wakho.
Uma uzizwa ungaphansi kothando kunakuqala, sekuyisikhathi sokugcwalisa ukuzibophezela kwakho ekuthandeni nasekubaziseni umlingani wakho ngokwazana nomuntu anguye manje, kuleli qophelo ebudlelwaneni bakho, ukuze ufunde futhi futhi uthandane nabo kabusha.
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