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- Ubudlelwano akulula ngaso sonke isikhathi
- Umeluleki wezobudlelwano angaba umthombo omkhulu wokusekelwa
- Izinyathelo zokukhetha umeluleki wemishado ongcono kakhulu
Ubudlelwano! Kungenzeka ukuthi usutholile usemncane ukuthi ubudlelwano bumayelana nani ... Kusukela lapho uvula khona amehlo akho, usebudlelwaneni nothile noma omunye ezingeni elithile noma kwenye.
Leli iqiniso eliyisisekelo lokuba ngumuntu; sasingadalelwanga ukuba sibe sodwa, futhi ukuba khona kwethu uqobo kuhlanganiswe nobudlelwano obuningi obuhlanganisiwe.
Lobu budlelwano obuxubene bungaba njengenetha lokusibamba lapho siwa, kepha kwesinye isikhathi nabo bangazizwa njengogibe, basigcine sivalekile, sicindezelekile futhi sikhathazekile.
Ake ucabange ukuthi ubuzokwenza inhlolovo engahleliwe, engahleliwe emgwaqweni wasedolobheni, bese ubuza abantu ukuthi "Yini ekucindezela kakhulu empilweni yakho njengamanje?" Amathuba ukuthi iphesenti elikhulu labantu lingathi lubuhlobo obuthile ezimpilweni zabo. Kungaba nomlingani, osebenza naye noma ilungu lomndeni.
Ubudlelwano akulula ngaso sonke isikhathi
Ngisho nasebudlelwaneni "obuhle" lezo zikhathi ezinzima, ezinamadwala nakanjani zizofika ezidinga ukuzulazulwa ngokucophelela futhi zinqotshwe ukuze kuqhubeke ubudlelwano ngendlela enempilo. Uma kungenjalo, kungena isigaxa, sikuqhubekisele phambili nokuya phambili, uma uqhubeka isikhathi eside ngengxabano engasonjululwanga phakathi kwenu.
Akekho kithi ozalwa enekhono lemvelo loku ukuxazulula izinkinga zobudlelwano. Kwabaningi bethu kuyikhono elibalulekile esidinga ukulifunda, kungaba ngokuzama nokwenza amaphutha, ngobuhlungu obuningi nokuzabalaza okuhilelekile.
Singafunda futhi kulabo asebedlule ngaphambi kwethu futhi benze amanye amaphutha vele, bazinikezela emakhono okufunda ukusiza abanye. Yilapho i-a umeluleki wemishado noma a umeluleki wezobudlelwano kungasiza.
Umeluleki wezobudlelwano angaba umthombo omkhulu wokusekelwa
Uma ulwa nobudlelwano bakho, kungani ulokhu ushaya ikhanda lakho odongeni futhi uzama ukuzitholela okuthile. Bathi, uma uqhubeka wenza into efanayo uzothola umphumela ofanayo. Ngakho-ke kungani ungavumi ukuthi udinga usizo futhi uthole umuntu ogxile ekusizeni abanye basebenze ebudlelwaneni babo.
I- umelaphi womshado noma umeluleki wezobudlelwano okhethe ukuthulula isifuba sakho kufanele kube:
- Umuntu oneziqu ezinokwethenjelwa
- Umuntu onombono ofana nowakho wenkolo noma wokholo
- Umuntu ongakhululeka uma unaye
- Umuntu ongagxili emalini; kepha esikhundleni sokukusiza
- Umuntu ongabekezela kanye nawe.
Uma ungajabuli ngokukhetha kwakho, funa okunye kuze kube yilapho uthola okukulungele. Ungadangali. Phikelela uze uthole usizo oludingayo.
Izinyathelo zokukhetha umeluleki wemishado ongcono kakhulu
Umeluleki wemishado noma a izithandani counseloI-r isebenza ukuthuthukisa umshado wakho ngokudida ezintweni ezithile zobudlelwano bakho njengokusombulula izingxabano namakhono wokuxhumana. Ukuthola umeluleki omuhle womshado kungaba umehluko umehluko umshado osebenzayo nophukile.
Ngakho-ke ukukusiza ngosesho lwakho lokwelapha noma ukwelulekwa ngemishado efanele, landela lezi zinyathelo indlela yokuthola umeluleki wemishado? noma ungakhetha kanjani umeluleki wemishado?
Isinyathelo 1
Ungamthola kanjani umeluleki omuhle emshadweni kungaba yinselelo enkulu njengoba kunzima ukwazi ukuthi obani abahle. Kodwa-ke, ungahlala uqala ngokucela ukuhanjiswa nezincomo kubangani, umndeni noma abantu obethembayo.
Ukuwa ungakhululekile phakathi nale nqubo kungokwemvelo futhi kulindelwe njengoba uzobe uveza okuthile okusengozini ngomshado wakho kwabanye. Uma kwenzeka ungawuthandi umqondo wokucela ukuthi udluliselwe kwabanye, ungahlala uphendukela ku-inthanethi ukuze uthole ukuholwa.
Yenza kahle lapho usesha okungcono kakhulu ku-inthanethi umelaphi womshado noma i- abeluleki bezemishado basendaweni, hlola izinto ezifana nezibuyekezo ze-inthanethi, uma ngabe zinamalayisense noma cha, kuzodingeka uhambe ibanga elingakanani nokuthi zingabiza malini.
Ekugcineni, ukwenza usesho lwakho lwe-inthanethi lube lula kakhulu, futhi ungasesha kwezinye izinkomba ezihloniphekile ezifana neRegistry kaZwelonke yomelaphi onobungane bomshado, inhlangano yaseMelika yomshado nomelaphi womndeni ukuthola umeluleki wobudlelwano obuhle.
Isinyathelo 2
Ngesikhathi sokusesha kwakho ungahlangabezana nezinhlobo ezahlukahlukene zabeluleki bezemishado ebezizothola ukuqeqeshwa okuthile futhi ebezobhekana nesifo esithile.
A umeluleki wezobudlelwano noma umelaphi womshado akadingi nje kuphela ukuthola isethi ethile yamakhono okwelashwa kwezempi kepha futhi udinga nelayisense lokukusebenzisa.
Umelaphi oqeqeshiwe owenza ukwelashwa komshado kungaba yi-LMFT (umshado onelayisense nomelaphi womndeni), i-LCSW (umeluleki wezempilo wezengqondo onelayisense), i-LMHC (isisebenzi sezenhlalakahle esinelayisense), isazi sezengqondo) futhi angahle aqeqeshwe ku-EFT (ukwelashwa kwezithandani ezigxile ngokomoya ).
Isinyathelo 3
Ukwazi okufanele ubheke kumeluleki wemishado kuqala ngokubuza okulungile imibuzo okufanele uyibuze ngesikhathi sokululekwa ngomshado. Ukufinyelela ikhono lakho nge umeluleki wezobudlelwano ukhululekile ukubuza imibuzo eqondile futhi uzibekele imigomo ethile ephathekayo.
Zama ukuthola ukuthi i- umeluleki wezobudlelwano umbono ngomshado nesehlukaniso. Ungababuza nokuthi bashadile yini, noma bahlukanisile, nokuthi banezingane noma cha.
Noma kunjalo, imibuzo enjalo ayichazi ikhono le- umeluleki wezobudlelwano, kuyanezela ekwethembekeni kwabo njenge- umeluleki wezobudlelwano.
Qiniseka ukuthi wena nodokotela wakho nibeka imihlahlandlela yokuthi ungazifeza kanjani izinhloso zakho ngesikhathi sokwelapha. Qonda ukuthi yimaphi amasu namasu azosetshenziswa ngudokotela wakho nokuthi yiluphi uhlelo lokwelashwa oluphakanyisiwe.
Ngaphandle kokuzizwa ukhululekile futhi uhlonishwa ngesikhathi sokwelashwa, ukubuza imibuzo enjalo kungakusiza uthole umbono ocacile wokuthi ukwelashwa kombhangqwana wakho kubheke ngakuphi.
Ekugcineni, thembela imizwa yakho yokwenza ukwahlulela okungcono, uma ungajabuli nge umeluleki wezobudlelwano qiniseka ukuthi uzama ukuthola eyodwa engakusiza ukuxazulula izinkinga zakho zomshado.