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- Izimpawu zokuxhumana okungalungile ebudlelwaneni
- 1. Izingxoxo zakho azijulile
- Kunconyiwe - Gcina Inkambo Yami Yomshado
- 2. Anibuzana ngosuku lwabo
- 3. Zombili izinkulumo zakho ngaphezu kokulalela
- 4. Uthukuthela kalula
- 5. Kunokuphikisana okuningi
- Ungakulungisa kanjani ukungabi bikho kokuxhumana ebudlelwaneni
Kwesinye isikhathi ubudlelwano bungazizwa njengomsebenzi onzima kakhulu. Lokho okwake kwaba ukuzibandakanya okujabulisayo nokulula ngokuzwana komunye nomunye kungahle kuphenduke ingxoxo ekhathazayo yezimpikiswano nezikhalazo kanye nomuzwa wokungeneliseki nokuswela.
Lokhu kungenxa yezinkinga zokuxhumana emshadweni. Abantu abaningi abazi ungawusindisa kanjani umshado wakho lapho izinto ziqala ukuba nzima. Imvamisa umshado uyahluleka uma kunokuxhumana okungalungile phakathi kwabantu ababili noma kungekho nhlobo ukuxhumana.
Ukuze uguqule umjikelezo wokuxhumana ongemuhle ube owakhayo ukusindisa umshado wakho, kufanele ufunde ukuthi ungakulungisa kanjani ukuxhumana ebudlelwaneni, qhubeka ufunde le ndatshana.
Izimpawu zokuxhumana okungalungile ebudlelwaneni
Ngaphambi kokuthi ufunde ngezinkinga zokuxhumana kanye nezixazululo zazo, udinga ukuqinisekisa ukuthi unezinkinga ngenxa ye- ukuntuleka kokuxhumana ebudlelwaneni.
Okushiwo ngezansi yizimpawu zokuxhumana okungekuhle:
1. Izingxoxo zakho azijulile
Ngabe uyazikhumbula izinsuku nobusuku lapho wawuhlala khona ocingweni nomuntu othize amahora futhi usazizwa sengathi ufuna ukukhuluma kakhulu?
Ukulahlekelwa yizihloko ozokhuluma ngazo futhi ungenazo izingxoxo ezijulile kubi kunokungabikho ukuxhumana ebudlelwaneni.
Uma uzwa ukuthi ukhuluma noshade naye njengosokhashi ohloniphekile esitolo, kufanele ubuyise inhlansi ebudlelwaneni bakho.
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2. Anibuzana ngosuku lwabo
“Belunjani usuku lwakho namuhla?” umbuzo olula ongawubuza obathandayo futhi imibuzo ekhombisa uthando nokunakekela yomibili.
Lokhu kukhombisa ukuthi empeleni ukhathazekile ngokungena nokuphuma kwalokhu abakwenzayo lapho bengekho kuwe, futhi kukunikeza nokuthile okudingayo. Ukungabuzi ngosuku loshade naye a inkinga yokuxhumana ejwayelekile namuhla.
3. Zombili izinkulumo zakho ngaphezu kokulalela
Akuyona into embi ukuzwakala, ikakhulukazi uma konke okwenziwa umlingani wakho kukhulunywa ngaye noma kuqhubeke njalo.
Kodwa-ke, lokhu kungaba yinto yezindlela ezimbili, futhi mhlawumbe oshade naye uzizwa ngale ndlela ngawe futhi yingakho ungeke ubambe ukongiwa kwemvelo, futhi awusoze wakufeza lokhu uma umatasa kakhulu uphokophela i-ajenda yakho phambili.
4. Uthukuthela kalula
Uphawu olubucayi kakhulu lokuxhumana okungafanele emshadweni ukuthi yonke imibuzo ebuzwa umlingani wakho yenza impendulo engaphenduki futhi engemihle engenza ingxoxo ibe yimbi kakhulu.
Le mpendulo ingabangelwa ukuthi wena nomlingani wakho nigcina intukuthelo ejulile ngesimo sobudlelwano benu.
Uma usesimweni sokucasulwa njalo, khona-ke kukhona okungahambi kahle enhliziyweni yobuhlobo bakho.
5. Kunokuphikisana okuningi
Ukuphelelwa yisineke entweni encane kubi ngokwanele, kepha kuyinkinga ehluke ngokuphelele ukuphuma endleleni yakho bese uqhuba isigxobo ngokuqhubeka kancane.
Akulungile ukubhebhana, futhi lokhu yikhona okuyinhloko isithiyo ekukhulumisaneni okusebenzayo emshadweni.
Ungakulungisa kanjani ukungabi bikho kokuxhumana ebudlelwaneni
Ubudlelwano ngaphandle kokuxhumana akuyona ubuhlobo; kungabantu ababili kuphela ababambe izifungo zabo bese bebeka injabulo yabo engcupheni.
Ukuze uguqule umjikelezo wakho wokuxhumana ongemuhle ube owakhayo ukusindisa umshado wakho, ungaqala ukuxhumana okuningi.
Ukuze wenze lokho, kufanele ulandele amathiphu ashiwo ngezansi:
- Ukuvimbela kuyinto engcono kakhulu ongayenza ebudlelwaneni bakho. Zisuka nje, ungaqiniseka ukuthi usebenzela ezinkingeni bese uzixoxa.
- Qala ngezingxoxo ezincane, buza umlingani wakho ukuthi ngabe bajabule yini ngobudlelwano futhi uma ubona okuthile okukucasulayo ngomusa ukukuveze.
- Buza imibuzo njengendlela engcono yokwenza umlingani wakho avuleke ngokubuza umbuzo ofanele. Le mibuzo ifaka phakathi, ngabe ngikucasulile? Ngabe kukhona engikwenzile okukukhathazayo? Njll
- Ungalokothi uyithathe kancane uma umlingani wakho ekucasukele. Banikeze isikhala abasidingayo bese ubuza ukuthi sehlise umoya nini.
- Zama ukuxhumana ngezihloko ezijulile njalo; xoxani ngekusasa, amacebo eninawo nabo, futhi hlelani uhambo ukuze nisuke esimisweni esimatasa.
- Thola ukuthi yini ebanga umlingani wakho futhi ugweme ukwenza lezo zinto
Ngamaqhinga angenhla, unga lungisa ukuntuleka kokuxhumana emshadweni khona manje. Qonda umlingani wakho bese wenza isiqiniseko sokuthi uyazigwema izinto ezingamxosha.
Umshado uyibhizinisi elikhohlisayo, futhi udinga ukuwenza usebenze ekuqaleni ukuze izinto zihlale zijabule ingunaphakade. Ngalesi sihloko, ungaguqula umjikelezo wokuxhumana omubi uwenze omuhle ukuze ugcine umshado wakho.