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- Awunaso isikhathi sokuthola indawo yamanje yokuphola
- Udinga ukugwema isimo esibuhlungu
- Okubaluleke kakhulu
- Sigxumela entweni entsha
- Awufuni ukuchitha usuku lwakho ngezikhalazo ezingafuneki
- Kungaba nomthelela ekuhlaleni kwakho
- Kungathukuthelisa umlingani wakho:
Idivosi isehlakalo esingajabulisi empilweni yomuntu. Kunabameli abafuna indlela ebushelelezi yokukuhlukanisa nomlingani wakho, futhi kunezinkulumo mayelana nezinto onazo kanye nesondlo. Lezi zinto zikuqeda emoyeni, ngokwengqondo nangokomzimba. Kukho konke lokhu, ungakuthola kumnandi ukuthandana nomuntu ongakunika umfutho, olangazelela lokho.
Kodwa-ke, kufanele uzibuze umbuzo ovumelekile: Ungathandana nothile ngenkathi uhlukanisa?
Akunandaba ukuthi uzwakala ujabulisa noma uqabula kanjani umqondo wokuphola nothile ngesikhathi sesehlukaniso esibuhlungu ungazwakala, akuvumelekile neze. Uqeda ubudlelwano, bungaba bufushane noma bube yisikhathi eside, kepha unezinto eziningi okufanele uzinakekele.
Ukuqomisana nothile kungasebenza njengophethiloli womlilo esimweni sakho samanje esingahle sihlehle ngemuva kwesikhashana esifushane senjabulo. Uzibuza ukuthi kanjani?
Nazi ezinye izizathu zokuthi kungani kufanele ulahle umbono wokuthandana ngenkathi udivosa zisuka nje.
Awunaso isikhathi sokuthola indawo yamanje yokuphola
Ukuqomisana kwesigameko kuguquka cishe nsuku zonke. Ngenxa yobuchwepheshe. Izinhlelo ezintsha zethulwe emakethe ezinomthelela omkhulu kwezothando. Njengoba ubunobudlelwano obuzinikele, uzokuthola kunzima ukuqonda indawo yamanje.
Ukuthola indawo yesizukulwane samanje sokuphola, ukuyibamba nokuqhubekela phambili ngomusa kungadinga isikhathi sakho esiningi namandla.
Kungcono ukuthi uhlale kude nayo isikhashana bese ugxila ekuphumeni okushelelayo ebudlelwaneni bakho obukhona. Uma usuqedile ngesahlukaniso sakho, uzoba nesikhathi esanele sokubuyela endaweni yesehlakalo, ngokushelela.
Udinga ukugwema isimo esibuhlungu
Izehlukaniso azilokothi zibe lula, yize sifuna zibe njalo. Kunenkinga eqhubekayo phakathi komlingani wakho nawe. Esimweni esinjalo, ukugxila kwakho kufanele kube ukuphuma kulesi simo ngokushesha okukhulu ngaphandle kokuhlupheka okungokwengqondo nangokomzwelo.
Phakathi kwesikhathi esidlule esibi nekusasa elithembisayo, lapho uqala ukuphola nothile, amandla okushintsha ayashintsha.
Ngokwengqondo awukho esimweni sokwamukela umuntu omusha empilweni yakho lapho unyawo lwakho lusabambelele esikhathini esedlule.
Esimweni esinjalo, ukuphola nothile kungahle kube yinkimbinkimbi sonke isimo, hhayi okunye.
Okubaluleke kakhulu
Ukuthola isehlukaniso kufanele kube yinto eza kuqala kuwe njengamanje, futhi ungathandani nothile, ukuthembeka. Isikhathi esiningi abantu bazithola besezimeni ezingagwemeka nezingenakubekezeleleka ngoba behluleka ukubeka phambili impilo yabo.
Ngokubandakanyeka ekuqomeni ngenkathi uhlukaniswa ngokomthetho nomlingani wakho, wehlukanisa ngokungalingani ukunaka kwakho phakathi kwalokho okudingekayo nalokho ongakulinda.
Lokhu kungangeza inkinga ezinkambisweni zesehlukaniso, ngokuqinisekile ongafuni ukuba nazo.
Sigxumela entweni entsha
Kuyaqondakala ukuthi ufuna ukuqala impilo yakho kabusha, kepha ukuqala ngakho ngaphambi kokuthi ubuqede lobo budlelwano akukwaziswa. Kubonakele ukuthi abantu bagxumela ebudlelwaneni ngemuva nje kokuphuma koyedwa, noma bephuma kukho. Lokhu, esikhathini esifushane, kudala inkathazo futhi bayazisola ngesinqumo sabo.
Ngaphambi kokuba uqale kabusha, thatha ikhefu futhi uchithe isikhathi nawe nabangane bakho abaseduze.
Thatha isikhathi uhlaziye amaphutha okungenzeka uwenzile ebudlelwaneni bakho bangaphambilini, ukuze ukwazi ukuwagwema kokuzayo. Esikhundleni sokugxumela ebuhlotsheni obusha, zinike isikhathi sakho ukuvuselela esidala.
Awufuni ukuchitha usuku lwakho ngezikhalazo ezingafuneki
Uma uqeda ubudlelwane obubi, uphethe imithwalo. Udinga umuntu ozokulalela futhi angakududuza ngokufanele. Esimweni esinjalo, abangane nomndeni yizinketho ezinhle kakhulu, hhayi usuku lwakho olulandelayo.
Ngokungazi, ungagcina ukhononda ngobudlelwano bakho obonakele njengamanje, ozoba nomthelela osukwini lwakho.
Awufuni ukwaziwa njengomuntu okhathazekile nohlobo olukhonondayo, akunjalo? Ngakho-ke ngaphambi kokuthi uthathe isinqumo, zibuze, ungathandana nothile ngenkathi uhlukanisa ngaphambi kokuthatha ikhefu? Uzothola impendulo yombuzo wakho.
Kungaba nomthelela ekuhlaleni kwakho
Ngesikhathi senqubo yesehlukaniso eqhubekayo, abameli bangaya kunoma yiliphi ibanga, ngaphandle kokungabaza. Ungahle uphume ebudlelwaneni bakho obukhona, ngokomqondo, kepha emaphepheni, usahleli nomlingani wakho. Esimweni esinjalo, ukuphola nothile kuyiphupho elibi kakhulu.
Ummeli angazama ukufakazela ukuthi awuthembekile, okuholele ekwehlukaneni.
Kuzokuthinta ukuhlala kokugcina kwedivosi futhi ungazithola usesimweni esingesihle, noma ngabe akukubi kangako. Ngakho-ke, zigcine ungekho endaweni yesehlakalo kuze kulunge izinto.
Kungathukuthelisa umlingani wakho:
Kungenzeka singaphokopheli ukuqeda ubudlelwano, kepha noma nini lapho isikhathi sifika, sifuna ukukwenza ngokuthula, ngaphandle komdlalo omningi.
Kuwe, ukuphola kungahle kubonakale kulungile njengoba usuvele wenza inqubo ethile, kepha ukuhlangana nabanye kungahle kuguqule izinto zibe zimbi.
Umlingani wakho kungenzeka angasamukeli isenzo sakho futhi bangadala isithiyo esingenasidingo enqubweni yesehlukaniso. Okokugcina ongakulindela ukulwa kanye nokuphikisana phakathi kwenqubo yesehlukaniso.
Kunezinto ezimbalwa ezingabonakala zilungile ngokokuziphatha emehlweni ethu kepha abanye bangahle bangavumelani nakho. ‘Ungathandana nothile ube udivosa?’ umbuzo owodwa onjalo olungile endaweni empunga phakathi kokulungile nokungalungile. Kuwe, kungahle kube okulungile kepha lowo ozoba ngumdala wakho angase acabange ngenye indlela. Ukuphela kwendlela yokwenza ukubaleka ngokushelela kunoma iyiphi inkinga ukulinda izinto ziphele ngaphambi kokuthandana nothile.