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Kuyakhanyisa ukucabanga ngokwelulekwa ngemishado njengelebhu lapho imibono evela eMpumalanga naseNtshonalanga ixutshwa ndawonye ku-cauldron enkulu ye-alchemical, kuveza izinguquko zokuvuselela, imibono emisha, nama-engeli amasha lapho singabuka khona ubudlelwano.
Uma ngabe sikhethe ukugxila kumqondo owodwa nje ozuzayo kulokhu kukhulelwa okuhlanganayo emkhakheni, kungaba umthwalo wemfanelo ngokwakho. Ngemuva kokufunda nokwenza umkhuba wokwelapha umshado kule minyaka engamashumi amathathu edlule, ngibabonga kakhulu labo ngoti abaphikisana ngokuthi leli khono elilodwa lomuntu omdala ovuthiwe - ukwazi ukuvuma lapho sinephutha khona, noma ukulala - sine qua non womshado ojabulisayo.
Ngempela, umlingo nobuciko bomshado budinga ukuthi sisukume futhi sikhule, sithwale umthwalo wokwehla kwethu. Ngokujabulisayo, ngithola ukuthi amaklayenti ami ayahambisana nalo mbono oyinhloko. Kepha inselelo ukuthi iningi lethu likuthola lokhu kunengqondo, kepha kunzima kakhulu ukukusebenzisa. Ekwelulekeni ngemishado, kulapho sicelwa khona impela elula.
Ukuthatha umthwalo wezinto zakho
Ukuzibophezela kumayelana nokuthatha igxathu lokuqala lokuba nezinto zethu; kuyikhono lobudlelwano, yebo, kodwa okokuqala futhi okubaluleke kakhulu ukuzibophezela esikuthathayo ukwethembeka nokwazi iqiniso elilodwa eliyisisekelo - sonke sizakhela ukuhlupheka kwethu. (Futhi senza umsebenzi omuhle wokudala ukuhlupheka emshadweni.)
Lokhu kuzibophezela akulula ekuqaleni, futhi kuvame ukuba ngumsebenzi onzima futhi oyinselele. Ngikholwe, ngivela kokuhlangenwe nakho kwami siqu futhi ngiyazi ukuthi kunzima kanjani. Kepha noma ngabe kunzima ekuqaleni, imivuzo nokwaneliseka kukhulu futhi kusishiya sinozwelo lwangempela futhi sinakekela abangenacala labo abenza lolu hambo.
Izimiso zokuziphatha jikelele
Lapho ngibona amaklayenti njengomeluleki wemishado waseBuddha, angiwaceli ukuthi abe ngamaBuddha, kodwa ukumane ngibone lokhu kungenelela njengengxenye yalokho Ubungcwele Bakhe iDalai Lama abubiza ngokuthi 'izimiso zokuziphatha zomhlaba wonke.' Uthi imikhuba eminingi evela eBuddhism ingasetshenziswa kungakhathalekile ukuthi umuntu unayiphi inkolo.
Ngakho-ke sinalokho engqondweni, kule ndatshana nakwesilandelayo, ake sibheke amakhono avela kusiko lamaBuddha angaba wusizo ngokukhethekile ekusizeni umuzwa wethu wokuzibophezela - ukucabanga, ukuqeqesha abalingiswa bethu ukuthi babe nokuziphatha, nokuziphatha wobubele.
1. Ukucabanga
Ake siqale ngokucabanga.Kunezinto eziningi ezinhle ongazizuza ngokwenza ukucabanga, futhi ithole inani elikhulu kakhulu locwaningo lwesayensi. Lo mkhuba, okuyindlela yokuzindla, usisiza ukuba sikhule ngokwengeziwe futhi sikwazi ukuthwala umthwalo wemicabango, amazwi nezenzo zethu. Kusiza lokhu kukhula ngokusibambezela ngokwanele ukuze sikwazi bheka thina, kumzuzu ngamunye wokuqonda, ukukhuluma, noma isenzo.
2. Ukuzazi
Lokhu kuzazi kubalulekile ekufundeni ukuzithiba. Asinakuguqula noma yini esingayiboni. Inzuzo yesibili yokuqwashisa ngokucabanga, ngemuva kokunciphisa izingqondo zethu, ukuthi idala umuzwa wangaphakathi wobubanzi. Lesi isikhala sangaphakathi lapho singaqala khona ukubona ukuxhumana phakathi kwezinkolelo zethu, imizwa kanye nezenzo zethu. Ngokunjalo, kuCognitive Therapy, sisiza iklayenti ukuthi ligubhe izinkolelo zalo eziyimpilo, sibuze ukuthi ngabe zivumelekile yini, bese sibona ukuthi lezi zinkolelo ziqhuba kanjani imizwa yethu nokuziphatha kwethu.
Uma sengeza amakhono okucabanga ngaleli qhinga, asikwazi ukubuza lezi zinkolelo kuphela, njengoba senza kuCognitive Therapy, kepha futhi singakha nesimo sokuphulukisa nesihawu ezingqondweni zethu. Lesi sikhala esingcwele sisivumela ukuthi sibone ukuthi izinkolelo zethu ezingenampilo zivelaphi, nokuthi zinobuthi obungakanani futhi zikhuthaza izimiso ezintsha, ezinesihawu, nezenhlakanipho ukungena kwi-psyche yethu.
Isibonelo, indoda ingazizwa ikhungathekile ngokuphelele ngokumane igxeke umkayo, ake sithi, yimalini ayenzayo. Ngokulangazela okunengqondo, le ndoda ingacwila phansi ibone ukuthi kungani ukugxekwa kwayo kubuhlungu. Mhlawumbe kuhlobene nenani eliphakeme alibeka emholweni njengesilinganiso sobudoda.
Ukujula uzobona ukuthi ubambe le nkolelo engenampilo iminyaka eminingi, kusukela ebuntwaneni mhlawumbe, nokuthi mhlawumbe ikhona enye indlela yokuthola ukuzethemba kwakhe. Ngokunakekelwa okuthathelwa umkhuba wokucabanga, futhi nezikhumbuzo ezivela kuthisha wakhe wokuzindla, uzothola ukuthi kunokwakheka okusha, okujabulisayo, nokungaziwa ngaphambili okwakungaphezulu kobunikazi bakhe njengomondli.
Le inzuzo yesithathu, leyo ukuphilisa. Lokhu kutholakala okusha kuveza indoda ingavikeleki kakhulu ekubhekweni komlingani wayo, ikhule ngokwengeziwe ngamanani awabeka kubantu nasezintweni, futhi ikwazi kakhulu ukukhiqiza umuzwa wenhlalakahle. Indoda ezinakekelayo.
Esihlokweni esilandelayo, sizobheka ukuthi ukuqeqesha ingqondo emikhubeni yokuziphatha kusiletha kanjani esinye isahluko sokuhlonipha thina uqobo, nabalingani bethu, izingane, nemindeni yethu. Futhi-ke sizoqhubeka siye ezingeni elijule kakhulu lomkhuba wamaBuddha wobudlelwano, lowo womusa wothando.