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- Thandanani ngisho nalapho nilwela ukuthandana
- Ukuxhumana kuyisihluthulelo
- Sebenzisa izimpawu ezingezona ezomlomo
- Ukuhloniphana kubalulekile ukuze umshado wenu usebenze
- Gxila ekuhlekeni njengoba umculo wakho womculo
- Khumbula ukuthi ngeke kube khona “owinile” kanye “nohlulwayo”
Ngokushesha nje lapho uslayida indandatho eminweni yomunye nomunye, khumbula ukuthi izeluleko zomshado zizoqala ukuthululela ukuthi uyafuna yini ukuzizwa noma cha. Izikhathi eziningi lezi zincomo zomndeni kanye nezilinganiso zemibuzo yomndeni kungaba yinto ongafuni ukuyizwa (lokhu kungaba njalo ngaso sonke isikhathi), bangakuhleka usulu futhi bangaze bakwenze ube nezinyawo ezibandayo. Kodwa-ke, ezinye zalezi zingcezu zezeluleko zibalulekile ngekusasa; kungakusiza ukuthi nakhane futhi kungaqinisa isibopho nina nomlingani wakho,
Izeluleko zomshado zihlala ziqala ngamahlaya amaningi kubandakanya nehlaya elijwayeleke kakhulu, “Kuhlale kunamaqembu amabili emshadweni- elinye lihlale lilungile, kanti elinye liyindoda,” kepha ukuzibophezela okukhulu nokuqala kwempilo entsha akuhlali kumayelana namahlaya nothingo nezinyoni.
Udinga ukulalelisisa izeluleko ozinikezwa ngabantu asebekade beshadile futhi wazi ukuthi imayelana nani.
Thandanani ngisho nalapho nilwela ukuthandana
Lesi yisilinganiso sesilinganiso somndeni esivame kakhulu futhi esibaluleke kakhulu. Ngezinsuku lapho nixabana khona, bese kuba nzima ukuthi ulale umbhede owodwa nomlingani wakho, ima lapho bese ukhumbula noma ngabe impikiswano ibiyimbi kangakanani nokuthi ngubani obe nephutha; khumbula ukuthi uphikisana nomuntu obaluleke kakhulu empilweni yakho.
Uyamthanda lowo muntu osanda kulwa naye ngakho esikhundleni sokuthi ungakwazi ukumbheka lowo muntu lapho nixabana, vala amehlo akho bese uqala ukubhala izinto ozithandayo ngabo. Leli qhinga nakanjani lizokwenza uthandane.
Ukuxhumana kuyisihluthulelo
Lesi iseluleko esibaluleke kakhulu futhi siyasiza futhi. Akufanele ugxile kuphela kulokho okushiwo umlingani wakho, kepha kufanele futhi uzikhulisele wena uma ucabanga ukuthi isikhathi silungile. Akukho lutho olungalungile ngokuveza imibono yakho, kodwa indlela oyiveza ngayo kufanele ibe ngendlela 'engaphikisi'.
Futhi, khumbula ukulalela okushiwoyo futhi uma ungakuzwa kahle okuthile bese ucela ukucaciselwa kunokuba uzame ukucabanga ngalokho okungenzeka ukuthi akuzwanga kahle. Lokhu kucabanga kuzokwenza ukuthi uphikisane
Sebenzisa izimpawu ezingezona ezomlomo
Ucwaningo lwePsychology luthi iningi lezingxoxo phakathi kwezithandani alisho lutho. Lapho ukhuluma nomunye wakho obalulekile, zama ukukhombisa izimpawu zomzimba ukuze umlingani wakho azi ukuthi ulalele. Ezinye izimpawu ezingezona ezomlomo kungaba, ukukhama isandla sabo, ukubheka lapho bekhuluma noma ukuncika kancane phambili.
Ukuhloniphana kubalulekile ukuze umshado wenu usebenze
Into engu-1 ngemuva kokuxhumana yinhlonipho. Iningi lezeluleko zomndeni ezizama ukuzwakala zihlekisa zimayelana nokwenza uzwakale njenge-pansy yokuhlonipha umkakho, kepha akunjalo.
Inhlonipho iyinto ebaluleke kakhulu emshadweni, futhi ingaphezu kokubukeka okuhle, ukuheha ngisho nezinhloso okwabelwana ngazo. Kuzoba nezikhathi lapho ungahle ungamthandi khona umlingani wakho, kepha awusoze wafuna ukulahlekelwa yinhlonipho ngomunye wakho obalulekile.
Uma inhlonipho ilahlekile kungenzeka ungaphinde uyithole futhi uzame ukwenza umshado usebenze ngaphandle kwenhlonipho uzama ukusebenzisa iselula engenayo i-SIM engenalutho futhi engenamsebenzi.
Gxila ekuhlekeni njengoba umculo wakho womculo
Kuzoba nezikhathi ezinzima nezimbi emshadweni wakho, futhi uzobhekana nezikhathi ezinzima kakhulu kepha noma yini eyenzekayo, zama ukuthola izizathu ezincane zokuhleka futhi wabelane ngezikhathi zenjabulo omunye komunye.
Khumbula ukuthi ngeke kube khona “owinile” kanye “nohlulwayo”
Njengoba kushiwo ekuqaleni ngomshado wokuba namaqembu amabili- ngokudabukisayo lokhu akunjalo. Akekho onqobayo nongaphumelelanga empikiswaneni ngoba ningabalingani kuyo yonke into ngakho-ke noma niwina noma nihlulwa kuzofanele nisebenzisane ukuthola isixazululo. Ungavumeli ukunqoba nokuhlulwa kufinyelele ekhanda lakho futhi esikhundleni salokho nenze sengathi nina nobabili niyingxenye yomzimba owodwa onemiphefumulo emibili.
Ukuhamba kokugcina
Umshado awusiwo u-50/50; yi-100 ephelele. Ngesinye isikhathi kuzodingeka unikele ngama-30, kuthi umyeni wakho akhiphe ama-70, kwesinye isikhathi ukhiphe ama-80, kuthi umyeni wakho anikele ngama-20. Kuzofanele uyenze isebenze, futhi bobabili ophathina kuzodingeka banikele ngamaphesenti abo ayi-100, usuku ngalunye.