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- Ungalokothi ukhulume kabi ngomlingani wakho phambi kwabantu
- Njalo hlukanisa imisebenzi yasendlini
- Yiba sobala ngokuphelele
- Yiba nobulili obuningi
Ingabe wena noshade naye niseqenjini elilodwa? Angikhulumi ngokushada nje. Ngikhuluma ngokuba nomhlane womlingani wakho noma ngabe yini. Ngikhuluma ngezinto ezincane emshadweni. Ngikhuluma ngokusiza oshade naye ukuba avuke lapho ewile. Ngabe ucabanga ukuthi wena noshade naye nilolo hlobo lweqembu? Ngithemba kanjalo. Ngoba lezo zinhlobo zemishado ziyasebenza. Ngoba lezo zinhlobo zemishado zidala ukusondelana okunganeliseki. Uma kungenjalo, nazi izindlela ezimbalwa zokuqala ukwakha iqembu elikhulu emshadweni:
Ungalokothi ukhulume kabi ngomlingani wakho phambi kwabantu
Angikwazi ngisho nokukutshela ukuthi izithandani, kufaka phakathi mina nomyeni wami, baba kangaki necala loku “khazimulisa” oshade naye phambi kwabanye abantu. Kuzwakala kungenacala ngokwanele lapho uthi nhlá, kepha uma ukhuluma kabi ngoshade naye phambi kwabanye (noma ngabe kuhlekisa nje) kungalimaza kakhulu ukuzethemba kwakhe. Lokhu kuvumela kuphela ukuwohloka komshado ngokuhamba kwesikhathi.
Ngakolunye uhlangothi, imibhangqwana echumayo futhi ebonakala ijabule ngendlela engenakwenzeka yiyona ekhuluma kakhulu ngomunye nomunye emphakathini. Ngakho-ke, ngiphakamisa ukuthi uma wena noshade naye nidinga i-booster yokusondelana, qala ukukhuluma nabo kwabanye abantu. Oshade naye uzozizwa ethandwa futhi efunwa izinsuku ezizayo.
Njalo hlukanisa imisebenzi yasendlini
Umsebenzi wendlu ungaba yingxenye enjalo yempilo. Noma kunjalo, kuyingxenye yokuphila! Noma ngabe kunguwe noshade naye njengamanje, kusenomsebenzi wasendlini okufanele wenziwe nokuwashwa kwezingubo. Kubalulekile ukuthi wena noshade naye nifunde ngaphambili ukuhlukanisa imisebenzi phakathi nendawo ngakho akekho ozizwa ethwele kanzima.
Ngenkathi kuyimina ngedwa ngenza umsebenzi wasendlini, ngipheka, njll. Kungabonakala njengomsebenzi owesabekayo, ongabongi futhi ngaqala ukuthukuthelela umyeni wami. Kepha lapho sesitholile ukuthi siyiqembu kukho konke, kufaka phakathi yonke imisebenzi yasendlini, impilo yaba ngcono kakhulu kithina sobabili ngoba sasazisa omunye nomunye kakhulu.
Yiba sobala ngokuphelele
Ukungafihli lutho kunoma yibuphi ubudlelwano kufanele kube yinto ephambili kepha ukwenza obala emshadweni kuphoqelekile. Ukwethembeka kwakha ukwethembana nokwethembana kwakha ukusondelana. Lapho uthembeka ngokwengeziwe koshade naye, ubuhlobo benu buzoba ngcono ngoba niyokwazana ezingeni elijule kakhulu, elisondelene kakhulu.
Ngakolunye uhlangothi lokho, izimfihlo namanga kudala izindonga nebanga emshadweni. Ukuqamba amanga kumuntu oshade naye kuqeda ukwethembana okuyoqeda ukusondelana. Ngiyakwazi lokhu ngokweqiniso. Emshadweni wami uqobo, kube nokufihla namanga okwadala ibanga elide kwaqeda ukwethembana. Kuthathe isikhathi eside kakhulu ukwakha ukwethembana futhi nokude kakhulu ukuba nokuphila okusondelene okunempilo futhi.
Yiba nobulili obuningi
Ucansi! Lalela, ngiyazi ukuthi kukhona ithani lokuphazamiseka empilweni elenza ukuthi ukuya ocansini okungaguquguquki noshade naye kubonakale kungathandeki. Kepha akunjalo. Ucansi imvamisa luyinto yokuqala ukukhishwa edokodweni ngoba lubhekwa njengomsebenzi owenziwa ngaphandle kwesifundo esikhundleni sesigaba esiyisisekelo. Kunezifundo eziningi lapho ezikhomba ukuthi ucansi YISIDINGO, hhayi nje ukufunwa, kwabesilisa (nabesifazane). Kuyisidingo ngoba kusondeza abesilisa emakhosikazini abo ngokomzimba nangokomzwelo. Kungakho abesilisa bekhula ebudlelwaneni nokusondelana okungaguquguquki ngokomzimba.
Ngakolunye uhlangothi ukungaguquguquki, ubudlelwano obuvame ukungenzi ucansi lube yinto eza kuqala ngokuvamile abujabuli njengabashadikazi abakwenzayo. Lokhu kungenxa yokuthi uma ucansi lunqatshwa njalo, abesilisa babona sengathi abalingani babo babalahla ngokuphelele, hhayi ubulili kuphela. Ukwenqatshwa kugadla ngqo ekuzidleni kwabo, enhlalakahleni engokomzwelo, kanye nasekuzethembeni kwabo.Zonke lezo zinto zidinga ukuba sezindaweni ezinempilo ukuze zibe nokusondelana okunempilo.
Lolu hlu aluhlanganisi konke ngakho-ke sicela uthole izinto eziningi ezingakusiza wena noshade naye nithole iqembu elilodwa. Ngoba lapho wena noshade naye niseqenjini elilodwa, izinto zemilingo ziyenzeka kufaka phakathi izinga elijulile lokusondelana ngaphakathi nangaphandle kwegumbi lokulala!