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- 1. Nqamula ukuxhuma
- 2. Ukungabi khona kwenza inhliziyo ikhule ithanda
- 3. Thumela ukuqinisa
- 4. Yidla
- 5. Khuluma ulimi lwabo
- 6. Yiba Nenkuthalo
Imibhangqwana eminingi eshadile ngesikhathi esithile emshadweni wayo izithola ihlangabezana 'nesipelingi esomile,' futhi uma wenza kanjalo, cishe uzozithola ubheka futhi uzibuze ukuthi ungenzani ukuze wenze isenzo esithile ungene ekamelweni.
Ngakho-ke, ukukusiza ukuthi sihlanganyele, sabelana ngezimfihlo eziyisikhombisa ezinhle zokuthola ucansi
1. Nqamula ukuxhuma
Sonke sinecala lokugxila kakhulu kumafoni nakwizinto zethu zobuchwepheshe ukuthi ngandlela-thile sikhohlwe ukuthi ukuxhumana kwangempela yilokho okukhona ngaphandle kwalobu buchwepheshe.
Kulezi zinsuku kulula ukuthumela u- 'Ngiyakuthanda' odongeni lomlingani wakho ku-facebook - usho ukuthi nithandana kangakanani ezinkundleni zokuxhumana kepha ngandlela thile lezi zimemezelo zomphakathi zothando azikwazi ngisho nokukunikeza u-yebo 'ekamelweni.
Nasi isiphakamiso.
Zama ukwamukela umlingani wakho ekhaya ngokumanga nangokumanga ngemfudumalo. Babuze ukuthi luhambe kanjani usuku lwabo. Iba namahora ambalwa lapho nibhekene nje, nikhuluma nje. Khohlwa umhlaba kumafoni akho bese ubona umhlaba ophambi kwakho.
Lesi yisenzo esisodwa esilula ngokungangabazeki esizokusiza ukuthi usebenze kakhulu ngokocansi.
2. Ukungabi khona kwenza inhliziyo ikhule ithanda
Lapho usebenze izinsuku zakho nowakwakho iminyaka eminingi kangaka, akunakugwenywa ukuthi kwesinye isikhathi, wena noshade naye nibe ndawonye.
Ungahle ubone ukuthi usuphenduke umuntu ohlala naye okuhle komunye wakho obalulekile. Kungenzeka ukuthi nichithe isikhathi sakho esiningi ndawonye, kufaka phakathi isikhathi senu samahhala, ukuthi mhlawumbe nithathela omunye nomunye nempilo yenu ndawonye.
Kungani ungasebenzisi enye yayo kude komunye nomunye? Funda umdlalo wokuzilibazisa omusha, bhalisela amakilasi, ujoyine izinhlangano, chitha isikhathi nabangani bakho. Isikhathi enisichithe niseduze komunye nomunye sizonisiza nobabili nibheke phambili esikhathini enizosichitha ndawonye.
Uma wenza okuphambene nokho futhi ungachithi isikhathi esiningi noshade naye, khona-ke yenza isikhathi nomlingani wakho.
Hlela futhi uzibophezele ukuya ezinsukwini zobusuku (noma ngabe kwenzekani empilweni yakho, noma ukuthi uzizwa ungathi uzophuma kangakanani). Bona i-movie, yiba nepikiniki epaki, udle isidlo sakusihlwa endlini noma wenze lokho okwenziwa izinkulungwane zeminyaka njengamanje 'i-Netflix ne-chill,' okusho ukuthi, hlalani ekhaya nibukele ama-movie endlini ngenkathi nobabili niphumula futhi nijabulelana!
Akunandaba ukuthi yini umsebenzi, inqobo nje uma uchitha isikhathi nomlingani wakho-akukho ukuphazamiseka okuvunyelwe futhi uqiniseke ukuthi ugxila kulokho okuthola kukuheha koshade naye. Ngokuphazima kweso, uzoqala ukuqaphela leyo mizwa ikhula ibe ukukhanga kocansi futhi ngaphambi kokuthi wazi, uzoba ocansini kakhudlwana.
3. Thumela ukuqinisa
Ngabe uke wazama ukwethula noma ukwengeza kabusha izithuthukisi zobumnandi egumbini lokulala, njengamathoyizi?
Mhlawumbe uke wazungeza ngomqondo wokusebenzisa amadivayisi anjalo phambilini noma usuvele wazama futhi wabona ukuthi kukusize kangakanani wena nomlingani wakho ukungena kuleso simo sokuthanda kakhulu.
Ukuba nogazi ekamelweni lokulala kungakusiza ukuthi ubonakale ukhanga ngokwengeziwe ngokobulili futhi ukhululeke ekuvezeni izifiso zakho zocansi kungakhuthaza nomlingani wakho ukuthi akhululeke kakhudlwana ngezabo, futhi kuzothuthukisa ukwethembana nokusondelana emshadweni wakho.
4. Yidla
Imfihlo yesine yokuthi ungahlanganyela kanjani ocansini emshadweni wakho ilele ekudleni! Jabulela ukudla nomlingani wakho - ukudla okuqukethe ama-aphrodisiacs.
Ama-Aphrodisiacs noma yikuphi ukudla noma izinto ezandisa izifiso zocansi. Phakathi kwezinto ezithandwa kakhulu futhi ezifinyeleleka kalula kula ma-aphrodisiac kukhona ushokoledi omnyama newayini.
Yiba nobusuku bosuku bese ubeka lokhu kumenyu. Akukona nje kuphela ukuthi lokhu kudla kuzokukwenza uzizwe kahle, kodwa futhi kukuhle ekukwenzeni uthandeke ngokwengeziwe ocansini.
5. Khuluma ulimi lwabo
Vula umlingani wakho ngokuzama ukukhuluma ulimi lwabo.
UGary Chapman, umbhali wezilimi ezidumile ze- ‘5 Love Languages,’ uthi ukukhuluma nomunye wakho obalulekile akugcini ngokubandakanya amagama kepha kunalokho, ezinye izindlela ezahlukahlukene zithumela imiyalezo ephezulu kulowo oshade naye.
Uma uqonda ukuthi oshade naye uxhumana kanjani, nawe ungenza okufanayo kubo, okuzonenza nisondelane futhi kusize ukusondelana.
Kubalulekile ukwazi ukuthi umlingani wakho uxhumana kanjani nawe.
Nazi ezinye zezindlela ezijwayelekile futhi ezivame ukunganakwa oshade naye angaxhumana nawe kuwe:
- Amagama okuvuma
- Izenzo zenkonzo
- Ukunikeza izipho
- Ukuchitha isikhathi sekhwalithi nawe
- Ukuthinta ngokomzimba.
Oshade naye uzokhuluma nawe ngezocansi ngezindlela ezahlukahlukene - uma ufunda ukuthi bakhulumisana kanjani ekamelweni lokulala kuzokusiza ukuthi ukhange ngokwengeziwe ocansini emshadweni wakho.
6. Yiba Nenkuthalo
Ukuvivinya umzimba kungasiza ukukhulisa i-libido, injabulo yezocansi, nokwaneliseka.
Isayensi engemuva kwayo ukuthi ukuzivocavoca umzimba kusiza ekwandiseni ukugeleza kwegazi emzimbeni wonke. Ngaphezu kwalokho, ukuzivocavoca umzimba kukhulisa amazinga e-hormonal afana ne-testosterone, i-hormone ebhekele ukukhuphula i-sex drive yakho noma i-libido.
Kuliqiniso elingephikwe ukuthi uma usuzuzile izinzuzo zokuzivocavoca umlingani wakho uzokuthola uheha ngokwengeziwe ocansini ngaleyo ndlela wandise amathuba okuthola ucansi oluthe xaxa.
Kunesizathu sokuthi kungani bethi ‘imibhangqwana ezivocavoca umzimba ndawonye, hlala ndawonye.’