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- Ukulwela ukulinganisela ukuzimela nokuba yingxenye yombhangqwana
- Uzwela
- Ukuxhumana kokulindelwe
- Ukubambisana
I-US izwe elakhelwe emigomeni yokuzimela nokuzimela.
Abantu abaningi baseMelika baqala ukuthola ukuzimela futhi baphishekela imisebenzi yomuntu ngamunye ngaphambi kokulandela ubudlelwane bezothando. Ukuphishekela ukuzimela kuthatha isikhathi nesineke.
Manje kunanini ngaphambili abantu balinde isikhathi eside ukuba "bazinze."
Ngokwe-US Census Bureau, isilinganiso seminyaka yobudala bomshado kwabesifazane ngo-2017 sasingu-27.4, kanti kwabesilisa sasingu-29.5. Izibalo zisho ukuthi abantu bachitha isikhathi esiningi besakha imisebenzi noma benza ezinye izinto abazithandayo kunokushada.
Ukulwela ukulinganisela ukuzimela nokuba yingxenye yombhangqwana
Njengoba kunikezwe iqiniso lokuthi abantu balinde isikhathi eside ukuze bangene ebudlelwaneni obubucayi, akumangazi ukuthi abantu abaningi babonakala bewela phansi lapho befunda ukukala ukuzimela kwabo nokuba yingxenye yabashadikazi.
Emibhangqwaneni eminingi, ukushintsha ukucabanga kokucabanga ngami “kube” kungaba yinselelo enkulu.
Ngisanda kusebenza nezithandani ezithembisene, zombili eminyakeni engamashumi amathathu ubudala lapho le nselele idlale khona kaningi ebudlelwaneni babo. Esinye sezigameko ezinje ngesinqumo sakhe sokuyophuza nabangane bakhe kusihlwa lapho bethuthela eflethini elisha bamshiya eqala inqubo enzima yokukhipha impahla yedwa.
Kamuva kusihlwa kwadingeka amncelise ekudakweni kwakhe kobudakwa.
Esikhathini sethu, ubekhuluma ngaye njengomuntu onobugovu futhi ongacabangeli ngenkathi exolisa ngokuphuza kakhulu, kepha wehluleka ukubona ukuthi kungani ecasuke kangaka ngokuphuma nabangani bakhe ngalobo busuku.
Ngokombono wakhe, ubesebenzise le minyaka engama-30 edlule enza lokho kanye ayefuna ukukwenza nokho ayefuna ukukwenza. Wayengakaze abonane nesidingo sokucabanga ngomlingani wakhe nokuthi angazizwa kanjani ngenxa yezinqumo azenza.
Ngokombono wakhe, wazizwa engabalulekile futhi wakutolika ukuziphatha kwakhe okusho ukuthi wayengamazisi noma echitha isikhathi sakhe impilo yabo ndawonye. Umbuzo waba ngukuthi bangafunda kanjani ukuphatha ushintsho lwabo kusuka kumqondo othi "mina" kuye kokuthi "thina" kepha bagcine umuzwa wobuntu?
Le yinkinga ejwayelekile emibhangqwaneni eminingi, futhi ngenhlanhla kunamakhono ambalwa angafundwa ukulwa nale nselele.
Uzwela
Elinye lamakhono abaluleke kakhulu ukuba nekhono kunoma yibuphi ubuhlobo yikhono lozwela.
Uzwela yikhono lokuqonda nokwabelana ngemizwa yomunye umuntu. Le yinto engihlala ngiyisebenza nemibhangqwana. Ukuzwela kuzwakala kulula kepha kungaba yinselele kubantu abaningi.
Lapho ukuprakthiza nomlingani wakho, zinike isikhathi sokulalela ngenkuthalo futhi uqonde abakushoyo ngaphambi kokuphendula. Yima uzicabange usezicathulweni zabo, futhi unake imizwa evelayo.
Lokhu kuzokunikeza umbono wokuthi umlingani wakho angavelaphi. Uma ungakwazi ukuqonda, chazela umlingani wakho ukuthi unenkinga yokuqonda ukuthi bazizwa kanjani, bese ucela ukucaciselwa.
Umkhuba wozwela uyaqhubeka futhi uhilela ukucabanga njalo ngomlingani wakho nokuzama ukucabangela lokho okuhlangenwe nakho kwabo.
Ukuxhumana kokulindelwe
Elinye ikhono eliwusizo lokulwazi ukuxhumana nomlingani wakho okulindele.
Lesi senzo esilula futhi siyasiza ekungeneni emiqondweni “thina”.
Ukube iklayenti elingenhla belivele lazise isoka lalo ukuthi linethemba lokuthi lizofuna ukuchitha ubusuku balo bokuqala efulethini elisha ndawonye ngoba lifuna ukwazisa isikhathi esibe nalo, bekungavula umnyango ukuze limcabangele ufuna kanye nezidingo.
Uma sinokuqonda okulindelwe nguzakwethu, kusiholela ekucabangeni ngezindlela ezahlukahlukene zokuhlangabezana nalezi zidingo futhi sizigcine ziphambili ebuchosheni.
Abantu ababona abafundi abanomqondo, futhi ngaphandle kokuthi sitshele ozakwethu lokho esikufisayo, asinakulindela ukuthi ngandlela thile bazi ukuthi sifuna benze okuthile.
Ukubambisana
Enye indlela enhle yokuqala ukucabanga ngokuthi "thina" ukwenza iphrojekthi ndawonye ebandakanya ukusebenzisana njengokupheka ukudla, ukwakha okuthile, noma ukuxazulula inkinga.
Lezi zinhlobo zemisebenzi azigcini ngokwakha ukwethembana kepha zikuphonsela inselelo yokuncika kumlingani wakho ukuze akusekele ngenkathi uzulazula ngezindlela zomunye nomunye zokusondela kumaphrojekthi nokwakha eyakho indlela ndawonye.
Njengombhangqwana, nibambisene futhi kufanele nizibheke njengeqembu.
Eqinisweni, ukuba nguzakwethu nokuba nozakwabo ozonamathela kuwe noma ngabe yini enye yezinzuzo ezinkulu zokuba "thina" esikhundleni sokuba "yimina."
Ngakho-ke qiniseka ukwehlisa ukuqapha kwakho, uthembe umlingani wakho ukuthi angazwelana nawe, acele okudingayo, ujwayele ukubambisana njalo, futhi ukujabulele ukuba "thina".